husband is being a jerk rant!

[Katiepeters]

My husband is in the military. He has been gone since I was 15 weeks. He had only been to two doc appointments. Today I'm 37 weeks he won't be home till our little girl is two weeks. We were supposed to Skype the birth......today I found out he volunteered to do a field exercise on my due date. I asked why he would do that and he said I could just record the birth and he would watch it later! Then got mad when I told him our hospital won't allow recording..... he flipped and we got into a huge fight and it ended with me crying and hanging up on him......am I being hormonal wanting him to be there( at least in Skype)? Or is. He being a jerk?

[lilpianogirl85]

In not a military wife so I can't understand what you are going through. You are definitely justified in your feelings. But if it were the other way around I think for me it would be so hard not being able to be there for the birth that skyping during the delivery might making it worse.  So maybe volunteering to work might make it easier on him because he is already missing so much. I know that doesn't justify anything and you are definitely getting the sorry end of the stick but try to understand he might be really devastated that he can't make it. But he might not be, I would calm down and then have a conversation with him. Good luck mama

[dWelch2]

Maybe instead of a field exercise....someone is trying to take leave?

[terrellsmom15]

You might have over reacted a little bit due to the fact your hormonal, although you had enough reason too!! just take some time to think about it. I understand that your probally feeling alone already because he cant actually be here, and was very excited he would still see it on skype. Watching your child be born (in the moment) is something no parent should want to miss out on!!!

[Jadabug55]

No you didn't overreact. I mean I can see how the job is important but he could have just not volunteer and been there instead.  I would be extremely pissed. I don't know if I am a good person to ask cause I'm hormonal rn too.

[shynjahmya]

U didn't overreact. ... he should of stuck with da plan

[Babycramer]

My husband is ex Army and I can tell you his is over the moon excited we are pregnant. That being said, if he was still an enlisted solider I can guarantee he would be doing the same thing. You know this as a military spouse and I'm sure if you weren't pregnant it would have upset you as much. He has already dealt with the fact that he isn't going to be there in person so what's the difference if he sees it on Skype or taped. I would contact the hospital administrators and asked for an exception to their rule. You never know you might find someone who understands military life. Just ask is it going to matter in a year that he didn't see it? He isn't going to love you or the baby any less! Hang in there!! It's not an easy job you are doing either!

[shayshaylove3]

U didn't over react at all. Family Should Come first no matter what the job is. And if it's volunteering that would irritate me even more!

[sasha_swtheart]

The fact that he volunteered for the excercise is not cool. Ive been a military wife for 13 years so I know how it is. Ive been through countless deployments,ntc, jrotc, school and late nights at the job. MANY times the family is put on the back burner. Being available when possible for your pregnant wife shows consideration and love. I would be hurt too. You are entitled to your feelings, but make up with your hubby. Military marriages are hard enough as it is.

[cupcakeeatszombie]

Nah chicka. You didnt over react I would be livid knowing my hubby VOLUNTEERED especially on the due date regardless if thats the exact day. Yes hes a military man but thats his child. Theres only so much field exercises you can repeat. So I dont think your overreacting.

[red84angel]

The job comes first. Most women don't give birth in their due date anyway. The fact that skype during the birth is even an option is amazing. Most military wives don't get that option. I think you overreacted. Oh, and I've been a military wife for a total of about 8 years.

[sasha_swtheart]

Sounds like he is putting the job before you and the baby. Sorry about that. I would be upset as well. Especially since he is gone.