Telling Your Mom

[BabyMeyer15]

Im only 17 and 11 weeks pregnant. I havent told my mom because im so scared she'll hate me but i feel like this baby is one of the best things to ever happen to me. How does anyone think she'll react when i tell her? I wanted to tell her tonight.

[SaraaaBMendivil]

Pregnancy is a beautiful thing no matter what age these people are just haters there bored and pregnant and just want to b in someones ear you'll b fine honestly u just haveto come right out and say it your a mommy now and theres nothing your mom can really do about it im sure she will b upset because my mom always told me she kick my.*** but when i told her she asked what i.wanted to do and shes been supportive cause it happen and theres nothing she can do but b here for you good luck and congratulations

[sarabrenda]

Be happy this is your life and you can live it the way you Want im 20 8 weeks along with my first when i took home pregnancy test found out i was upset at myself scared and worried i told my mom the same night she comforted me and told me she understands just wants to be there for me.I honestly was surprised i imagined her being angry and disappointed. Whatever happens between you and her be happy

[rod3]

You should take in all the advice people have been telling you even the ones you deemed negative. Most of them are coming from woman who are moms so it can prepare you to what to expect when telling your mom

[1stTimeMommy23]

Hi hun. I'm 22 yrs old 18 wks pregnant, I left my parents house about a year ago live out of state and been doing this on my own. Like you I worked since I was 13 or 14 so I'm pretty indepandant, but you have to remember a mother is still a mother and unfortunately shes probably going to be upset. I just told my mom last week on Tuesday and she's still not talking to me like she used to. Its changed our relationship but it can't change the fact that im pregnant. Just be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. Be strong for u and your little one, ur not the first teen mom out there ;) good luck sweetie I hope yours is more understanding than mine :)

[wayfunmommy]

I was a teen mom (19)  and I was scared to death to tell my mom. She was mad at first but came to accept it and calls my son her saving grace. That boy is 16 now. I'd be very upset if he, or any of my kids) came to me saying they were expecting a baby. As moms, we have dreams for our kids. We want you to be better than we were. We want you to have more than we had. We want you to go to college, live your dreams, have successful careers, travel the world, have amazing romances and then start families.
When teenagers get pregnant, all we as parents can think about are the things you won't be able to do and the struggles you'll have now. Those emotions are going to flood through your mom. She'll be upset. She'll  mourn those dreams she had for you. She's going to be worried about how you'll get by and support your baby. But then, she'll accept it. She loves you and she'll love your baby. Have a plan. Finish school. Work out a way, with your mom involved, for how to raise your baby.

[sarahkeiter5313]

I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant. I'm 18 now. Pregnancy and having a child of your own is hard as hell. Almost every teenager has sex. Some of them get pregnant. I sat my mom down and told her that I knew she'd be disappointed but I was pregnant. I also am out of school working full time. You are going to be hard enough on yourself and you don't need the negativity from everyone else. Dont let it get to you. You know you'll be a great mom that is all that matters. My mother was disappointed but at the same time she now is a grandmother. Suprisingly enough my mother has been 100% supportive. Let your parents know. Its better to get it out in the open. They are goi ng to find out soon enough. And if your friends or parentsfriends say anything negative tell them if you are going to be negative to me now while I'm pregnant then you ddon't have to be in my life whenI have this baby . To anyone that says you cant do it they don't know what it is like in your shoes. You are the mother you are the one providing for your child. Teen mothers can be just as responsible or irresponsible as any other age. Tell your mom. Sooner is better than later. And its great to have her as your support system. My mom was glad that I told her and she's went to all my ultrasounds and appointments with me along side of my fiance. Its also great to have her for all the weird questions your going to have about your body changes amd trust me you'll have several. Good luck girl.

