How long to do the deed...

[bsconcerned]

I am 2 weeks and 5 days post partum and never wanted it so bad in my life. My entire pregnancy it hurt to have sex (dr said he was probably hitting my cervix) so of course that brought down my sex drive and was not as good. . Needless to say that sex drive is back in full force. I obviously know dr recommends 6-8 weeks and I did have a full episiotomy and many stitches.. but honestly how soon did you do it and did you have an episiotomy? We did anal the other night and it was fine, stitches are fine and I had no pain after

[jwilliams13]

Once you stop bleeding and the pain is pretty much non-existent, then attempt it but go slow and find positions that don't put pressure on your stitches.  Good luck

[bsconcerned]

@slm39 thank you. Did it tear from sex and how soon after?

[slm39]

I had an episiotomy and one of my stitches burst and it was AGONY. Blood everywhere!! It took ages to heal after and a much longer recovery than if I'd let the original to heal. If I was you I'd find alternatives!

[bsconcerned]

Yeah I had an EXTREMELY rough pregnancy and terrible delivery. Somewhere between 80-100 stitches.. I haven't had pain down there in about a week. And just the fact that I feel so much better than I did pregnant has me over the roof. And my son started sleeping through the night so I'm well rested esp since I hardly slept at all pregnant

[kallman12]

It's really up to you. I was too scared with ny first and I barely ripped I didn't even need one stitch. If you think your vagina can handle it more power to you. I envy your ability to recover so fast lol I didn't have the energy at all

[bsconcerned]

I know A LOT of people who did not wait the 6 weeks, or for their appt but not with an episiotomy was the main point send concern

[bsconcerned]

Yes I know the fertility that's how my mom ended up with me but we planned on using protection for that reason

[kallman12]

You are extremely fertile after you have a baby. Healing isn't the only reason you should wait. If you think you're up for it no one can stop, you but I'd suggest waiting.to be cleared by your doctor. You could always try oral for a while?