custody

[GiGi_6]

Has anyone been thru this ? My ex is not sane or stable and now says he wants the baby. I moved live an hour away. He has no drivers license, but a job. Since the move I had to quit my job and live with parents. I was a bank teller I have transportation, and I have everything for baby, tons of clothes, crib, toys, swing, .... And plan to Brest feed.

Just how do I win full custody of baby. Due March 31st.

[GiGi_6]

Thx all, I'm in Colorado and there are hard parental rights laws, and I have saved every message between him and I , I can prove he's not sane, and stable. He told me yesterday he is unemployed now. So I'm not so worried any more. I'm going to stick with my gut and name baby what I pick, and maybe just maybe I'll inform him I've given birth. Hopefully he'll just take off and move out of state like he's said before

[bcmtuk]

Get your legal advice and do anything thing you can to prepare but honestly don't worry yourself too much they're not going to take a newborn away from its mother.  It's probably an empty threat to get to you,  I doubt he'll even bother once he realises the responsibility & hard work invovled with bringing children up.

[DJRob17]

I don't know where you live but I'm in Australia. I was advised by my solicitor that under no circumstances would a judge here award full custody to a father (unless the mother is completely unfit) to a new born 1) of your breastfeeding feeding they take that into full account and 2) the baby should not spend extended periods of time away from the primary parent for the 1st 5 years of its life as it can cause attachment issues in the future for the child. There's a heap of other reasons but these were the main 2. Go and seek legal advise straight away as to where you stand

[ribaby15]

I'll be following this as I have a feeling I'll be in your boat soon enough. I'm only 9wks, with a baby we were trying for, and he's left me for his ex. had f*cked with my head royally. I think he seriously needs help.
Who talks romantically with their ex and still tries to knock their fiancé up? that's messed.
I live in Canada, but I seriously don't feel comfortable giving him a newborn for X amount of time until he talks to someone. he's messed in the head.

[Sass508]

This sounds terrible but also, try to make sure he doesn't sign the birth certificate.

[m_r_p]

They usually give custody to the mother unless there's a reason as to why she's not fit to raise the child. My guess is it'll be joint custody unless it can be proven that he's not sane. Seeing as he has medical issues they will probably take that into consideration. I've never  been through a custody battle but my mom did with my and my siblings and my best friend did recently with her ex. Joint custody was given for both. My dad is bipolar and we still had to go see him..just not very often because he lived 3 states away. My best friend has her boys all but two weekends a month. Her ex doesn't have any medical issues though..

I don't know how it works for newborns and infants. If you're planning on breastfeeding I would find it hard to believe that they would let him have the baby for that long.

Good luck to you. I hope it works out for you.

[GiGi_6]

Thx. He said he's been to therapists and was deemed borderline Schizophrenic, bipolar and depressed. I dint think he goes any more or takes meds. So I'm still not sure.

[danyell818]

File the paperwork for custody and let them know he is not sane. He may be awarded visitation which is common but if he really isn't sane the. Express why and they will have a evaluation done and maybe recommend supervised visits. Good luck