Disagreement over amnio

[blueeyedtabbycat]

So some of your know that I declined the amnio to find out if my little princess has DS about a month ago. Well today I just brought up the subject with DH on when we should do it. I was thinking around 32 weeks. I want to do it for peace of mind and to know what to expect before she is born. DH is dead set against it!! He wont even think about it. He says he doesnt want to know and that it is in Gods hands. I want to be prepared! I know that its my body and if I really want to do it, I will , but I would really like his support. UGH!! He doesnt want to take a chance that anything bad will happen to me or the baby. He just dosent undersatnd. What do you ladies think?? Should I just wait and find out when she is born?? Or should I go against my DH and do it anyways?? Too many desisions, lol:)
Thanks, Tabitha

[martikadragoon]

belueeyedtabbycat~ I'm coming to this post a bit late, but here's what I'd do.... I'd get the amnio, find out MYSELF..... and try my best not to tell DH.  It's your body, YOUR the one who's pregnant....YOUR choice in the end.

Do what you feel you need to for peace of mind. Maybe your DH doesn't want to know because if he doesn't know he won't worry about it everyday.... KWIM?

[blueeyedtabbycat]

Thank you ladies!! I have a while left before I need to do anything so I will have to think about it untill then. I really appricate everyones opinions. It has given me alot to think about. Thanks again:-)

[singlemom3]

when i was pregnant with my third i had an abnormal triple screen test and had the amino done even though my husband didnt really want me to. i did not care about the outcome i just wanted to know if i needed to prepare myself for a special needs child. i think you should go with your feelings and if you really want to know so you can be prepared for anything

[nickieb85]

I had an amnio done with my last pregnancy. They told me that my son wasn't measuring correctly with a few other problems. It was an easy decision to make for me. I was 23 wks and 4 days and in FL where I was at the time, you can legally abort your child up to 24 weeks. There was no way that I was going to let anything like that happen. I got the preliminary results back and he had a total clean bill. I was glad that I did it though. I needed to know so I could prepare myself for what was to come. Good Luck

[JoyRenee]

I understand your husband's point of view. He may seem angry and stubborn but is probably unable to convery his STRONG sense of fear that the amnio could cause you or your baby to die. As irrational as that fear is, he's is very concerned for you both. And he's probably afraid of what the answer will be from the test.

[isthisnormal]

DH wants me to get it done as soon as possible, because he 'knows we aren't ready for that'. My brother, who I practically raised, is almost 17 with downs.