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does anyone else get this when they go out?
ok so the comments all started when i was about 3 months pregnant (and looked like i was 6) with people going "oh my god you're ENORMOUS (that was killer to the ego) you're about to explode arn't you???" and then you'd say no, i'm only 3 months along. then they give you a look like omg. then some who were really rude would comment "well...arn't you kind of big for 3 months?" then you'd have to say "no i'm having twins, triplets or whatever" then they STILL gave you a look like....omg wtf. then the babies are born. our stroller is the back to back so one boy is front and the other is behind him. (brett loves the back. he gets all snuggly and sleeps while eli loves the front..he's a little people watcher) and head on it looks like there's only 1 baby. so people are like "ohhhh what a cute little...ummm is it a boy or girl (that's another thing that makes me mad. blue stroller, blue/green/black/white/yellow clothes no pink whatsoever anywhere!!! no bows in the hair, no pierced ears...they LOOK like boys) you reply..boy/girl. then they look and are like "oh and there's another one? why did you have 2?" that's when i give them the...what? look. i always reply "well....i figured i shouldn't throw the other one away so i decided to keep him to." stupid answer for a stupid question. or if i'm out with my mom and she's holding one boy and i'm holding the other, (my boys look very much alike. it's just one has hair the other doesn't) the comment we get is wow you were both pregnant at the same time? i always say "yeah we're so close we decided to get pregnant on the same day and give birth on the exact same day" then i just roll my eyes.
why are people always so surprised if they see a person/couple with more then one baby?
why are people always so surprised if they see a person/couple with more then one baby?
lol ah the joys of being huge......I think I got ginormous lol....I have some pics in my photos the day I delivered...it was scary...but I actually like it....
HeatherLynn22- Im so glad you decided not to throw the other twin away!!! OMG I laughed at that!
With my son when was 6 months, I was at the supermarket and he was in a blue bonds suit. I had a lady come up to us and she was telling me that my baby was the cutest little GIRL she had ever seen! I just said "Thankyou" and walked off. It just seemed so much easier than trying to explain he is a boy. Had forgot about stuff like that until I read this. Great, now i will have to put up with that again with Twins when they come. Might be worse this time because we are not going to find out the sex, so our pram and everything is in neutral colours!
I do remember that I hated being stopped so people could look at and coo over the baby. Especially when I was running late for an appoinment. Very frustrating sometimes. Interesting to hear that it gets worse with twins!
I have also been getting comments about the size of my belly. They started before I even knew I was pregnant, by my own mother!!! At three months I did look like I was six months along. Mum keeps telling me that I am gaining too much weight, tells me what I should and shouldn't be eating, and this is driving me nuts! No matter how much I explain that I'm having Twins, I should be eating more and gaining more than my first, I think she is having a hard time seeing me get so big. Funny thing is, I'm only 20 weeks! I'm going to get bigger!
When I was three months, I walked in on a conversation by my father-in-law compairing me to my husbands cousin who was also three months (with a singleton). This was to a large group of my husbands aunties and uncles at a party, and he was telling them he cant believe how huge I am, I'm too big etc. That really hurt my feeings, once he relised that I was right there, he tried to back-track but it made it worse. I do feel like a bit of a freak sometimes carrying twins. I think that I would rather hear comments like that from strangers, not my own family.
With my son when was 6 months, I was at the supermarket and he was in a blue bonds suit. I had a lady come up to us and she was telling me that my baby was the cutest little GIRL she had ever seen! I just said "Thankyou" and walked off. It just seemed so much easier than trying to explain he is a boy. Had forgot about stuff like that until I read this. Great, now i will have to put up with that again with Twins when they come. Might be worse this time because we are not going to find out the sex, so our pram and everything is in neutral colours!
I do remember that I hated being stopped so people could look at and coo over the baby. Especially when I was running late for an appoinment. Very frustrating sometimes. Interesting to hear that it gets worse with twins!
I have also been getting comments about the size of my belly. They started before I even knew I was pregnant, by my own mother!!! At three months I did look like I was six months along. Mum keeps telling me that I am gaining too much weight, tells me what I should and shouldn't be eating, and this is driving me nuts! No matter how much I explain that I'm having Twins, I should be eating more and gaining more than my first, I think she is having a hard time seeing me get so big. Funny thing is, I'm only 20 weeks! I'm going to get bigger!
When I was three months, I walked in on a conversation by my father-in-law compairing me to my husbands cousin who was also three months (with a singleton). This was to a large group of my husbands aunties and uncles at a party, and he was telling them he cant believe how huge I am, I'm too big etc. That really hurt my feeings, once he relised that I was right there, he tried to back-track but it made it worse. I do feel like a bit of a freak sometimes carrying twins. I think that I would rather hear comments like that from strangers, not my own family.
