premies at 27 weeks

[motherof1boy]

I have a friend that just had her twins super early...they are in the NICU and probably will be for a couple months at least. I want to do something special to help her out but am not sure what the most helpful thing would be. She is at a hospital that's 2 hours away from me....
Anyone have any experience that they can tell me what they wished someone would have done for them??
Is there any specific "saying" that would drive you crazy? Like, I know they will be ok...or before you know it they'll be driving. I never know what to say, and I don't want to sound insensitive.
Thanks for your help!

[cgricci]

When my girls were in the NICU it was helpful to have someone watch my older daughter so I could go and visit them.  A few friends made dinner for us as well so that was one last thing to worry about,  Most of all i have to agree that it is a huge help to just have someone to talk to.

[Lizzydripping]

Hi there.  What a great friend you seem to be!

I had a baby girl at 24 weeks gestation, and all I can say is be there, listen and sympathise.  I was staggered by how many people didn't understand how serious things were for our little girl, and I got all the " she'll be fine" and "so what?" type comments.

We were frightened and helpless as we watched her struggle on a daily basis just to live.  Whatever emotions your friend encounters (and there will be many), just be there to give her cuddles, offer a cautious optimism and don't feel you have to say anything.  I felt better when people treated my baby like a baby, congratulated me on her birth, but understood what a rollercoaster it was for us.

At 27 weeks her babies have the potential to do really well - there are so much fewer complications for a 27 weeker, versus a 24 weeker.  Good luck x