So upset with DH

[DollChina]

DH seems to think he should be able to go out with his buddy once a week.  I don't think he should with a 19 month old and I am 8 months pregnant.  He went 2 weeks in a row this month and I didn't want thim to go last night because I was so tired from my out of town meeting and I was achy everywhere.  Of course, we had a fight.  He thinks I am trying to control his every move.  But what man goes out weekly when their wife is 8 months pregnant?  He said he needs some space sometime and I was like then be a single guy.  I am sorry once you are a parent, you rarely have that luxury.  I don't mind him going every once in a while but not weekly.  I have plan to go out to dinner with a firend of mine tonight bcause it's her birthday and I think that's why he wanted to go out last night because I get too.  I think it's a bunch of BS.  I don't go out weekly but maybe once a month.  I don't know if it's my hormones or what but I don't seem to be ablt to reason with him.  I think he is a BIG A HOLE

[betty12]

hey there i totally agree with you my husband never really goes out cuz i let him buy beer and stuff if he wants to when he gets off work. but i actull asked him if he would go out if i was 8 months preg and he said no he would be scared to leave you home alone, especially with an 18month old. sop yeah i think your husband is taking it a little over board.

[JOLOR]

I have read a few of the convos here and your responses.  Have you tried to arrange a date together?  Why does everything fall on him?
Like everyone else has said...girls are completely 'wired' differently than guys.  They don;t get hints and when you yell at them it basically goes in one ear and out the other.
Instead of giving altamadiums (sp?) try to have a NICE talk where both of you can get out some feelings.  Once you start pointing your fingers at each other then something turns off inside and all you can think about is what you are going to say next...instead of listenin to each other.

Maybe you are a little jelous that he goes out so often, and yeah, who wouldn;t be, but those are choices.  You could do the same if you wanted to right?  He could stay home once a week with the kids while you go out?

Bst of luck to you!  and Congrat on your new baby!

[mami1323]

Ah men....I had the same arguments with my fiance when I was pregnant.  I think once a week is way too much.  It's really too much, especially when you are far along in your pregnancy and have a young little boy at home.  It's tiring as is just getting yourself through the day then to have to take care of the other child all by yourself while your dh chills once a week with his boys.  I think once a month is fine but not once a week.  Especially because you just struggle to spend alone time together.  I agree, that both of you need your mental breaks but it shouldn't be that frequent.  

I know when I was pregnant I was very selfish and wanted my fiance with me all the time, but hey I think I should get what I want during those 40 weeks that I'm carrying another life inside of me.  

[Grandmatobe]

This reminds me of when I was pregnant with my first child.  My husband would go out every Thursday night with his buddies to bar hop in this area of town that had a bunch of bars together.  They would play pool, darts, etc and he would stumble in around midnight.  I used to get sooooooo mad, because back then, I HATED to be alone.  I didn't know what to do with myself.

Once the kids came, I was more than glad to have alone time and we would trade off.  Even now, it has gotten to the point that my youngest and her family are living with us, so my husband is building a room in the backyard, so he can have all of the "alone" time he wants.  And guess what, I could care less now.  I guess that happens after being together for more than 30 years.

But, I still remember how hormonal I would get when he would go out with his buddies on those Thursday nights and leave me home alone and pregnant.  Looking back, I find it somewhat funny now.

Hopefully, you will come to a meeting of the minds on this one.  Good luck DollChina.

[gokuangel]

I have to agree thats waaaaaaaay tooo much!! you are so far along in ur pregnancy what would happen if u went into labor or something happened and he was gone? My DH and me we dont have kids (TTC hoping very soon compared to later) and he always stays with me no matter what!! Every once in a while he ll go and have drink with guys be he actually prefers to be with me and i thank god for that!! My first husband wanted to go out all the time drink party leave me at home (or work and pay all the bills) and as u can see he is now is my X!!!

[LauraB78]

This thread is just proof of how totally different (and fabulous) we all are.. Relationships are work, and ultimately we all have to do what works for ourselves within our own relationships.. Good luck Dollchina. I am sure you and DH will come to some sort of compromise! =)

Laura