Fear of Pregnancy - bf

[azeroth99]

Hi Everybody,

Here is my problem. My girlfriend has been on the pill for a couple years now. In May this year we had sex a couple of times without a condom, only combined birth control pill, and then my OCD kicked in and I got lost in fears that she might have gotten pregnant. She always assured me that she is taking the pill religiously and she's not taking any antibiotics, etc,... the following month she got her withdrawal bleed on time and normal, and so did she get all the w. bleeds normally for the past 7 months. During this time on occasions I got extremely anxious, and I made her take a couple pregnancy test, first two after 2 months from last time we had sex both turned negative, second time, a Clear Blue test after 3 months turned negative too. Now you are wondering where is the problem..(I feel stupid) I find myself still very anxious that she may be pregnant and I loose sleep over this. Last time we had sex was 7 months ago, she had all the withdrawal bleeds and 3 negative pregnancy tests, she had no pregnancy symptoms and she is not showing anything. All I need is an expert's advice on that, just to convince me that there is really no way that she might be pregnant. Since the last time she took a test (end of August) till now (December) I was completely relaxed and now I came across an article about women who had no idea they were pregnant for all the 9 months, which I find kinda ridiculous, but OCD is killing me even though I know that the chances are low, but knowing that there may still be a slight chance is enough to cause huge anxiety.
I would very appreciate I someone could give their advice, opinion on that case, and hopefully ease my fears. Do you think there is a slight reason to worry about that, negative tests, birth control pill and no symptoms for 7 months?
I know it sound ridiculous, but anxiety disorders can do all sorts of black magic on your brain.

Thank You!

[TophersGirl89]

I agree w some of the posts, but for you, if you have a fear of your gf being pregnant that bad then dont have sex. Im assuming your young as in under 21? If you cant physically and mentally take care of a child, DO NOT have SEX! Birth control or not she can get prego from one time od having sex. Nothing guarentees you wont get prego unless u dont have sex. Now if ur old enough to handle the repercussions that come along w sex and ur just scares bc u dont want it now, keep wearing a rubber and have her continue her birth control. Make sure u talk to her about it and get her idea of what she wants as far as kids. Sex is a very intimate thing and u should have trust in her if ur that intimate, just my opinnion.

[angelab2012]

I have to say first of all my mother had my oldest. Brother and DID NOT know she was pregnant. But this was 42 years ago before ultrasounds all the technology.  But she had no clue wore her jeans and was thin then didn't feel movement had her periods as normal NOW SYMPTOMS. At all..  Now the main question noo there is noo way shed be pregnant plzzz try and easy your mind that stress is bad for u;)

[MelissaHainsworth]

I agree with Nat fox pay for a scan that way u will know for 100% nothin will be more accurate than a actual scan of her tummy.

[mysunshine89]

If you aren't ready to have children, use protection. If she can't take the pill for medical reasons then maybe a birth control shot would be a good idea because there is no risk of forgetting to take it. You clearly have either trust issues, are too young, or have some other reason to not want your girlfriend to be pregnant with your child. You haven't had sex in 7 months because of this fear and you need to either get a grip that without protection she can get pregnant or use protection. But you should make sure that you are both on the same page about having children because if she wants them soon/now/later and you don't, maybe unprotected sex or wasting your time together when your on different paths is unwise. Best of luck.

[Punk23]

Trust her. She knows her body better than anyone. I'm 12 weeks and I knew I was pregnant even before I missed a period. In the mean time, maybe you should see a doctor yourself and get some of that anxiety under control.

[jastv]

If you have no knowledge about sex/pregnancy then dont have sex! Lol

[NatFox]

I am guessing that mamacitas baby started to move by that time :) by 7 month it would be all over the place and you would be able to feel and probably see it yourself. And your gf would be waking up in the night to go to the toilet few times lol. I am only 18 weeks and do that already hehe.
Don't worry and stop reading all the rubbish on the internet lol :) good luck.

[MamacitaTP]

I always thought it was impossible to not know if you were pregnant- but my ignorant self ended up finding out I was pregnant at 23 weeks after I felt a kick and took a test :) I had no symptoms, had monthly bleeding and everything. I am quite athletic and I didn't start noticably showing until about 27 weeks (everyone's different).  With that being said, I have stronger core muscles, so finally when I did start popping out, it was painful! :/

With your girlfriend, I can almost guarantee you she isn't and there's no need to worry. Unless she is quite overweight (I remind you, everyone is different) she should have quite the belly! WIth all the negative tests, and no symptoms I feel like you should put your mind at ease :)

And if double protection makes you feel better- go for it!

[azeroth99]

Thank you for the reply :)

At first she completely freaked out about my worries, since she did not understand how convincing anxiety disorder can be and she thought that I had completely lost my mind. But then, when I explained to her what OCD is and when she read about it, it was easier for her to discuss my fears. Even though she kinda understands it, it is still awkward to discuss that with her and she thinks I'm crazy. I decided to ask at a health forum, since I don't have anybody else to really talk to. She was at least willing to consider double protection, which helped me a lot, but in order for her to take a pregnancy test, we went through a bunch of fights (you are nuts, etc...), but it was worth it, it gave me peace of mind for the past 4 months. Now the fears came back after reading those crazy articles. I agree with you, I cannot imagine something like that happen. I'm glad you don't believe in those stories either, it helps me ease my fears a lot knowingI'm not the only one. Reading those general forums (yahoo,...) just ignites my anxiety, there are so many general population people just writing stuff they hear on TV. But honestly, even though I don't completely believe them, OCD can do all sorts of crazy stuff with you. You understand the low risk, don't believe in those stories 100%, but then you still loose sleep over it. Whenever I hear something from a person involved in the certain kind of field and not some random yahoo.com user, it helps me a lot.

[NatFox]

Personally i don't believe in those stories about being pregnant and not knowing about it :) baby is big and it moves about. If you are worried soooo much maybe you could pay for a scan. Then you will see there is nothing there. How does your gf react to your worries?