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If I have a boy he wont be . My husband isn't and I don't think of him any different so the idea of embarassment to me isn't a concern. I also did some research and men that are not are proven to have better sensations during sex and as far as hygiene goes I believe it comes down to teaching your child how to properly clean themselves not whether the foreskin is present
I have 2 boys- neither is circumcised! My husband isn't either and never ever had a problem. That skin is there for a reason!
If we have a boy I gave the choice to my boyfriend and in a heartbeat he said yes. He was when was in 4th grade because that is how they do it over in Samoa. So if it is a boy he will get it done right after he is born.
We had a boy and opted not to. This is always an interesting debate as so much of the decision seems to be based on where you live and cultural backgrounds. I live in Canada, and here it is no longer the norm to circumcise, so we were not worried about him looking "different" then other kids. My husband is circumcised, but had no strong opinion either way. I feel this is a very personal decision. The main reason we opted not to is there just didn't seem to be any reason to do it. We did get opinions from Pedi's and the general comment was "what for?". Again, here it is no longer common practice. And I also do not feel it is dirty not to. Always interesting to hear other's opinions. Oh, and as for cleaning it..the foreskin should not be pulled back until they are at least 3 if I am remembering what our Pedi said. My son is 2 now, and we have had absolutely no infection or health issues in that area.
I think you talking to your son about his foreskin on his penis is like your father explaining to you, about your period. My son is circumcised and has never had a UTI or any infections. You can go with them to get it done and never in my life have I heard circumcised boys getting made fun of... Maybe if you live in some foreign country. As far as Americans, more than half the population has been circumcised. I don't have a penis but I'm a mom therefore I can make the right decision with or without my husbands decision to prevent infections in the long run. I'm a nursing student and there are facts to prove that.
No!
For soooooo many reasons...many mentioned above.
My husband is not and he is NOT dirty and he does not look strange and he was not picked on.
For soooooo many reasons...many mentioned above.
My husband is not and he is NOT dirty and he does not look strange and he was not picked on.
My baby boy is due in july, we will not be circumsizing him. Its only done for looks in my opinion, if u keep it clean wich u should b doing anyway, no issues. And as far as guys without it being done growing up insecure? Lol my hubby is uncircumsized and he has no shame! If my boy is anything like daddy i kno confidence wnt be an issue :)
It probably is hurting them to pull it back because it isn't meant to be pulled all the way back until a little boy is much older. Don't quote me because I read it before my son was born but I believe not until they are almost school age.
My son is fully intact and I do clean it for sure, I only pull it back a wee bit in order to clean the tip.
I think for sake of cleanliness, it's a responsibility of us as parents to teach them how to clean themselves. Just like a girl is taught to wipe front to back, a boy should be taught to pull back his foreskin and clean himself. It's not that difficult to do.
My son is fully intact and I do clean it for sure, I only pull it back a wee bit in order to clean the tip.
I think for sake of cleanliness, it's a responsibility of us as parents to teach them how to clean themselves. Just like a girl is taught to wipe front to back, a boy should be taught to pull back his foreskin and clean himself. It's not that difficult to do.
I live in the UK and circumcision is just something that is not done here, unless for religious reasons. Any cases of infection I've ever known is because of STD's. For myself, I believe that men are born with a foreskin for a reason so why remove it? There is just no need, medically.
I do believe that each to their own. But reading some of your comments a lot of you are very misinformed on why you chose to do it in the first place. I'm not bashing anyone for doing because it is a personal choice but seems like many just do it because their husbands have done it or people they know without actually doing the research into it.
I agree with Ashelen - we as women don't really have much of a right to decide whether to do it to our sons or not because we don't have a penis and we don't know what it is. A husband/partner can and by letting them do a lot of research they can then come to an informed decision about whether to do it or not.
I do believe that each to their own. But reading some of your comments a lot of you are very misinformed on why you chose to do it in the first place. I'm not bashing anyone for doing because it is a personal choice but seems like many just do it because their husbands have done it or people they know without actually doing the research into it.
I agree with Ashelen - we as women don't really have much of a right to decide whether to do it to our sons or not because we don't have a penis and we don't know what it is. A husband/partner can and by letting them do a lot of research they can then come to an informed decision about whether to do it or not.
Both my boys are circumsised one cryed when he had it done and one was smiling and didn't feel a thing! My first boyfriend wasn't circumsised (b4 I knew what circumsision was) and he desperately wanted to have it done!! It's a lot cleaned and all that extra skin hanging down just looks discusting. Your son will Thankyou when he's older..
Im a cna, iv seen infected ones. Its the scareist thing in the world. I think u have a choice, but ppl that dont. Make sure youll know how to clean them. The stuff from the dipers get in them. And it hurts bad to pull them back and wipe them clean. And put cream on them. U can also get alot of uti.s with it.
Basically as women do. My son is. And im so thankful he is. I watchd as the doc did it. And he gave me the cutting device they used. I kept them. Anyways, ask ur doc. How to keep them clean. If u dont know how.
Basically as women do. My son is. And im so thankful he is. I watchd as the doc did it. And he gave me the cutting device they used. I kept them. Anyways, ask ur doc. How to keep them clean. If u dont know how.
Im 17 and 25 weeks pregnant and every at my schook teases guys who are circumsized more then the ones that arent actually. i have been with guys who are both and i would rather they werent im having a boy and i wont be its not my body to choose what to do with it and im aure when he is older and asks me why some boys are different ill tell him the truth about what doctors do to babies
At present, around 80 per cent of US males have been circumcised, mostly for non-religious reasons. The frequency of newborn circumcision has fallen in the USA from 90 per cent in the 1950s to around 60 per cent today.
