No father figure

[Its_A_Boy2012]

So I need all advice comments statements ect. I'm 28weeks with a boy!! I'm soooo happy blessed thankful for my son. Unfortunately the father is not around. I don't care I'm not going to chase him I WILL do this alone. My only problem is my boy won't have a father figure. I can't throw a football I can't play basketball I don't have a penis so how can I show him how to pee when it's time??? It's just so much. I'm not doubting myself as a mother it's just certain things I feel I can't handle. I want my son to grow up to be a man! Who one day will make me proud. Can you ladies please ease my mind.

[PinkDiamonds7]

Do u have a brother ? I feel that it will work out for u my sister son which is 4 learn to lovw to play sports by watching them it makes better if you watch it with him.... now he loves it .. as for  the peeing thing.just show how step by step he will get thing hang of it  because of his mother right by hid side ....

[MamaBear0612]

You also have to realize that even if the dad was around, he wouldn't necessarily be a great football or basketball player, and many a woman has been the one to teach her son to pee because dad's too busy working or watching TV. My brothers and I grew up with my dad in the house, but my brothers weren't as athletic as I was, ironically...they were more the artistic and musical types. My dad would throw a ball around with me, but he wasn't exactly a star athlete lol...it's the thought and the effort that counts, and we can do that too. Put him on teams and he'll be fine. I plan to put my baby girl in soccer and karate by the time she's 3; even if she comes out girly-girl, hoping she'll have fun in some of the things I did.

[gokuangel]

So good to be reading every1 s stories im 36 wks with a boy and idk but i dont think his father is gonna be around! he has not been excited about this pg cus it was unplanned and we werent in a relationship and now hes moving out of state! so i ve been worried my family is all women i dont even know how to change a boys diaper! LOL! But i just want the best for my son and him to grow up happy!!

[Jennyjoelogan]

Im a single mother of a 3 year old boy and another boy on the way. I play with him i throw him the ball, we play baseball or football. We mothers can do the same as the fathers do. I taught my son to pee alone. We play pillow fight lol i do agree that every kid needs a father figure but when they dont have it we have to play that role.

[marigolds]

my fiance basically grew up with out a father. His dad who isn't even his biological dad was an a**. But you would not believe how many good male role models he has had. So don't worry. Just be strong for you and your little boy.

[Its_A_Boy2012]

I have 1 brother who ensures me my son will be alright and my son is the first grandchild so my father says he will come in town all the time and be around (he stays 45minutes away). They both know my situation and I'm so lucky to have them in my life.

[Trainermom]

My son who is now 5 has been without his father.  I have taught him everything, even to stand and pee.  It may seem daunting, but I have a feeling you will be just fine! :-)  As for the throwing of a football and playing sports you just do the best you can.  Do you have any make family members that wil be around?  I am lucky to have 2 older brothers that have shown him somethings, but he is a huge mommas boy.  If you have any other questions feel free to ask.  Also, don't be scared when your son wears your shoes, hes just showing how much he loves you :-)

[crystal725]

I was in the same situation with my first, fortunately, my son had my dad, uncle, and my friend's husband as positive male role models in his life, he still has all these with the addition of my husband now. It's not about knowing how to throw a football or shooting a basket, it's about just doing it with him. As he gets older he will know that you are there for him and love him and that is what will matter and what he will remember. Teach yourself how to be a kid again and just have fun.

[newmommy259]

You are welcome!

[Its_A_Boy2012]

For the comments so far THANK YOU LADIES!!! I appreciate it so much I'm feeling better already.

[babymama1985]

Im in the same situation. Im.26 weeks and no father in sight because well he cheated on me and is now with the girl. We talked for a little after I found that out but he has just made himself scarce. He asked me to call him.when I go in labor and I said no he said he would see me in court then lol trust me when I say this is all about the child support. That's all he has ever brought up. It sickens me. But I am def in the same predicament. Im having a boy too. I wouldn't worry about all that now...I know easier said than.done but make a list of priorities if that helps....right now you can give him everything he needs. Food shelter security love....that's what he needs as a baby. Do u have a good dad or a good brother?  Good make figure in your life that can be a role model for him when the time comes where he needs to learn those things? Im lucky that I have a good dad and an older brother who's a very good guy. But all I can say is that we ladies with little boys on the way have to be a little more than a woman sometimes. Its hard but try to worry about what's immediately in front of u at this point. Worry about all.that a little down the road.

[farO_jan]

My husband did not teach my son how to pee lol I potty trained him. And he was at work most of the time, doing night shifts and sleeping throughout the day. But if you have brothers, father, or take him to your exes family. I'm sure his grandfather would love to spend time with his grandchild. Don't stress about it though! You will definitely mean everything to your child!

[newmommy259]

I'm so sry your going thru this. Do you have a "man" friend in your life that could help you out, give advice etc?  About the peeing thing, boys are so easy just tjrow some cheerie o's in and tell him to hit them as he pees. I have done this several times with kids i babysit that i had to potty train. if you make it fun, he'll learn fast.  Good luck!! :)