Why are you perpetuating this drama in your life? Shut it down. Stop giving him money, stop going to his abusive and toxic parents house. You're a mom now, it's time for you to be the mature one in this farce of a "relationship" with this boy. It's clear that he is a complete loser and you're on your own with raising this baby. So be it. Be the bigger person and don't go over there, don't go chasing after him like a puppy dog, just be a mom to your kid and leave the boy to find his own money. You already know that going over there confronting him is just going to cause a scene, so don't do it. Don't give him any more money. Tell him to grow up. And stop expecting this guy to ever become something he's not. Unfortunately you picked the wrong guy to have a baby with. It's time for you to accept the fact that you're on your own with this parenting thing and move on with your life.
You can't make anyone do anything they don't want to. If you're at the did stamp office clearly you need your money more than he does. No judgment I'd love to have some lol. In a serious note I've been in worse situations and I've come to realize it's all about the baby that's where you put your focus. Count your losses and move forward it's not worth the headache and disappoint please live and learn I wish I would have listened. No calling or going by just take care of you and your child and ignore him when he does call unless it's too see the baby nothing else...
Yea i dont intend on going back over there with her for quite awhile if at all. If he wants to see us hes gunna have to come over here. I dont want my baby around that, i know personaly how it affects someone....
That doesn't sound like a safe situation for your child to be around. I would just stop communication and have him come to you and admit what he's done wrong. Maybe when he realizes that your pulling away he will change.
If he even started to id be gone... i grew up around my mom getting abused by my step dad so it kinda hit home today... yea the worst part is what happened today n he wouldnt do anything. He said he didnt wanna make it worse.... i dont beleive he would hurt me hes never been violent but ill keep it in mind
My auntie use to get hurt by her husband...the kids wittnessed it and she left coz she didnt want her boys growing up seeing that coz eventually they would become emotionless towards it and then do it themselves. Be careful. For me, the thing that stuck out the most from ur post is he didnt do anything about it. Take care of urself and ur baby and make sure he never hurts u or the baby. Ill keep u in my prayers hun :)
Pray for him, not being funny but it is hard to stop smoking. Just had my boy on February 15th but a year ago I prayed to God to help me stop smoking. Paying over 10 bucks a pack but couldn't stop. Shortly after asking God for help I found out I was pregnant needless to say he answered my prayers! I haven't had a smoke in 11 months and I don't miss it. Be patient but choose your battles too. Let him know that you know it's hard and you want to help him. Maybe you can offer to give up a bad habit you have and you two support each other. Good luck
Yea just stop communication for a minute. I mean why deal with foolish you just had a baby...his baby!!! He would have to starve cause I'll be damn if I give money to feed a lying loser. (sorry)