Surrogate Mothers

[mommiKat]

My aunt made a joke,  that she would pay me to have her baby for her,  since she can't have babies. & we laughed, but then I thought about it. People pay a lot of money to have a baby.  & plus I would be doing a good deed. But, I have 3 kids & i am getting ny tubes tied. I've made that descision. But would YOU be a surrogate mother? If so why, or why not.

[GeekMom1213]

I'm actually pretty sure you can be a surrogate even after having your tubes tied. It doesn't stop your body from producing hormones, it doesn't do any damage to your uterus, everything is still intact except the pathway for your eggs... but if you're doing a gestational surrogacy you wouldn't be using your own eggs anyway, right? And even with a traditional surrogacy the eggs are harvested straight from your ovaries and don't need to travel through your tubes, because they get put in a petri dish with the donor sperm to fertilize and then are placed in the uterus to implant... so fallopian tubes aren't a part of the process at all. Something to look into, mommiKat!

I plan to further research surrogacy and plan to carry out one or two after I have my next baby and complete my family. We will be happy with two children and my partner is planning on a vasectomy once I have that healthy baby in my arms, but my body is still strong enough to carry and I adore being pregnant. I would love to make that selfless decision to help another couple to have a child of their own and experience the love and work and strife and joy of parenting.

[alishamarie406]

I don't think I'd be able to do it becoz I'd get attached to the baby.

[mommiKat]

I think its a little different knowing its not your baby,why you are doing it, & who you're doing it for.  Plus, I'm sure the real mother would be involved in pretty much all of the pregnancy & give u what u need in order to make sure her baby is healthy. But then again I've never done it, so wouldn't know

[alishamarie406]

I don't think I'd be able to do it becoz I'd get attached to the baby.

[mommiKat]

That's awesome guys.  Im thinking about asking her if she was really serious before I tie my tubes. I would do it for her.

[hobojo]

Ive thought a lot about this! I know so many people that cant have children it breaks my heart cause i have three, and were starting to think my sister wont be able to have children. I would love to help someone whos desperate for a baby of their own. But its such a difficult decision knowing the baby wouldnt be mine i dont think id have a problem giving it to its real parents, but carrying someone elses baby for 9 months,.. i hate being pg and ive done it 3 times!! Im only 21 so a little young, but im still thinking of doing this in the future. Definitely if my sister wants me to have one for her.

[kiwi6511]

I definitely would! Its such a gift to be able to give back to someone who can't have what you have, however I saw on the news that people are getting surrogates just because they don't wany to mess up their body. I wouldn't do it for someone like that because if you aren't willing to sacrifice your body for a baby then what would you sacrifice for him or her. But someone who wants to and can't for whatever reason, I would :)

[hazel413]

I dont think i could carry baby n give it away. But egg donor.......
I could be bought.

[brit333]

I know a lady who's daughter in law was just a surrogate. She already had 3 boys and was pendant with a girl. It certainly is a lot to take on and you have to make sure your emotions are in the right place with it. If you feel like it's something you would want to do I'm sure your aunt would be eternally grateful to you. It's a very selfless thing to do for someone. And of course there would always be a bond but that's why your heart would have to be in the right place from the beginning knowing that it wasn't your baby.

[mommiKat]

@calico236 that is so special :) & beautiful

I feel like I would get attached too, being that I am a mother of 3, but I also think that's to be expected. After the baby is born,  I believe there would still be a bond between us & I'd always love the baby & be in his/her life. I know its not my baby,  but the bond would still be there.

[calico236]

I was going to be a surrogate for my sister since she couldn't have children.  Because I loved her and knew how badly she wanted a little one. Sadly she passed away almost 2 years ago. But if I'm having a baby girl she will carry my sisters name!

[kjohana011]

There was a case about that.  A mother gave birth to her granddaughter for her daughter.  I will do it because it's a good deed and you know that your making a couple happy

[oviana]

I couldn't,  I would get attached to the baby