[EmilyDelaney]

IGNORE ALL THEM LOWLIVES!! Just tell her hunnie she'll find out one way or another, I'm 19 and I'm 34 weeks and your honestly just better off getting it over with you'll feel a lot better! You'll be able to cope 100% and when the baby's older at least we'll be able to relate to them easier ;) ignore all the negativity their all only stuck up *** holes!! Head up chicken and once you and your baba is happy its all that matters! Everything happens for a reason and baby's are a blessing no matter what age :) <3

[Mia_Van]

Im 22. My grandmother was disappointed, her first reaction was "oh great. So much for school." But I know she still loves me. And even without her full support, there are other people I know who support me. Im sure you have people who will be there for you even if your mom is upset. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders and I think you can handle this.

[MommyNDaddyLoveYou52215]

P.s remember to finish school to i finish school early n got my high school diploma n ill b going to college next yr to b a RN.

[MommyNDaddyLoveYou52215]

Know what girl who cares what people think long as u can take care of ur baby then thats all that matters im 16 yrs old n my baby is do March 22 ,2015 my husband is 18 n the close part of my family disowns me cuz i didnt get a abortion
So they kicked me out n said they dont want nothing to do with me n my baby n know what im not going to lie yes it did hurt me at the time cuz they said bad things about my baby but now when they try to ask about the baby i dont even answer them cuz why should they care now when they didnt even care at the beginning. It might sound rude but its the truth everything they said n did to me made me stronger n made my family stonger . me n the father got married n r living our life happy without the negative he's a great guy he supports me n the baby he works for the federal perion n so we r getting deployed cuz hes in the Army. But whatever happens when u tell ur family remember that no one can take away ur baby n the love that u have for it.

[SerenityAnnBray]

I'm 17 and 35 weeks pregnant. I lost my mother a year ago and I don't really speak to my father. My aunt took care of me after my mother passed. She was in the bathroom with me when I found out. She cried but knew I'd be a damn good mom. I grew up at a young age also and am very mature for my age. Before I found out I was pregnant I didn't want to live anymore. Losing my mother who was the only person I really cared about and who I breathed for killed me. But when I found out I was pregnant I found a new reason to live. My soon to be daughter saved my life. I am still with the father and he is doing more than enough to support me and our child. When he found out he was nervous but wanted to be there for me and my child. I am working on getting my diploma. Just because you're young it doesn't mean this is the end of your life. So screw what anyone has to say who hasn't been in your shoes. Just be honest with your parents. I know if my mom was here she wouldn't be so disappointed but more worried for my future. But she'd see that everything would be fine. And she'd be more than happy that she was a grand parent..!

[DestinyFTM]

It's your life. Tell your mommy . Make plans. Nobody is perfect and things happen. If you have faith that you could do then you can. You could still have fun enjoying your life school etc.  There are programs and everything. Good luck and Congrats.

[headup_singlemom]

You might be shocked by her reaction. I got pregnant at 17 with my daughter and my mom was disappointed but at the same time happy cause it was her first grandchild. I take care of my daughter on my own never asked her for anything. And she is very supportive and helps me so much and encourages me

[BabyMeyer15]

Thank you to those who understand. I thank you for being supportive. but to the ones that think I'm not mature enough or old enough to have a baby please keep it to yourself. Age does not matter. I had to grow up a long time ago so dont think i haven't. Ill be 18 in 4 months to those who think im still a teen. I wasnt the teenager who went to parties and did things normal teenagers do. I worked. And still do. I graduated a year and a half ago. I already have my CNA and let me remind you im only 17. You guys really shouldnt judge me or any other teenager.

