Disagreement over amnio

[blueeyedtabbycat]

So some of your know that I declined the amnio to find out if my little princess has DS about a month ago. Well today I just brought up the subject with DH on when we should do it. I was thinking around 32 weeks. I want to do it for peace of mind and to know what to expect before she is born. DH is dead set against it!! He wont even think about it. He says he doesnt want to know and that it is in Gods hands. I want to be prepared! I know that its my body and if I really want to do it, I will , but I would really like his support. UGH!! He doesnt want to take a chance that anything bad will happen to me or the baby. He just dosent undersatnd. What do you ladies think?? Should I just wait and find out when she is born?? Or should I go against my DH and do it anyways?? Too many desisions, lol:)
Thanks, Tabitha

[blueeyedtabbycat]

The last u/s I had was after I declined the amnio. I never know what level they are, lol. I had a regular done along with a 3D/4D. and it took about 45 minutes. Everything looked great on baby. The only soft marker for DS was ecogenic bowel. Along with an abnormal triple screen test.

[blueeyedtabbycat]

Thank you guys so much for your comments. I think im going to do my best to talk DH in to it. I still have a while to talk him into it. I am 24 weeks today so I have almost 10 weeks to deside. I want to know because I dont want anything to come up during delivery that the doctors or I are un prepared for.  Im not really looking forward to the amnio but I do think I should just do it. I really should have never explained to DH what an amnio was and how they did it. He might not be against it if I hadnt, lol.

[NicMom]

At 32 weeks I'd do it. Just incase something is wrong you could be more mentaly prepared and know what type of care the baby would need immediatly after birth.

[spade22]

Did your doctor offer you a more detailed ultrasound(s) after you initially declined the amniocentesis?  There are several other DS markers that can be looked for this way.

[tiredbuthappy]

honestly, I think I would do it.
My friend's baby was diagnosed (wrongly) with major problems. It was too late for an amnio. BUT, since they knew (thought) the baby had problems, they had a whole team of pediatric specialists on hand for her delivery in case the baby needed something. It's in God's hands, but knowledge is power.
I would also want to know because I would think that with some conditions, the baby might fare better with a c-section than going through labor.

when I first started coming on here, there was a lovely woman whose son has spina bifida. She encouraged testing because she said that there is a kind of mourning period you have to go through when your child has a diasbility. Yes, you love the child and cherish him/her, but you actually need time to mourn the idea of the perfect baby and accept the situation. I think going through this period in advance may help the birth of a child with a disability be less shocking and more of the joy it should be.

Anyways, I can understand both sides, and would understand why you chose not to, if you choose not to. I just wanted to share my thoughts on why I would want answers earlier.
Best of luck to you, and keep us updated.

[chantal21]

Ok, I totally see both sides. I've never been in a situation like this, but I understand you want to know to prepare yourself, and your hubby doesn't want to take the risk. If it were my hubby telling me that, I would just go with him on it. Personally I am terrified of needles and you could only prepare yourself but so much, ya know? But this is honestly a choice you will have to make ultimately. I'm sorry you have to go through this. God won't give you more than you can handle. I would just prepare yourself now, either way. I'm sure she will be loved so much! =) I wish you the best dear!!