ADVICE, SAD, LONLEY , DEPRESSED ;(

[kiccolini]

I really need ADVICE please.
So im 20 years old and im 10 Weeks and 4 days, ive been with been with my bf/bd for 3 in half years. The only problem is he lives in Chicago and I live in Utah. We have always visited each other back and forth and he's coming this Friday to see me and come to my doc appointment march 5th and everytime I talk about the baby he says he dosent wanna talk about it and he told me at first to get an abortion and he bought me an engament ring n when he comes here he is gonna propose but tonight he told me he wont marry me if I keep the baby and he dosent want it. Im so sad and upset like idk what to do, I just keep telling him will talk about it when I see u . I dont want to get an abortion I told him but hes emotionally and mentally tearing me apart  and I love him more than anything and idk what to do I was hoping when he comes my appointment and sees the ultra sound he'll come around but I dont think thats gonna happen ;( idk wat to do, help any advice!

[parkersmommy]

You love him more than anything now but what you feel for him is NOTHING compared to what you'll soon feel for that baby. I am not telling you not to get an abortion you should do what you feel is right but don't do it to keep a man because any man that says he won't be with you unless you kill your baby is trying to force you to do something very hard that YOU will have to live with for the rest of your life and that's not fair and it certainly isn't love. Good luck doll

[momabear86]

I'd explain you love him but can't abort a life just because he isn't ready. Explain its a scary time for both of you but its easier if you support each other rather than go against

[jess1125]

Yeah I know but now that am allmost half way threw this pregnancy am not even worried about him. Its all about me and my baby. He'll realise sooner or later that I ain't stressen him and we don't need him and that going to her him

[alexiah]

Jess u just have to be strong u can do it by yourself u dont need him ...theirs gonna be someone out their that's gonna love u for who u are and except your  baby :)

[hansen20]

i would have to agree with alexiah, because why would he say, i want to marry you but you have to get an abortion. my ex did that too me too and i chose the baby over him, not only that but if hes living that far away how do you not know hes actually cheating on you with another lady. my advice is to leave him if he dont want that baby because it never asked to be abort a baby at 10w4d has feelings and it can feel pain. im also 20 years old and i have 2 kids and another one on the way but its with my fiance. when i was pregnant by my ex i miscarried at 9w2d and that was last year. i mean if he really loves you he would never want you to abort the baby at all. this pregnancy was a surprise for my bf and i and he loves me so much that hes sticking by my side, just like he should do you but hes not wanting to it sounds like. i dont know if you know this but a babies heart starts to beat at 5-7 weeks pregnant. i was a single mother for along time but with 2 kids under 2 years of age. i know you will be a great mother and i really think if you did get an abortion you would really regret it so much. my brother regrets his gf getting an abortion just because of medical issues. i think you will be happy if you kept your baby i really do. i never regret having my kids even with my son because he never asked to be born or aborted because in my situation it was bad. it really sounds like he does love you but not to the extent of it where it comes to you and his baby with you. and that he dont want to take responsibility. i know its hard but i think you should kick him to the curb because your baby that your caring is more important. i hope i didnt make you mad by anything i said. i hope you can update us on what your choice is =) no matter what it is.  

[alexiah]

Jess u just havs to be strong u can do it by yourself u dont need him ...theirs gonna be someone out their that's gonna love u for who u are and except your  baby :)