Found out pregnant at 30 weeks.

[heyhihellobaby]

I am 19 years old and just 6 weeks ago I found out I was 30 weeks pregnant. I am now 36 weeks and 1 day. I want to say that I promise this isn't a joke, and this really isn't a lie. And I'm posting on here because I'm scared, I have a lot of questions and I'd really like some support and some good answers. 6 weeks ago, i woke up in the morning with my stomach really tight and hard to the point where it was unbearably uncomfortable. I called my mom from my room and let her feel my stomach. She immediately told me something didn't seem right and said we should go to the doctor. I went to my family doctor and he came in and did a check up, and felt my stomach. He looked at me funny and said "I would like for you to go get some xrays. But first you need to go here to get a pregnancy test." Obviously he thought that I could be pregnant because I had been to the doctor before for X-rays and he never referred me to get a pregnancy test first. That started to freak me out. Although I knew there was no possible way I could be pregnant because I was having my regular periods (they were usually months apart because I had irregular periods) So I agreed to go get a test at the hospital. They took urine and a blood test and it came out positive. I was so shocked. I had no idea this could have happened and never thought it would happen to me. The doctor came in and said that he needed to admit me to a room and start me on an iv because they had no idea how far along I could be and also the baby has had no prenatal care. They gave me something to put on and the doctor came in. She felt my stomach (to find my uterus to see about how far along she thought I was) and it was already above my belly button! She was shocked, and looked frightened honestly. And said "You are about 28-30 weeks pregnant" I looked at her in disbelief. There was no way. I was tiny and hadn't gotten any bigger. Not even a baby bump. It seemed completely impossible. They took me in to do an emergency ultrasound and it turned out I'm having a healthy baby girl. And was told she weighed 4.2 pounds!

It's been 6 weeks, and now that I know I'm pregnant I've been eating as much as I want and can so I've grown some! I have a noticeable belly now. But it's still tiny! I have so many questions. How bad to contractions hurt before 3-4 centimetres? If i can sit through a large tattoo on my ribs will an epidural hurt? And can you feel the pain after it? I'm getting better about not bein scared about labor but I'd like to hear some answers and story's to make me feel better! Thanks. (Sorry this was so long I had to get it all out!)

[Stephanithaog]

The process of getting an epidural lasts 30 minutes, but you won't even care what they do to you if you're in enough pain to need one. I made the mistake of waiting until I was 7cm gone to get an epidural when my obgyn put it in my plan that I could get one when I reached 4cm... I suggest you do it as early as you can so you have time to rest. It's really not that bad compared to contractions.

[Heatherm4]

Wow, amazing. Congrats to you. It is a scary thing and yes you haven't had all those months to prepare but you'll make it!

I can't tell you what the epidural is like but I can tell you I got a tattoo at 17 years old and bawled my eyes out but somehow was able to give birth naturally (by choice) to two babies! So I think you'll be strong enough :)

As far as the Dad, I agree that he should know. What he does or doesn't do with that information is completely up to him. This should be a big decision that will overall not just effect him but it'll effect your daughters life as well. It could help him quit his lifestyle and give your daughter a father that loves her.

[KTowne]

Sometimes big events, like a child, YOUR child, coming into the world, will change your life completely. Some men will man up and step up, some men won't. If you told him now, he has that opportunity, if he doesn't, too bad for him, he's missing out on a blessing, if you tell him years down the road, your little girl is going to be so confused as to who this man is, and that she DOES have a dad. Also, not sure where you live or the laws, but if you don't let him know and he finds out years down the road and tries to take you for custody (not saying he's going to, and from the road he's on now, probably won't) he may get extra time with her for the time he missed out on. Just something to think about. Honestly, I found out I was pregnant at 3 1/2 weeks, and at 18 weeks found out it was a girl, and I have everything already, and I'm only 22 weeks, so you can prepare yourself physically quickly, mentally might take some catching up, haha!

[macylynn93]

Wow ur story is truly amazing...im 18 and 17w4d congratulations on your babygirl(:!!

[dystanie]

the good news is that you found out you were pregnant and that shes healthly. i was 19 when i had my son and hes now 15months old. labor is painful but youll beable to handle pain. i recieved an epidural and it wasnt as bad as i thought it was going to be and im afraid of needles. it made the pain go away for a bit and allowed me to rest. as for child birth idk because i had to have a c-section. dont stress out so much youll do just fine. as for the father i agree with you its the person who loves her and raises her. good luck with the rest of your pregnancy:)

[sorenr]

If you managed the pain of a tattoo on your ribs, you'll manage childbirth just fine. It's not always a long, painful experience. My last child (my third) was born within 3hrs of my first contraction!

I totally understand not wanting to tell the father with his lifestyle being as it is just now, I would likely do the same. The one thing I would suggest is to keep some record of who he is and when your daughter starts to ask questions, you can start to gently explain who he is and why he isnt around. When she is old enough, she may want to find him and make the choice for herself and she will appreciate your support on that if thats the choice she makes as an adult.

Congratulations on your wonderful little surprise, I hope it all goes well for you and you have some time to let the news sink in properly and be prepared before she decides to make her grand appearance!