Surprise pregnant - will my partner come around

[kbrown101]

We are college students and just recently found out,that I'm  pregnant. We have been together 2 years now and don't live together yet. We Have taken our relationship slow but we are serious. At first, when we found he was very supportive saying we will be okay and have the baby. Then he it's like he had a change of heart and was urging me to get an abortion (because of money, school, and timing). I am not getting  and abortion because I feel like it's wrong (for me). My sister had an abortion and I saw the emotions she went through, I think I would feel terrible forever. Seriously. Finally, after a very emotional talk I thought it finally sunk in that abortion was not an option for me. So things we're starting to feel less tense. Tonight, he seemed really, really sad. I asked him why and he says we still need to talk more but he just wanted to give it a rest tonight. I'm might lose it if he asks me for an abortion, again. I don't want him to feel powerless or sad but abortion is not an option. Do they ever come around?
Ps.
My boyfriend is really the most kind hearted guy. He is such a good son and older brother to his very young brother. He is putting himself through college, like myself.i was talking birth control when we got pregnant.

[zatirarose]

He will come around...Have the baby...but you have to push now and stay in school.  :)

[wayfunmommy]

I agree that he probably has friends in his ear telling him this is going to ruin all his pland, his life will be over, kids ruin everything. Talk to him calmly. Tell him how you feel and that the abortion discussion is over.
Let him know he is wanted in your life and baby's life but only if he is going to be supportive and loving.
Start talking to the counselors at your school to see if there are programs there to help with child care and such. Just because you have a baby doesn't mean you have to quit school. There is help out there and programs you can look into. It will be a lot more work, but worth it in the end.
Good luck, Mama.

[LalaLand8]

I am so proud of you for holding your own! Don't you dare let anything he says convince you to kill your baby! you are right honey you will regret it for the rest of your life! I am a witness to that! He will get over his feelings but you can not beat a dead horse or make a grown man do anything other than what he's going to do! you're having this baby with or without him your body has already said so. And just like he wasn't too worried about you not having birth control when you got pregnant he'll get past these crazy motions too. Leave him to his own self pity and let him know that his asking you to do such things is ridiculous! I'll say a prayer for you honey and hope the best for you and your baby and hopefully your boyfriend in the future! ♥♥♥

[gugu2010]

He might have someone else commenting in his ear how having a kid is a bad idea. Obviously unplanned and not ready. If he is decent he will be ok but he might not want the responsibility right now. You need to be prepared to be responsible for your own pregnancy  until he knows how much he is willing to give. Money is obviously an issue so be easy with him.  im sure u guys will be fine.