Bedrest and feeling down

[hopefultobeblessed]

Good Afternoon ladies. Today I'm having a really hard time staying happy and positive. DH is not being as supportive as I feel I need him to be and I feel like no one understands what I am saying. Everyone keeps telling me that he is overwhelmed and I should be patient with him. I can understand that I guess but at the same time I'm going through a bit of something here too. And I can't turn this off and on. This is 24/7 even if I don't want to deal with it.

Right now I am on bedrest and we are staying with my mom because it is closer to the hospital. I feel like every chance he gets he wants to be away from me and my mom, dad, brothers and friends are doing all the work. They bring me food, water, help me up if I need to get up. I feel like I have to beg him sometimes to rub me swollen feet.

The hardest part is that he's not always like this. Some days he's very attentive and I want for nothing. Maybe I am having an emotional day. Who knows...

[Cherie762]

I was on complete bed rest for 5 months...you can do it...I made a large cross stitch ABC picture for my sons room, read, slept and ate,,,,,talked on phone ,,enjoy cause soon you wont be getting much rest at alll.....your babies are being kept safe by your laying still....I know its hard but this too shall pass

[tbeards]

I am so sorry you are feeling down. It is really hard to be on bed rest. I just kept thinking to myself the "one more day inside is two less days in the NICU". It really helped. Your husband may just be really stressed out because it is down to the wire and he may be overwhelmed with the upcoming changes that are about to occur. He may just not want to talk about it so you don't get stressed out.

[hopefultobeblessed]

He has come to many appointments but that didn't change things. We are still talking things out. I don't know if it has much to do with being at my parents house. But maybe it does. He wanted us to stay with his mom and dad but I refused to do that. My inlaws are not the nicest people around. I think he might be scared of the entire process especially since I will not be working once the twins come and I'm not working now. I'm praying and praying that things turn around.

[kindergal]

He may just be very uncomfortable since he is not in his own home....it is hard staying with relatives in such a tense situation.  Hang in there!!  I did strict bed rest for 8 weeks and thought I would go out of my mind.  I watched so much TV, I thought my eyes would melt!  HA!!  BuT, looking back, I realize that is the last time I will ever relax again!  HA!  Twins do not allow much time for that once they get here!!!!  The bed rest really paid off, my twins were born at 36 weeks and were wonderfully healthy.
Does you dh go to the Dr. appts. with you?  That REALLY helped my dh understand what I was going through....the Dr. would talk to him and emphasize what I needed from him.

[hopefultobeblessed]

I'm in the middle of my 2nd week of bedrest. My Perinatologist gave me an fFN and it came back positive. He said that meant there was a 15% chance that i'd go into labor in a week or two. I was sent to L&D for steroid shots and put on bedrest until the twins come.

I agree. I don't think my DH realizes how hard it is to carry twins and add to that feeling helpless and out of control. I myself am a control freak and can't stand having to depend on other people.

Right now the twins are 4lbs each and they are so heavy. I feel tons of pressure on my back and get winded very easily.

[pookie1121]

Hi Hopefultobeblessed,

How long have you been on bedrest?  What are you on bedrest for?

I know I am much more needy since I got pregnant with twins, and I am not even on bedrest!!! :)  My DH is already tired of making me tea each evening but after I get home from work, I am just exhausted!  I am sure being on bedrest is harder than your DH realizes.