[Sweptaway87]

I'm 23 year old and have been married almost 5 years now. just graduated respiratory school in May. And when I told my parents they were mad. My mom told me she didnt want anything to do with me. I'm 8 weeks today,she is slowly getting over it. So dont worry to much about it.... good luck! ;)

[braishel]

I was 19 when i got pregnant. I had my son February 2014. Now I'm expecting again May 2015. I run a daycare and i own my house . I graduated high school at the age of 16. Just cause your young won't mean you won't make it. Anything is possible when you put you mind to it. I own my own house.  I got more then most women in their late 20s and up

[braishel]

Whether you call it tough love or not you have a son to worry about. In less then one year she is considered a legal adult she is not 13_14 and pregnant. She asked your opinion on whether she should tell her mom. Not where her Childs father is or if he's working. Nor did she ask  anybodys opinion on her age. She just informed it there is a difference. Just be women and mothers and treat her like a mother & and a grown woman.  Yea she pregnant but who told y'all when and where to have one. Cause if everyones opinions on age and motherhood matter then there would be  a law on what age you can have a child but there isn't one so the age opinions are irrelevant. What makes a mother isn't what age you have a baby,  but how you take care of and raise your child. LOVE has no age limit.and as for half of you either you were a teen parent or your parents were. Sweety tell your mom either she will accept it or she won't. Whether your mom is happy or not it won't change the mother you will become congrats. And love your baby to the fullist.

[kynleeK]

I was 20 and not with my boyfriend very long when I got pregnant but I was in college and living on my own and my parents still flipped because they wanted to see me do more with my life but I assured them I would go back to college.  . Expect negativity for around 2 weeks after that she will be used to the idea and start looking forward to the baby.  . I'm 30 weeks now and even my dad is super excited.  . Keep your head up you'll be fine and good luck with it all x

[simplycynthia]

If these people haven't been in your shoes before ignore them. I somewhat understand your situation, but I got pregnant at 19. Of course we're nervous to tell our parents but I mean they're going to find out sooner or later. I myself didn't tell them, my boyfriend told them. And we'll yeah they got very upset and all that but now their Excited to be grandparents! So I mean just let them know as soon as possible, the more you wait the more they'll be disappointed that you kept that from them. Everything will be fine at the end of the day :) goodluck

[Lennyxo]

I'm 18. due next month , got pregnant at 17 too. And my parents were upset aswell; I've worked sense I was 15 and helped with all the bills sense then and it's been toughfer then I thought. Luckily my boyfriend works but it's been a stressful road. Goodluck (: and I'm sure your parents will understand eventually . This baby has changed me completely for the good and I'm actually doing better than I was before ,

[AmandaR19]

Me being a young mom at 16 I can relate to you. Im 19 now but When I was 16 I was mature still going to school and living with my parents. first off I personally HATE WITH A PATION when people say "if you can lay down and have sex you should be able to do this or that" like just shut up it happened and now all you can do is do your best to be the best mom which I did and I'm sure you will too. Jus sit your mom down and say "mom I didn't mean to hurt you what's done is done I'm pregnant and I hope it don't change nothing between us I want you to stay by my side and encourage me." Good luck and congrats you'll do jus fine!!

[JulieKuhnert]

Tough love isn't negativity. Life isn't always sunshine and rainbows. I told her to tell her mom, she needs to understand that she is still a baby, so will be a baby raising a baby. Of course it can be expected her mom will get upset. Helping out with groceries and bills isn't even in the same ballpark as raising a child as a teen. I just don't understand why teens can't wait to have sex.  They claim to be grown and have sex, but then when they end up pregnant they're scared to tell their parents. If you're an adult as you seem to think at 17, then telling your parents you're expecting should be a happy time.  When I told my mom I was pregnant She was so excited, we went to babies r us the same day and looked at all the baby stuff. My mom was happy I was making her a grandma again.

[domingoleigh]

just ignore all the negativity everyone has to say my dear. you obviously know what u got urself into and u dont need any one to tell u that. your only 17 but now you have to grow up faster then u expected.. tell your mom. yes she might be upset but my all means if u  fill like u can support ur baby then go for it. dont let nobody bring u down. good luck and take care of ur little one.

[Skye520]

Well, I think your parents would be disappointed at first. Eventually they will accept the facts especially after baby is born. Trust me, even I was 29 when I had my first baby, it would still be very nice to have my parents helping me around the house. Taking care of the baby requires lots of energy and money. I think it would be even harder for a teen mom. What is done is done, think positive. All parents love their kids no matter what happened.