crazy ex

[Annac13]

My ex is emotionally abusive towards me and now that I cut him out of my life totally I'm afraid he is going to become physical. I'm due in 3 months and he wants to be in my daughters life. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't want him to be like that towards my daughter and as long as he's in her life he will be in my life. I'm scared not only for me bit for my daughter as well. What should I do?

[mw89]

You need to start writing things down. And saving txt msgs they look at that stuff in court. If at all possible txt so you can have the screen shots of that.
I was in an abusive relationship. With my two older kids and my daughter saw a lot of it. And to this day her being almost 6 doesnt like him near me. They remember that stuff. Dont put your baby in that situation. You were right to cut him off. Just get the proof of the mental abuse.

[Shanna109]

Hi. Just read your post. Well let me tell you about my abusive ex. We had been together for 8 yrs on and off. I slept with some one else and got pregnant. All before he used to jump on me all the the time and one time he sent me to the hospital. But when I slept with the other person we were not together. He came back and he found out I was pregnant he treated me like some one. But of course he started all over again. This to no matter what he says. If you let him do it once he will always do it. It had got to the point where DCF got involved. I had to choose, my kids or him. So of course no man comes before my kids. HISTORY HISTORY he is gone. Get out while you have a chance he is not going to change..... thank God for my new husband.

[kj_skibum]

Google your local Womens Crisis Center and get connected with local resources and help to create a Safety Plan for you and your child. Do you have to put his name on birth certificate? Maybe stating that you do not know who the babies father is will buy you time.

If you don't want him in your life and the babies life, I would not try to get any child support from him....

[Annac13]

Thank you everyone. I really appreciate the advice!!

[Destynee2015]

If ur concerned about ur safety then go get a restraining order so he cant come around you. He can still see his child if he takes u to court but it will be a supervised visit. Its nvr good to separate baby from dad but if there is a safety concern you must do whats best for you and your child. Take care

[Nay6689]

speak with your midwife. The support and guidance is there.

[Wo0oT7917]

You need to do research like I know in my city there is a place where you drop off your child at this daycare kind of place and you leave and the other parent gets a SUPERVISED visit with the child you get the choice in what is off topic to talk about and they record everything.

[MrsBertrand]

That won't work, you guys were not married and he would have to pay child support an on top of that pay out of his own pocket for a lawyer for visitation rights

[kka_tmisfab78]

If you feel like his a threat to you then u should get a lawyer and take him to court but only if u notice things aren't getting better but worst. He shouldn't be putting you in that situation especially if your pregnant if he does what he does while your pregnant imagin what his capable of doing when he gets really angry. Think about your baby and yourself first why would u want a person like that in your daughters life just keep an eye out for him if you notice things are getting really bad take control of your life maybe tell him if he choses not to change his ways he won't be involved , things aren't gonna get better if you chose not to do anything and sit around and hope for the best  good luck hun

[Annac13]

My fear is if I do that he could take me to court and tell the judge I am refusing to allow him to see his daughter.

[MrsBertrand]

Listen to your gut.....I personally would leave. I left my ex but not before he sent me to the hospital....an my daughter witnessed it all.....don't feel bad about keeping him out of her life she will be better off trust me....good luck too you hun!!!!