This isn't going to make me popular....

[LauraB78]

I know this is going to upset a lot of you fantastic women on this board that are ttc. I had posted 2 weeks ago unsure what to do b/c of my situation...

I am 29 years old (until tomorrow..the big 3-0) and I am soo stressed out. My (ex) and I cannot have a conversation without screaming. He is so mean to me that I am starting to wonder if keeping this baby ( I am 8 weeks) is the right decision. This poor child will be brought into a world w/ parents whom are not only living totally seperately, but cannot stand each other. I have very little money, and this baby means I would have to find a place of my own. I currently have room mates and live in a super expensive area of the world and DOUBT I could continue living here. I have no family anywhere nearby, and even if they were, none are in a position to assist me.. I have NO idea what to do. I am totally stressed out. I need advice.

I have heard of programs to help single mother's and many are NOT available here. I LOVE my job and I love where I live. Having this baby means my lifestyle will totally take a downfall and I will lose my job, my demographic (so to speak) and everything semi-stable I do have. I am not a selfish person, but I honestly am doubting me decision. I know no one else can make it for me, but I am feeling helpless and lost... I swear I am not usually such a whiner but I have never been so depressed and lonely in all my life.


PLEASE ADVISE!!

[irrelevance]

Laura,
if you keep this baby, us ladies here on medhelp will undoubtedly be here for you every step of the way to answer ANY question you may have.. Even if it's not a question, just to be here for moral support, if it means anything to you. Good luck in your decision.

[LauraB78]

I had a transvaginal ultrasound last week, I saw the heartbeat..

It does change things, definitely.. But it didn't suddenly take all the worry away, unfortunately..   =)

I will figure it all out.. I just may be moving somewhere else and that is terrifying!

Thanks for all the support and input. There has been a TON of great advice on this thread and I appreciate it more than any of you will ever know!!

[kjbutcher]

If you need something to help you make the decision, go have a sonogram done.  If you are in love when you leave, keep it.  If you still have the same feelings when you leave then you know what to do.  I know when I left my sonogram it didnt matter if it was AJ and I against the world, I loved that baby and I wanted to protect him from everything.

[kjbutcher]

The decision is yours and I think it may have been you that I said this to before...if there is any thing in you that wants to keep this baby...do it!  You will not regret anything having to do with keeping the baby whether it be lose your job or your demographic. But I cant say the same for the other option.  Once the baby is born you can make it work.  You figure out how to piece it all together.  It just works.  If you decide not to keep the baby just make sure that is what you want for sure.  Make sure it isnt pregnancy hormones going nuts because once those hormones go away you dont want to be saying to yourself "what the f did I just do".  Good Luck with whatever decision you decide to make.  

[JoyRenee]

Laura, don't worry! You didn't start conflict. People just want their opinion heard. But quite honestly, whether *I* am pro-choice or pro-life doesn't matter and how someone else believes doesn't matter. It's what you believe ultimately that will affect your decision.

I'm glad you've decided to keep baby. You've still got almost a year to figure everything out and we're here for ya!

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I too am addicted to this board and I'm not even pregnant.  LOL  I have 5 kids and just want to help others if I can.

I know it will be hard but just know that you have a lot of support here if and when you need it.