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stay at home moms
Im a first time mom and plan on staying home with baby.. I'm just curious to hear from other stay at home moms, words of wisdom. Did you enjoy staying at home full time? How long do you plan on staying home? Ect..
I stayed at home until my little one was 18 months old personally it literally drove me crazy sitting in 4 walls with my baby, don't get me wrong I absolutely love spending time with my son who is now 2 and half but I decided to go back to work just for a break. I made sure I made 'me' time I have friends I'd see often for coffee and catch ups but for me it just wasn't working out for me mentally I felt like I was secluded from the outside world. I'm due with baby number 2 in April and I plan to take 2 years of maternity leave then after that make my decision. Financially we are stable with just my husband's income but I find its less stressful when we have my income as play money which is only a few hundred but beside that I couldn't sit at home all day even with having me time it still wasn't my cup of tea. You'll know what you wanna do when baby is here I don't think you should make a set decision before you have had the baby because you just never know what will happen :) good luck :)
I was thinking the same thing about being a hairdresser. You can have people at your house, do their hair. Very flexible.
I don't work now, I was working as a server but the smell, the hours, wasn't working for me... Plus I came to visit my parents for the holidays. So my partner said I didn't have to work. We discuss things, we talk so I'm sure if things changed we'd make adjustments.
Thank you specialmom. Your post was very helpful.
I don't work now, I was working as a server but the smell, the hours, wasn't working for me... Plus I came to visit my parents for the holidays. So my partner said I didn't have to work. We discuss things, we talk so I'm sure if things changed we'd make adjustments.
Thank you specialmom. Your post was very helpful.
I walked away from a pretty successful and high paying career. The financial changes were hard for me. Having once had financial freedom, it became hard to make all the necessary changes to live within our means. But I did it. LOL You sacrifice things. But financial difficulty is one of the biggest reasons couples fight and only having one income can be hard financially obviously.
I adore my kiddos though. I don't regret one second of being home. I don't miss a thing. We spend all of our time together. I don't really get baby sitters but once in a while and then I end up doing something like grocery shopping. But, I have other mom friends. we get together and it is like a play date for the kids and a play date for us. :>) My friends since I had kids are different than pre kids. I find I'm friends with neighbors and people at the pre school and things like that. Church is another place.
I have my hobbies. I'm content.
I do find that reading up on news and current events is helpful with my husband for us to have lively conversation. He doesn't want to always talk baby stuff and wants adult conversation on an intellectual level. We try to have dates like after the kids are in bed just to connect. It helps.
Anyway, I'm out for the long haul. My former career was such that I worked long hours, traveled and the commitment was such that I couldn't raise kids too. I'd be torn all the time and probably do a bad job at both mothering and working.
so, if I go back to work, I'll have to reinvent myself. Not sure what I'll do.
Working as a hair dresser is great for a mommy. You can do that very part time! so, whomever said that is going to have a great thing going.
good luck
I adore my kiddos though. I don't regret one second of being home. I don't miss a thing. We spend all of our time together. I don't really get baby sitters but once in a while and then I end up doing something like grocery shopping. But, I have other mom friends. we get together and it is like a play date for the kids and a play date for us. :>) My friends since I had kids are different than pre kids. I find I'm friends with neighbors and people at the pre school and things like that. Church is another place.
I have my hobbies. I'm content.
I do find that reading up on news and current events is helpful with my husband for us to have lively conversation. He doesn't want to always talk baby stuff and wants adult conversation on an intellectual level. We try to have dates like after the kids are in bed just to connect. It helps.
Anyway, I'm out for the long haul. My former career was such that I worked long hours, traveled and the commitment was such that I couldn't raise kids too. I'd be torn all the time and probably do a bad job at both mothering and working.
so, if I go back to work, I'll have to reinvent myself. Not sure what I'll do.
Working as a hair dresser is great for a mommy. You can do that very part time! so, whomever said that is going to have a great thing going.
good luck
My grandma works at a daycare, I've never asked her about it but I'm going to see how much it costs.
Same here, my husband said that we should be okay financially with me staying home and having only 1 income, but you always worry about what if things change. Especially seeing the rising cost of daycare! Even if I'm home I would want my son to go somewhere at least a couple days a wk for the social aspect of it! Im a haitsresser, so I could always work here and there out of my house if I wanted to bring in some extra spending money
$20,000. Geeze Louise.
Ok. Ok. I've always liked the idea of being a stay at home mom.. My partner is supportive and we're in a position for me to be at home... Another worry was him stressing being the only one working. But of course, I could work and earn money if things changed.
I can not imagine paying day case for 3 children! A friend of ours has their daughter in a really nice daycare where she is already learning her alphabet and a lot more stuff than normal, and it's $20,000/yr at 2yrs old! I can't even fathom paying that
I worked off n on until I had my 3rd. Mostly temp jobs or babysitting for family when times were tough. But I haven't worked outside my home since 2006 and no plans to change that.
With my first I stayed at home for 6 months. Then went back to work part time nights for a year. I was with him during day and my husband was with him at night. After that he went to daycare. With baby number 2 I went back to work when he was 4 months old and was fired 2 weeks later. I have been home with my kids since. I am expecting baby #3 feb 18th. I don't plan on going back to work for at least 5 years. Daycare is expensive for 3 kids.
I'll have help. My mom, his mom, aunts, family members plus my partner of course. And I will most definitely make time for myself...
In my mind right now, I'm just battling how long I want to stay at home. A year. Until he is in school. Or until I feel is suitable.
In my mind right now, I'm just battling how long I want to stay at home. A year. Until he is in school. Or until I feel is suitable.
I'm a ftm also, and plan to stay at home as well for somewhere btwn 6months-1yr and then I will decide what I want to do about either continuing to be a sahm or go back to work. I have heard you need to make time for yourself and have some help or you will go nuts.
Thank all of you ladies for responding. I appreciate all of your positive words. It's good to hear from women who are encouraging about staying at home
@narajo4 you've been at home with your kiddos since your oldest was born? Have you completely stayed at home during that time?
@narajo4 you've been at home with your kiddos since your oldest was born? Have you completely stayed at home during that time?
I'm a stay at home mom too. This will be my 3rd baby boy-Due in less than 3 weeks. My other 2 boys are 3 and 2. It is not an easy job at all! :) But, it is extremely rewarding! Make sure you plan times to have played dates with other mommies with kids your kid's age. If that's not possible, try and make time to go out with a friend in the evening every once in a while! I crave adult time!!! Lol.
I agree with narajo4 make time for yourself or youll end up driving yourself crazy. I got cabin fever with my first and felt like i had gone crazy with the second. Expecting in may now i have a better sense of trust in my own abilities as a mother and a wife. Trust your instincts your body was created to bring forth a child and after giving birth to heal itself. Listen to your body breathe and trust yourself. It does feel overhwelming sometimes but if you take a step back and give yourself some me-time sometimes to regroup youll see how everything starts to flow and youll get into the beautiful rhythm of motherhood:) congrats!
I love being stay at home mom. My kids are 15, 10, 7 & due n 3/13/15. Best advice I could give is make time for yourself, and make sure to have a friend (other than SO) to have adult time with, even if it's just a coffee break while kids napping. Congrats
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