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[taylor0908]

I have a son who will be 10 months on the 8th I am 12 weeks pregnant. I was wondering if anyone has any advice for making sure my son doesn't feel neglected or left out when the bbaby is born. I also don't feel connected to this baby at all. I don't even want this baby and I was wondering if this has happened to anyone else and what they did to get through these emotions. I love my son so much and I just can't see myself loving anyone else as much as I love him.

[lguzmom]

My two boys are 15 months apart. I wasn't happy when I got pregnant with number two. My oldest was only 6 months old and it was unexpected. It took me until I could feel him kicking to be happy about it. I adored him the minute I saw him. I had the same thoughts though because I loved my first so much. I love them both though and can't imagine life without either if them. Hang in there! You'll be fine. :)

[yuna86]

My youngest is 7 month old and I am 16 week pregnant, my two oldest was this close too...and I felt exactly the same as you do, I bet you feel riddled with guilt and feel a terrible mother?? But dont. Its very normal and believe me, when baby comes all will fall together into place and you will love your babies equally! Also try not to think of this being a negative to your lo, you are carrying there new best friend! Yes they will have there squabbles but the love they will have for each other is worth the while..try not to over think things,it will all work out in the end x

[xoAmbsss]

I know tons of girls that have felt that way , including myself its honestly a scary feeling but in time it will all come together you'll see :)

[Lyssbliss3]

I agree with the others, don't listen to that first comment! I went through the same thing. I had my boys very close together (unexpectedly) and when I found out I was pregnant with my second I wasn't connected with him like I was my first. Once I had him though it was love at first sight. Sounds like you may have some post partum, and your hormones are probably going crazy (I know mine were), so just hang in there and know that you will eventually feel that same bond as with your first. What you're going through is very normal and don't be afraid to talk to someone about it! As for your son just show him as much attention as you can and try to get him excited for baby. Good luck!

[juwelzzz]

Sweetie, there is no reason at all to be concerned. You barely had enough time for your hormones to balance out before they went out of whack again with your pregnancies being so close together. You are probably suffering from a little bit of post partum depression, which is very common! Give yourself some time to adjust, find somebody that you can talk to about what you are feeling. My sister suffered from depression for almost a year after her second was born. So just know that you are not the only one and what you're feeling is totally OK!

[fefe1900]

y are you judging her,  just take it one step at a time your being honest its probably due to the fact that ur overwhelmed right now...

[blanca_13]

^ don't listen to her.
That's totally normal to feel that way. It's probably because realization hasn't hit yet but just give it time, that's the beat thing you can do.
I say so cause my aunt just had a baby and I was like "do you love him a lot" (curiosity cause I'm pregnant) and she was like "I do love him, but with time I know I'll love him even more, the same way I love the rest of my kids"
So yeah I just think it takes time :)

[Lovingbaby12]

Uhhh the baby your carrying is your child has well its not just a random person the baby inside you is just has much has your child has the one outside of the womb