Help I really dont no what to do!!

[fudge1987]

I went 2 the ER in the womens hospital a few weeks ago as I had a small pain in my abdomin, I thought I was about 5weeks pregnant from my LMP but I'm not very regular abd have never had a regular period due date. They arranged for me to come back when I was 6weeks as they said I would not be able to see anything. Went for the scan they said they could not confirm that I was pregnant as they could c sumthing but not anything 2 suggest it was a gestation. Arranged another US for the next week, gestation meausured 5 1/2wks but no fetal pole seen, US arranged for the next week. No fetal pole seen gestation sac suggests I should be 6-7wks. Tjey have suggested I take a pill to remove it, I can have an op or I can let nature take its course. I have decided 2 wait an c an I'm secretly hoping it is all a mistake but I wonder if anyone has any advise or if they have experienced anything similar? I've had no bleeding and they say if I don't bleed in a week I should go back to have it removed but I don't want to regret doing anything just incase. Thanks!

[Lowlow78]

I agree. Wait. I hate it when soca are quick to end a pregnancy. It's yours not thiers.

[JoyRenee]

It is wise to wait. They cannot force you to do/take anything.

[spade22]

Whenever there is any uncertainly it is a good idea to wait.  That said, from what you have said you need to be prepared for the worst.  While cramps and pain are normal, and conception can occur at a later date than expected, it is not a good sign that over the course of a week the gestational sac has grown from a measured age of 5.5 weeks to 6-7 weeks but a fetal pole was not observed (this starts to form during week 5).

[MissmyAngel]

I agree, I think they are jumping the gun on things. Cramping and pains are normal. I would wait it out too. Good luck!

[tobbeyj]

I would WAIT and see what happens not next week but in a few weeks. My doc REFUSES to even give an ultrasound until aprox 12 to avoid this stress that you are going through. I would DEFINITELY not make any drastic decisions to terminate this pregnancy and at a 5-6 week ultrasound I think the docs are ABSURD to even offer that to you. With my last pregnancy, my hubby and I went in at 5 weeks and they saw nothing, then told me to return the next week and we did and got a heartbeat. Unfortunately it did end in a miscarriage but this does not mean yours will. You will see all over this forum that DUMB DOCS have put sooo many women through unnecessary stress for giving early ultrasounds. The other thing I would like to say is that docs in the ER do not specialize in pregnancy and many have little knowledge about it. This is my personal experience with my last miscarriage. Many ER docs do not even know how to give a proper ultrasound. Find a good OB and start to see them about this. Good luck. I hope this all works out for the best. Stay Hopeful!  Hugs!