how to get my babys father to come around

[Mommy1stNewborn]

I'm 19 weeks and my baby's father still haven't came alone,I don't know if he's just don't care or he just DON'T CARE ...But what can I do?  I tried talking to him, I just need him!  I don't want my kid having a empty spot where her father suppose to be ..I'll do anything to get him to see how important it will be to me and the baby ..any advice

[Mommy1stNewborn]

You ladies are so right, thanks so much for the advice..i appreciated it and it was well needed ..God bless you all.  ;)

[TatiSevani_]

just like the ladies said above you have to think about yourself and your baby. if he want to come around then he will you cant force no one to there for your baby. my baby's father ***** but he trying to be around im not forcing him to leave or stay that's his choice me and him is not together but at the end of the day i have to worry about my son and myself you don't have time to worry a dude who don't care about you or your baby but time will only time sweetie good luck .

[Nichole05]

Just like mommyofaria said  there is nothing you can do to make him be there for you and your child, any man can make a baby but making that baby does not make him a father. Its totally going to be his choice as to how involved he wants to be. I know personally that it is very painful to cope with but life goes on, if he chooses not to be in your childs life trust me in the end he will feel way more hurt than you or your child will ever feel. I was lucky enough to marry a man that accepted my daughter for his own and he is the only man that she has ever called daddy. So just focus on being the best mom you can and make sure that your baby has all the love in the world and you both will be fine!

[kmarier4]

The best thing I could say is a women becomes a mother when she get pregnant a man becomes a father when he holds his baby for the 1 St time I went through my 1 St pregnancy by myself and I was only 15 I am now 20 and having my second with my husband don't worry about how he's taking it if it was planed he might be in shock and it will take time just take care of your self

[mommyofaria]

Sweetie first off you don't "need" him! You can talk until your lips fall off....you can try until your body gives out...he WON'T do anything until he wants to...if in deed he does!....you can't and won't make him be there for his child..its his choice....yes it would be nice for him to be there for his child...but there are plenty of women who raise their kids as single moms and the babies don't even care about not having a father....he WON'T do anything.unless he wants to...focus more on your baby and stop trying to make him do something that he may not want to do.