This is a fact that I pulled off one of the medical websites that informs about circumcision. So if you do live in the US I would not out rule circumcision because it is the norm. In the UK it said only 20% of the population was circumcised so I can see why nobody would want too.
This is a fact that I pulled off one of the medical websites that informs about circumcision. So if you do live in the US I would not out rule circumcision because it is the norm. In the UK it said only 20% of the population was circumcised so I can see why nobody would want too.
To pierce your baby girl's/boy's ears or not, different part of the body but same general idea. To each their own. A pregnant woman with a breech baby, to opt for a c-section or try to flip him/her. Whether or not to turn your child forward facing in a car seat before their second birthday. There are SO many choices about our children that we make on a daily basis. For personal, circumstantial, whatever reason. If you choose or don't choose to circumcise your son, IMO, it is up to the parents, period. There is no right or wrong, just like it has been said many times already. As parents we have the authority to make choices involving our children's lives, bad, good, right, wrong, they're always going to be looked at different by another person, because there are no two people exactly the same. What's best for one, may not be best for another. Circumcision is a personal choice, no matter the reason. The end result of said decision is right in every way for everyone, because you are doing what you think best.
mommyssbby815 you're absolutely right...british doctors surgeries are just full of infected penises!! I have NEVER had a bf with an infection caused by foreskin nor have I ever had to take my nearly 8 yr old son to the docs for an infection in his dinkle
It is NOT a medically proven fact...and is done for very different reasons NOT hygene ones...it is clearly a personal choice and I would hate to offend anyone...I'm not trying to say I am against it, just pointing out that there are clearly misconceptions about the necessity of it...
It is NOT a medically proven fact...and is done for very different reasons NOT hygene ones...it is clearly a personal choice and I would hate to offend anyone...I'm not trying to say I am against it, just pointing out that there are clearly misconceptions about the necessity of it...
with all due respect to both sides of this lively debate, please state your personal choice and your reason for or against. no need to attack or even refer to any other responders. rudeness will not be tolerated and the moderators will be forced to close this thread. we are all adults and can debate respectfully, or not at all. there is no right or wrong answer because we all love our babies and do what we feel us best by trusting our hearts... there are reasons both for and against that are compelling.
thanks ladies!
hope everyone has a great weekend ahead :-)
-Co-CL Ashelen
thanks ladies!
hope everyone has a great weekend ahead :-)
-Co-CL Ashelen
mommyssbby815-I think your clearly uneducated, misinformed about the subject and very rude and direspectful to those who do not believe in it... your research is very much one sided, in canada the CPS does not recommend routine circumcision for newborn boys as it is not medically necessary(so the "so it for their health" is not supported BY THE EXPERTS?!)... some parents still often do so for religious, social, or cultural reasons, and it is allowed... but its not supported based on a specific health reason... please try to have some respect for the topic at hand, it is a very touchy one and like i said before there are ways of posting what you prefer in a nicer way that isnt insulting any others choices
Jwilliams229 my one friend had to take her son back to get it redone as it wasnt dont correctly and wasnt detaching and she had to hold her baby and help the Dr... i think i would have BARFED!! and im a nurse! lol ive watch surgeries in the OR and helped with nasty proceedures, ive looked after gangreen for f sakes but the thought of having to watch that happen to my baby... i would have refused to be in the room if it was me!! on a side note... if they are not done perfectly its easy to have scar tissue build up that can cause sex to be painful later in life.... i didnt tell my friend this as she is for circumcision and i respect that, and obviously if by chance there was damage, its already done... so could you imagine watching that up close!!! ahhh!
Jwilliams229 my one friend had to take her son back to get it redone as it wasnt dont correctly and wasnt detaching and she had to hold her baby and help the Dr... i think i would have BARFED!! and im a nurse! lol ive watch surgeries in the OR and helped with nasty proceedures, ive looked after gangreen for f sakes but the thought of having to watch that happen to my baby... i would have refused to be in the room if it was me!! on a side note... if they are not done perfectly its easy to have scar tissue build up that can cause sex to be painful later in life.... i didnt tell my friend this as she is for circumcision and i respect that, and obviously if by chance there was damage, its already done... so could you imagine watching that up close!!! ahhh!
After watching a YouTube video if I was going to before def not now. Everyone should watch it. I could never do that to my child.
I agree with Lesley- they are born with that skin for a reason. It also has benefits when they are TTC later in life as well.
I personally couldn't do it to my little boy. DH isn't but he kind of wanted to because of the whole "locker room" ordeal- that seems like a dumb reason to me.
I personally couldn't do it to my little boy. DH isn't but he kind of wanted to because of the whole "locker room" ordeal- that seems like a dumb reason to me.
Evie1029 and Lesley27 said it wonderfully. I live in the US and know several guys who are not. my dh being one of them. The guys who are not are bigger!!!! they fill the foreskin completely when they get hard. Just think you are cutting some length off of your son. My hubby was never picked on and said that he would not do it to his boys. my mom is a nurse and said it is about the same when cleaning it. I can also tell u men who dont have it are more sensitive.
I knew of several boys who have been that have had problems. One little boy i know his mom has to put meds on it every few months because it starts to bleed and hurt when it grows.
to me it is unnecessary pain for the child.
thats the thing! to us it seems strange to even have to consider it...I know its probably still xommon in some religions here, but is certainly not 'the norm'! I dont envy you all having to make a decision on aethetics, if there was a medical reason then obviously it would be an easy choice, but when its down to looks and what youre used to....wow, I definately do not envy you poor mums that decision!!
In the US I've never seen any guy that's not circumcised and all my friends have said the same. I guess if I had only seen uncircumcised than that would be the norm, and it wouldn't be a big deal.
I'm having a boy and my DH and I decided that he will be because my husband is. We talked about it together and that is what we decided.
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