Need major advice....

[Beckyboo6023]

My dad just called and said 10 years ago my ain't accused my brother of touching my cousins inappropriate. He would have been about 14 or 15 the lil girls about 2 or 3. I guess my parents talked to him about it and he said he never did. Well my ain't and uncle got a divorce and it was pretty bloody. Now my family wants nothing to do with my aunt (she married in) well she just texted my uncle saying my 18 yr old cousin just said she lied 10 years ago and my brother touched her too. Now what I don't understand is how all this is happening now? Like do u think it's truth or she's starting more cramp. (she tried saying my uncle was suicidel and stuff like that) I mean I would hope my brother wouldn't do something like that but idk. but my aunt is saying she's gonna "do something about it" don't know what that means. Like cops ? I just don't know even how to asked my bro about it. That's what my dad called me for to ask what I thought. What do u ladies think? I strictly need advice. What would u think if ur dad told u this?

[Beckyboo6023]

Sry for typos my phone ***** it's switched aunt to ain't

[teregarcalva]

If my mom or dad told me this I would be shocked because my brother doesn't seem like that kind of a guy but I mean anyone is capable of doing it you know? I'm not saying je did do it and I pray he didn't and isn't lying but if he did I dont think he would admit it anyways since he would know it's a wrongful thing to do. Does your cousin have a reason to lie about it? According to your aunt she came to her so idk if it's your aunt starting stuff or if your cousin is telling the truth. I understand where your aunt would be acting crazy if she is telling the truth about your cousin saying something if my children ever told me something like that I swear I would bury who ever hurt them in such a way. However like I said she may be lying but there's no way to know for sure because only they know the truth you know? I was touched by a cousin and when I told everyone was shocked because they didn't believe he could do such a thing but he did I was 4 he was 15 and my aunt tried to say I was lying but my mom and grandfather knew I would never lie about auch a thing and when the cops showed up to question him he freaked out and admitted everything. You just never know hun

[Beckyboo6023]

My cousins away at collage now and I don't think she would lie about it. I mean I know since the divorce she doesn't really want anything to do with my side of the family. I'm the only one that she would still some what talk to. But what I don't understand it why 10 yes later? Like at what age did u tell ur parents if u don't mind me asking? I mean I have children and I'm kinda numb to think about it. But like u said if someone hurt my kids I'd kill them.

[1st_time_momma]

Well js not to judge or anything but maybe she was scared.. I was inappropriately touched by my brothers good friend and I've never told my family because I know they would literally kill him and I'd never see my family again and I'm gonna be 24..

[breccans_mommy]

Honestly I think its a load of ****, children's long term memory isn't developed till age 5  so therefore an 19 year old probably wouldn't remember what happened at age 2 even if it happened, your aunt is starting problems and I personally would take her in for a no contact order and harassment....

[Beckyboo6023]

Sry should have clarified it's a different cousin saying stuff now. She would have been 8 or so at the time. I'm guessing idk exactly when this supposedly happened.

[teregarcalva]

I was always raised that if anything like that ever happened I had to tell. That's why i was able to let my mom know so easily she was so young maybe her mom never taught her it was wrong and she was scared. A child can remember a traumatic experience they just supress it I'm trying to major in child psychology so I've taken a lot of classes for this. Something may have triggered the memory and she decided to tell. Like you said she isn't the kind of person to lie you know? Idk what to tell you hun.

[MommyToBe123]

*Pregnancy forum*

[Beckyboo6023]

I just think that when her mom asked her way back when that she would tell because he was already being accused. Idk I just might be in denial. I mean it's my brother and u never want to think he could do something like that. like do I just randomly ask him? He'll spaze if it's true or not

[Beckyboo6023]

Mommytobe u dont have to comment or read or anything. I'm extremely pregnant and needed advice. It deals with the well being of my children.

[breccans_mommy]

Well I would at least let him know that's being said and I assume he would say something either way

[teregarcalva]

I know girl I wouldn't believe it either if someone said something like that about my brother. It's like having your world flipped upside down. I mean you can try to talk to him but idk if it would do any good. If it's not true it could do more harm just because you think he may have done it and if he did do it he's probably gonna get mad about it. Idk of any good way to ask something like that but if you feel the need to ask go ahead because if it is true your children are around him and I'm not saying he ever would touch them but better safe than sorry. My prayers are with you hun.

[Beckyboo6023]

Thanks ladies. My dad is going to talk with him. I hope he didn't but I can't change anything if it did. And idk how it's even proven one way or another. I just had to talk it out after hearing that kind of info. Thank you for listening to me freak out.