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Controversial- upsetting posts- am I crazy?
I know this sounds horrid, it just seems that recently there have been quite a few posts from young girls who think or know they are pregnant because of unprotected sex, and here we all are trying desperately to get pregnant. I almost wonder if these posts are even real, awful but true. Is anyone having a hard time with this or am I just super hormonal and sensitive. Please any thoughts, am I crazy?
The problem is they ARE babies themselves and WE (parents) ARE responsible for our children. Too many parents are careless and neglect the care of their children. That's why they are free to have sex behind their parents backs. I know that's NOT the case with every teen pregnancy, but I bet if you asked a majority of pregnant teens they will tell you their parents didn't know they were having sex and there are probably no rules about when and where they can go. It's my opinion we are a product of our environment.
You're not alone in your thinking! I'm not pregnant (YET!) but I totally agree with you.
ladies, just so you know.... It is NOT the parents fault if kids have sex, it happens.
If your children are gonna have sex, you can keep an eye on them, but they'll find a way if theyre determined. I'm 21 and pregnant 9+weeks. I AM married, 2 yrs, and this is #1.
This child wasn't planned, but we are happy. The first time my now husband and I had sex was when we were 16. We've been together for 5 yrs, and were both eachothers firsts.
You need to make sure you inform your children about birth control and possibly give them condoms and bcp when you feel they are old enough for YOU to be worried about them having sex.
So many kids today arent prepared for sex but think they are, they arent informed enough to know that "pulling out" can result in pregnancy and that sometimes it can happen if sperm gets in even w/out intercourse.
I have a step sister who was sexually abused by her brother for 10 yrs. she's 14 now, and my stepdad has custody (he never knew about her.. until she was 12.. and her moms a druggie)
My parents and I already had this talk, and we discussed that more than likely she could end up promiscuous(sp?) oops. Or hating guys all together... thats what usually happens. They didn't want to get ME on birth control cause they thought it was a ticket to have sex, but I was already doing it.
So I've informed them that If I think she's having sex and they don't get her on BCP, that I will do it for them, since we don't need a 14 yr. old w/a baby. They didn't like it at first, but agreed that rather than have her get PG, she'd need to be put on BCP. They learned from me. :)
I've also told my brothers that if they need to and begin thinking of having sex that to come to me and I'll provide them w/protection and information rather than have them make a mistake. my bros are 19(married so I don't have to worry about him) 17, and 15.
As for fake posts, I agree, they do sound wishy washy.
This was all just my point of view a 21y/o point of view.
Cindie
If your children are gonna have sex, you can keep an eye on them, but they'll find a way if theyre determined. I'm 21 and pregnant 9+weeks. I AM married, 2 yrs, and this is #1.
This child wasn't planned, but we are happy. The first time my now husband and I had sex was when we were 16. We've been together for 5 yrs, and were both eachothers firsts.
You need to make sure you inform your children about birth control and possibly give them condoms and bcp when you feel they are old enough for YOU to be worried about them having sex.
So many kids today arent prepared for sex but think they are, they arent informed enough to know that "pulling out" can result in pregnancy and that sometimes it can happen if sperm gets in even w/out intercourse.
I have a step sister who was sexually abused by her brother for 10 yrs. she's 14 now, and my stepdad has custody (he never knew about her.. until she was 12.. and her moms a druggie)
My parents and I already had this talk, and we discussed that more than likely she could end up promiscuous(sp?) oops. Or hating guys all together... thats what usually happens. They didn't want to get ME on birth control cause they thought it was a ticket to have sex, but I was already doing it.
So I've informed them that If I think she's having sex and they don't get her on BCP, that I will do it for them, since we don't need a 14 yr. old w/a baby. They didn't like it at first, but agreed that rather than have her get PG, she'd need to be put on BCP. They learned from me. :)
I've also told my brothers that if they need to and begin thinking of having sex that to come to me and I'll provide them w/protection and information rather than have them make a mistake. my bros are 19(married so I don't have to worry about him) 17, and 15.
As for fake posts, I agree, they do sound wishy washy.
This was all just my point of view a 21y/o point of view.
