how can he be so horrible

[acocole]

So.. Basically went to see the baby dad last night and he said he cant make me get rid its my decision but if i keep it he dont wana no anything he dont wana see any scans etc he dont want me contacting him about it he wont be at the birth doesnt ever want to see it after. Ill be completly on my own ill have no friends ill be a skanky mum on benefits in a council flat ill never be able to work again no one will help me ill ruin my life.. i think ur wrong for havin this baby ur being unfair to the child etc etc.. Its earlg days so think about it ill never change my mind so u no my side leme no when uve made ur mind up. Then he was on fone to the child he already has saying daddy loves u loads etc. This has made me feel so so so **** he really is making me feel like i cant do this :( sorry essay needes to get it out :(

[momshammah]

Am exactly going through the same thing wirh mi baby daddy but I have accepted it and I feel stronger than ever. Just to prove to him wrong am going to aim higher and achieve great things for me and mi child. I personally dont need such a loser around me. It does really hurt to hear him brag about the son he has and yet he hates the child I am carrying so much that he prefers me to abort and kill our child. Dont let your happiness depend on that guy. You dont know wat tomorrow holds so just keep strong and look for resources around u and u will make it no matter wat. Remember if others can u can too. Be positive

[MomsDoItBetter]

You can do it! Everything will be ok. Im 20 & im a single mom of a 3yr old & expecting a baby boy. Pls keep the baby & don't listen to him. Just do your part as a mom.

[Ashie8149]

I was 15 when i was pregnant with my oldest and my baby daddy was the same way. Said a lot of the same stuff (he also had a kid already that he was involved with) and he actually got me to believe that maybe there was some truth in what he said...it wasnt fair to the baby and i wasnt set in my life how could i be a good mom? I was about 6 months pregnant when i truly considered adoption. But i couldnt do it. By 7months along i knew i wouldnt be able to live with never seeing my baby again. I kept my son and he never changed his mind. But my son and i have the strongest bond that a mother and son ever could. I look back now and dont know why i ever let it get to me. I have always been strong enough i just didnt know it then. Im now married with another son and yet another on the way and although my oldest isnt biologically my husbands he has only ever known him as daddy and my husband is adopting him. Im not going to lie ...my oldest and i have some extra bond that i dont have with my other kids because him and i made it through so much just the two of us. And i wont tell you its easy. But it is 1000% worth it. (And yes i meant to put 1000 not 100)
I wish you the best of luck but just remember his words should not influence your choice

[sagemae]

I know a few ladies that blessed a couple with a child. It was a hard decision but the best one they made, they said. If you dont feel like it will work, there are loving homes for your baby. Places where you can have it be an open adoption and can still have contact or not if you dont want.
Either way, that guy is poison for you and baby. Its hard to "give up" on baby daddy cause you want it to work but something like that needs to come from HIM and it seems he could give 2 sh**'s right now. You cant change him, only your actions. And your actions are what is best for this child. ♡

[2ndBabyDueFeb13th]

You can do it. If thats what u want, then have ur baby and start asking people and looking for programs who help single mothers on the road to success. With freebor low cost saycare while u work to provide ffor urselves. There is stuff out there. Depends on which part of the world you are from but in us, cali, they help with education, job seeking and housing and daycare . It isnt easy at all, u have to make sure u stay on top of it but if u really want it there are resources

[ireloc]

You can still go after him for child support, whether he wants to be a part of the babies life or not

[Kayy19]

I believe you can do it. Him talking bad will only make you STRONGER & want to prove to him that you can do it ! In you can always put him on Child support when the baby gets here.  Hang in there mama, You can Do It ! :)
& Congrats on your Little bundle of Joy ! :)

[KJ_Wright]

If you think its better for the baby in your situation, think about adoption. If you're okay with your situation and feel like you can do it, f*** what he says he's being a irresponsible pr**k. Don't let him get you down. You don't need him. You'll make friends and find others. There's always ways to get around. Think what's best for you and your baby. If he's acting like that, he doesn't even deserve to be involved with you two. Keep your head up hun!

[lateOctober]

Anything is possible. He's a piece of shi t . If he didn't want to man up he should of worn a condom. U can do it by yourself . u don't need anyone to accomplish your goals

[Allocate]

You can do it. Ignore him. He seems to be like an *** to me. Stay strong for you and baby and get him for child support