I kinda like the attention cause I am a very proud momma but at times when I'm in a hurry I just get frusterated
I had another twin mother say something to me that I've never forgotten. She came up to me, much like many others asking 'oh, is that twins?" She had her 10 year old daughter with her and explained that her daughter had a twin brother. Then she said "you know, nobody ever asks me if my kids are twins anymore. Now that they are older, I guess they don't look like twins anymore"
I thought that was interesting. I sometimes get tired of all the attention they attract too, but I'm pretty sure I'll miss it when it's gone :)
That being said...I feel bad for my twin daughter. Everyone thinks she's a boy! Both she and her brother have very little hair, so everyone assumes they are twin boys. She is almost 2 and I still dress her up in pink nearly every day, but it doesn't seem to make any difference - lol!
I thought that was interesting. I sometimes get tired of all the attention they attract too, but I'm pretty sure I'll miss it when it's gone :)
That being said...I feel bad for my twin daughter. Everyone thinks she's a boy! Both she and her brother have very little hair, so everyone assumes they are twin boys. She is almost 2 and I still dress her up in pink nearly every day, but it doesn't seem to make any difference - lol!
So sorry if I came off as angry....it's just that no matter how much of a hurry I'm in I can never make a quick trip in the store and I love showing off my babies I really do...but when ppl I don't know actually grab my cart and stop me like I owe them the right to touch or look at my babies I do get angry....look and awe all you want just don't spread your germs to them...they are sweet and innocent and do not deserve getting sick for no reason......and I really do appreciate the awe it's not that easy but it's all some of us know.....so to us it's just normal....and I think we do forget that not everyone does have twins and triplets and they are special...so thanks for bringing the other side of the story to this post
As a mother of singleton's, I really do believe that you mother's that have twins, triplets and many more, are absolutely amazing women. I think most of the population are fascinated by twins. They have been since I have been alive. We excite in seeing if they look alike, although when you mom's have fraternal twins, it must anger you, when we try to compare what they look like.
You need to consider all of us that are fascinated by twins or the huge belly's of mother's with multiples, as the freaks. We are fascinated by something we don't see every day, so please forgive us for being inquisitive. We really are admiring your precious babies and YOU for the job you do trying to care for two, when we found it difficult to care for one.
One thing I totally agree on, which happened to me often, is everyone wanted to touch my belly when I was pregnant and everyone wanted to touch my baby. It always seemed to be when they were sleeping. It never failed.
I came to the conclusion, that baby's are adored and show such innocence, that the people that always want to touch or talk about the pregnancy or the babies, are just glad that there is something so sweet and so innocent, to look at, in this very troubled world. Nothing is more pure than a pregnant woman and a baby. (s)
Please try to forgive people like me that are just interested in the miracle you are carrying and the even greater miracle that there is more than one baby in the stroller. We are just curious and amazed, but you're right, we have no business touching bellies or babies, without your permission.
I am guilty as well, for asking whether it's a boy or a girl, when there is clearly a pink bow protruding from the baby's little tuft of hair. Forgive us all. I really believe that people such as myself are trying to show you how delightful it is to see a pregnant woman or her new twin babies, rolling down the street in their new stroller.
Best Wishes Little Mothers. You are one of a kind. I could barely handle one at a time, much less two. I admire you....
Lots of Mommie and Baby Blessings on you both,
Heather
You need to consider all of us that are fascinated by twins or the huge belly's of mother's with multiples, as the freaks. We are fascinated by something we don't see every day, so please forgive us for being inquisitive. We really are admiring your precious babies and YOU for the job you do trying to care for two, when we found it difficult to care for one.
One thing I totally agree on, which happened to me often, is everyone wanted to touch my belly when I was pregnant and everyone wanted to touch my baby. It always seemed to be when they were sleeping. It never failed.
I came to the conclusion, that baby's are adored and show such innocence, that the people that always want to touch or talk about the pregnancy or the babies, are just glad that there is something so sweet and so innocent, to look at, in this very troubled world. Nothing is more pure than a pregnant woman and a baby. (s)
Please try to forgive people like me that are just interested in the miracle you are carrying and the even greater miracle that there is more than one baby in the stroller. We are just curious and amazed, but you're right, we have no business touching bellies or babies, without your permission.
I am guilty as well, for asking whether it's a boy or a girl, when there is clearly a pink bow protruding from the baby's little tuft of hair. Forgive us all. I really believe that people such as myself are trying to show you how delightful it is to see a pregnant woman or her new twin babies, rolling down the street in their new stroller.
Best Wishes Little Mothers. You are one of a kind. I could barely handle one at a time, much less two. I admire you....
Lots of Mommie and Baby Blessings on you both,
Heather
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