Cindie
see the thing is im 18 and due soon...hopefully. but it wasnt that sex wasnt ok in my home. my bf was practically living at my house. (prob why im pregnant now) but sex was something that wasnt bad in my home.
thats the problem. when you have teenagers you dont want them to like not kno about sex. so you try and educated them. so then your left with is sex like something shameful and should be banned in a home? (then the teen might sneak out. and do it behind parents backs) or should sex be something thats not concidered bad in a home? (and have teens doing it all the time anyways) is there a medium? i dont kno.
as soon as my mom found out i was sexually active (years ago) she took me to the gyn ASAP and got me checked out and put on the pill. ive been on a lot of different types of bc. and they always made me feel horrible. messing up my period. making my skin worse. cramps still bad. etc not to mention i couldnt remember to take it everyday so i took myself off of it. so its not that i wasnt educated about sex and forms of bc. but the problem was NO1 EVER TOLD ME A GUY "PULLING OUT" DOESNT AWLAYS WORK!! and no1 told my babys dadddy that either. like thats not something they tought in my school. you live and you learn.
i guess it comes down to the teen. i dont drink, smoke, or have ever done drugs. but my mom said "if you have to drink, i would rather have you do it here so i know your safe. or at a friends house and let ME come get you i dont want you getting into the car with anyone else." of course she would rather have me not but she laied down the rules. but I PERSONALLY CHOOSE NOT TO DRINK. i mean i feel you can give a child freedom but its really up to them as to what they choose to do. heck i could choose to go out and drink and drink and drink but i dont want to. so i dont. its hard to raise a child, watch out for them the best you can, and have them do what you want them to do. their going to do what they want to.
thats the problem. when you have teenagers you dont want them to like not kno about sex. so you try and educated them. so then your left with is sex like something shameful and should be banned in a home? (then the teen might sneak out. and do it behind parents backs) or should sex be something thats not concidered bad in a home? (and have teens doing it all the time anyways) is there a medium? i dont kno.
as soon as my mom found out i was sexually active (years ago) she took me to the gyn ASAP and got me checked out and put on the pill. ive been on a lot of different types of bc. and they always made me feel horrible. messing up my period. making my skin worse. cramps still bad. etc not to mention i couldnt remember to take it everyday so i took myself off of it. so its not that i wasnt educated about sex and forms of bc. but the problem was NO1 EVER TOLD ME A GUY "PULLING OUT" DOESNT AWLAYS WORK!! and no1 told my babys dadddy that either. like thats not something they tought in my school. you live and you learn.
i guess it comes down to the teen. i dont drink, smoke, or have ever done drugs. but my mom said "if you have to drink, i would rather have you do it here so i know your safe. or at a friends house and let ME come get you i dont want you getting into the car with anyone else." of course she would rather have me not but she laied down the rules. but I PERSONALLY CHOOSE NOT TO DRINK. i mean i feel you can give a child freedom but its really up to them as to what they choose to do. heck i could choose to go out and drink and drink and drink but i dont want to. so i dont. its hard to raise a child, watch out for them the best you can, and have them do what you want them to do. their going to do what they want to.
I lost my virginity two months before I was 17 and Im still with the same guy I lost it to. Im almost 19 now and possibly pregnant. I was on birth control at 13 for a messed up cycle and went off of it a few years later. When I got with my boyfriend and became sexually active I told my mom that I needed to go back on birth control so she knew we were active. I did go back on it and was on it until august of last year. We always used the withdrawl method even with birth control. And when I ran out of refills in august we were broken up so I didnt really care as much. But we got back together just in time for ovulation! and bam I was pregnant. We both took responsibility and decided to keep it though. THen I miscarried and now Im in the same situation. Ran out of refills so I may be pregnant again, but this time I dont mind.
I agree with the lots of underage posts though, but I dont think its the parents fault the kids have sex..theres really no control over it..but I agree that the parents can take more action to prevent pregnancy with providing contraceptives. I hate condoms personally, but the birth control pill has always been a friend! I dont know what I would do if I found out my 13 year old daughter was pregnant but I know I would definately have thought about that when she got her period! I would talk to her about the chance of becomming pregnant and the whole cycle and how it works...so when she became sexually active she may be a bit more open with me so that I can take necassary precautions to keep her save and save her childhood. I had a wonderful childhood and my mom always told me about that kind of stuff. I dont think we should be mad/or hurtful towards the youngins that come on here but try to guide them as Lois said...its easier to prevent then you think!
I agree with the lots of underage posts though, but I dont think its the parents fault the kids have sex..theres really no control over it..but I agree that the parents can take more action to prevent pregnancy with providing contraceptives. I hate condoms personally, but the birth control pill has always been a friend! I dont know what I would do if I found out my 13 year old daughter was pregnant but I know I would definately have thought about that when she got her period! I would talk to her about the chance of becomming pregnant and the whole cycle and how it works...so when she became sexually active she may be a bit more open with me so that I can take necassary precautions to keep her save and save her childhood. I had a wonderful childhood and my mom always told me about that kind of stuff. I dont think we should be mad/or hurtful towards the youngins that come on here but try to guide them as Lois said...its easier to prevent then you think!
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