Just wanna give up *vent warning*

[Kimejo_81]

After everything that went on with my 13 yr old last night. I feel worthless, like a POS...not worth anything.  The things that BOY said to me I would have taken a full grown man out for!! But because society is so ****** up we aren't even allowed to slap our children for speaking to us this way. When I was a kid my mom woulda knocked the shot out of me and I would have deserved it but bet your *** I would not have ever disrespected her that way again! Kids have NO respect for their parents and the damn public schools encourage it!! Mind you My 13 year old hasn't until just recently started pulling this crap. I demand respect in my house but his stupid dad encourages him to treat me like crap!! I am SO over it!! My hormones are raging and I don't know what to do. I can't stop crying and just feel like there is no hope. He strait up said he wants nothing to do with this baby and to get rid of it or him.......

[Bri_1985]

Wow... I was gonna say roughly the same thing but based off my effed up relationship with my Mom. Didnt realize mods actually read our posts when there wasnt any complaints. Kinda cool though :)

Anyway! I agree with the mod.

[Kirstie_MHModerator]

Oh, those teenagers can be MONSTROUS, eh?  

I'm not speaking with any special "moderator insight" here, just as a now older mom who has been through this phase with four teenage boys.  Their hormones are raging and they don't know what to do with them - they lose control of their emotions, and they seem to lose all sense of what is appropriate to say.  This doesn't excuse his behavior, but it's been my experience that they all go through a phase of being downright foul and disrespectful.  If he can achieve a reaction from you, then he's reached his goal.

Unless his behavior escalates, or you're threatened with physical violence, please understand that you kind of just have to hold your breath and make it through this period, and it will pass.  We still have one in that phase, and there are plenty of times when me walking out of the room is the best thing for my own sanity.

[lizzie89]

sorry to hear that. I remeber when my sister got spanked by my dad she called the cops and my dad told them that they are not going to tell them how to discipline his children and to get out of our house so they left they ddnt make a big deal about it. if my son ever talks to me in a bad way he will be in trouble and I wont care if he calls the cops. Also ur son might be going through a stage where he just feels all grown up. just try to calm down and if u give him time to think of what he  has done he might apologize

[hayang]

Me and my brother, wanted nothing to do with out younger sibling when he first came (he's 3, i'm 20 and my brother is 21). We were content with life exactly as it was. But my mom was pregnant and we had to deal. I was my mom's labor coach for my lil bro, but as soon as he was born, I left the hospital. I eventually came around after seeing him and holding him and just observing how much he reacted to my voice. My brother however, took months to come around. But now, my brother is one of my lil bros main care takers.
And just fyi, my brother said something very disrespectful to my mom before and she LITERALLY punched him square in the face. He never spoke like that to her again. lol.

[Kimejo_81]

Thank you ladies for all the advice.

[lovemykids319]

Im about to be 23 & my mom be like that her hands itch when my sister and i argue lol