Sexual attraction

[macylynn93]

Me an my fiancé haven't really had sex much lately and I catch him ejaculating while he is in the shower...has anyone else had this problem? It makes me feel pretty bad because I've gained 29 pounds since I've been pregnant and I think I look so gross that he doesn't even wanna touch me anymore, it worries me badly....any advice :(

[yeagerbomb]

wow i dont know when i was pregnant with both my boys their always wanna to have sex lol he loved it maybe thats weird but he said after i had my first one and we found out bout the second he was happy he always said pregnant ***** is always wet and swollen

[smybax]

Me and my boyf dont have sexmuch since bein pregnant mainly because i.dont want to. it wudnt offend me if he masturbated it. now if he cheated, id have something to say theb

[crstl11]

I hate for my hubby to masterbate...especially since we have sex just about everyday since we have been together (our 4 year anniversary is Mon) we have been together 5 years. But I agree talk to him. It may make a differance.

[mrsnelson2010]

Its totally normal hun! But talk to him about it..with my first my husband was afraid he was going to hurt the baby..once the dr assured him he wouldnt it was back to normal. My husband goes into overdrive with his libido when im pregnant! We only do it MAYBE twice a month. :/ i feel so huge and gross i dont even want it. Poor thing has been practically begging me for it for a week now. :/

[macylynn93]

Well ima try and see how it goes. We have never really been too worried about the baby because we know she is perfectly fine as hard as she kicks and punches me lol but I hope I can work some magic I'm only 23+6 so sex hasn't gotten uncomfortable yet. But we will see. (:

[jennylynn198817]

I know how you feel at first it didn't bother me so much that my bf would watch porn on his phone and jerk off but we haven't had sex since June and doctors orders we can't since I'm on bed rest and had to have a cerclage put in and it seems like he does it constantly and I've even broke down and cried and told him how I feel I told him how do you think it makes me feel knowing I can't please you even though he says he thinks about me but it doesn't help plus the dreams I've had lol I told him yesterday don't get made if you wake up in the middle of the night with me beating you because of a dream I had lol

[OorahMommy]

My husbands the same way and I thought oh crap I'm in trouble but when I confronted his about it he looked so sad and said he felt bad having sex with me because he doesn't want to hurt me or the baby. Since then we have tried new positions that work for both of us so me and the baby aren't squished and he is more comfortable. Talk to him about it you may be surprised at the answer you get. Good luck :)

[macylynn93]

He also watches porn which honestly doesn't bother me, we have watched it together before...but we usually do it like 2-3 times a week. And we haven't done anything this week. He has jerked off and I asked him why do it himself because when I'm in the mood he has already done it or not in the mood. I guess I will never understand it. I'ma try a little something tonight and see if it works lol maybe he will lay off the masterbating awhile! Wish me luck if I don't chicken out first! I've gotten insecure about my body :(

[HeatherLF16]

Guys get really weird when you are pregnant with their child.  My husband didn't want hardly anything to do with sex while I was pregnant with our son (I had a miscarriage right before we conceived him so I think he was concerned about that).  Then, when I was in my third trimester I was on bed/pelvic rest....so once I was in the clear for that he really wanted nothing to do with it because he was scared it would hurt me/baby and send me immediate into labor.  Then of course is the 6 weeks after where you are off limits.  I was really scared our sex life wouldn't return.  But, after the baby came it went right back to normal...even with a couple extra lbs from pregnancy left.  It has nothing to do with how you look even though it can feel like it.  

[Chuy1Maria11]

True better him whatch porn then to cheat!

[Mamabays]

I don't think open has anything to do with the looks. It's just the action. I asked my hubby why he watches and he says he watches for the action not the looks. Still weird but hey I would rather him watch a porn to go **** some girl.

[Chuy1Maria11]

I kno how you feel me nd my hubby r still active but i just found out he whatches porn while im asleep am i tht ugly? Just talk to him i am when he wakes up!

[emmaftm]

My bf and i havent had sex since finding out we were having a girl at 20w + 4d!!!  He says his daughter doesnt need to hear us having sex, to be honest im relieved he doesnt want sex, im so tired and feel like a whale and sex was uncomfy. Im 30w + 5d now and i know my bf masterbates cos he tells me, better than him going elsewhere!

[KTowne]

I agree, it's normal. My husband and I are going through the same thing right now, not having much sex, I'm 28w4d, and we have sex maybe once a week (a BIG difference in what it used to be!) And if he was to masturbate it wouldn't be a big issue for me, just because honestly, I'm not giving it to him, not that he isn't interested in me, he lovvves me pregnant, and I'd rather he do it himself than go to someone else for it! It's normal, and I hope you don't take it personal. You'd rather he gets off and isn't acting like a grump all the time because he's not getting any, haha! If it bothers you to where you don't want him to do it, make sure you're not embarrassing him, because that will make it worse. Good luck!!

[windyMae]

It is completely normal for him to jerk off.. Most likely he's always done it.. It's just how guys are.. Most of them can have sex and then still pleasure themselves not much later.. It really has nothing to do with you.. He could be with a supermodel and he would still do it.. Maybe you can talk to him about it if it would make you feel better, but try not to tell him it's wrong or make him feel embarrassed, just tell him how it makes you feel..