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Baby #3 and alone
Ok so my baby dad numb 3 has just said that he thinks its a good idea for me to have an abortion. I have two kids already and am pregnant again. I'm more than scared but exited to be having another baby if all goes well.. I would have liked him to be there incase I needed help, I have my mum bit if she finds out I'm pregnant and not with the father she will be more than upset with me. What am I doing and how can I cope I already have 4 and 2 year old. B4 you say I should have been more careful well yes I kno but a baby is a blessing and its done now... Just feel so so alone wish I had a man, ladies if you have a good man treasure him coz I can't seem to find nun
I know how your feeling I have 2 sons.8&6 with 2 different dads a couple years ago I was dating a childhood friend and found out I was preggo I panicked (abortion) you never forget it.. my mom was mad at me but I kept my head high,.continued to be a great mom & now im engaged and preg. And very happy (good men are out there) they show up when you least expect them :)
I know what your going thru I went thru it with my first ones dad but he backed off in the end pls try relax jus make it hard for him he won't follow thru trust me..
A friend of mine was recently in your position, the only advice I could really offer was to say that you need to do what you can live with the consequences of...if you dont want an abortion then dont do it and regret it, I'm sure your family will support you if you choose to go ahead with your pregnancy, they may be upset at first but they will cone round. Make the choice for yourself and dont let anyone else interfere with that.
Would you rather have your mom upset about you not being with the father, or YOU having that guilt for the rest of your life for having an abortion? No man should even bring up abortion to any woma, no matter what the situation. They don't have to deal with the emotions, pain && the thought of 'this might of been my baby's birthday today' every year for the rest of their life. My ex tried telling me to get an abortion. I left him. It was the hardest thing to do, and when I told my mom, I was scared of what she'd think because I walked away from the father of my baby. I told her I pretty much ruined my life and she was wondering why, then I told her I was pregnant. She was there for me as soon as as I told her. She said, don't make a choice you're gonna regret for a man that doesn't mean anything anymore. Keep your pride, don't let no one pressure you into doing something your heart is not set to do. It'll probably be hard cus you have 2 kids already, but then it might be easy too because you already have kids and know what to expect. You could be like me and be a first time mom, haven't heard from the father of my baby in almost 8 months, due in 9 days and scared outta my mind to give birth and raise a baby with no daddy. Jus remember, babies are a blessing and your mom probably won't hold a grudge forever just because your not together with the father of the baby. And once your baby is born, your mom will probably even forget about being upset. A mother's love is stronger than a lot of people think. Anyways good luck, best wishes to you and whatever choice you make. God bless :)
Sorry your bf is being this way. Do what's best for you & your children. Theres someone out there for everyone. I adore my husband though he's not perfect. I think your mom will support you even if she's upset at first. A baby is a blessing. I hope everything works out for you!
Sometimes you just can't help certain situations you get put in. This is one of them and your mom may be upset but she also needs to understand her stressing for you isn't helping or solving anything. You need to understand where she is coming from and just trying to wrap her own head around it as well. There's nothing you can really do but let her get it out, tell her what she needs to hear, and make the best lives for you and your babies that you can. It's hard but not impossible and only makes you that much of a stronger woman. As messed up as it is, it's become regular for a man to leave his family without so much as a thought, but us women have also learned enough to adapt and survive without a man.
there's nothing you can do to make him be a dad I would just suggest letting your mom know the situation and not letting anyone make you feel bad about HIS shortcomings.
Yes girl my BD is an ***. Wants to take my baby from me. And in Florida that can happen. New mothers or mothers in general get no special rights. So just count ur blessings darlin. Becauae he may just leave u alone. And to me that right there would be a blessing.
My man is ok, hes far from perfect. Alcoholic, this is our second baby. Sumtimes I think wat the hell am I doing! I hope it all works out for you. Remember not all of us are in purfect relationships.
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