Baby shower advice!

[Mrs_gab22]

So I'm a little concerned about having a shower for the fact that I don't want it to be combined with my husband's side of the family, only because I feel as if it may not go smoothly with both sides. My husband's side and mine have never been in the same location (besides my mom, and two sisters, his mom and father) we haven't had a wedding just yet, we just went down to city hall so therefore I don't know if both sides will get along. I know how my family can be and I know how is family can be..I wanted to do two different showers but the thing is he doesn't really have much family where we live but I have a lot so to me it would be a waste of time to have one just with his side of the family I don't know what to do really, what do you ladies think, should I have two or just hope the one combined will go well???..I'm 16+2 so not having a shower anytime soon, but this has been on my mind far too much.

[Mrs_gab22]

I'm just a little picky and have my own ideas and she is a dictator although I know she will agree with me if I'm stern about something I just don't want the stress, should I let her help completely?

[Mrs_gab22]

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[Mrs_gab22]

Thank you all for the comments/suggestions, I just don't want to go crazy when there is planning bein done for the shower so iI like to have things figured out in advance.. Also my husband's sister (his only other sibling)seems to want to have all access when it comes to planning the baby shower, but I on the order hand don't want her to, I actually don't want anyone to help me plan it, he feels there is nothing wrong with letting her help with the planning the only thing I would want is for people to run little errands like picking up the cake, pins, etc for me, just don't know how to break that to her seeing how she wants to be extremely involved in everything any advice?? I know mom to be doesn't necessarily plan her own shower but idc lol

[breonte22]

I say follow your first mind mines was good up until then end then both families were trying to fight it was just a mess and that was the first time both sides had been together. Ruined everything I say small one with husbands family and a nice size one with your family. I got proposed to on mines and I'm deff thinking justice of the piece to much money was spent for my baby shower for them grown *** ppl to act the way they were acting ! Jus my opinion tho !

[Yoshii_93]

OK if u feel like someone might get out of hand either don't invite them or give a little talk there should be no problems at a baby shower it's not about them is about u and baby. And like the mom above said if anything does happen just kick them out. But do involve his family y'all are family now

[nicole331984]

You can either have just 1 or you can have 2. 1 with your family and since his family is small maybe you can have it at a restaurant or buffet

[Allipiesmommy]

I say just have one and if any one starts any problems make them leave. Its for the baby not for them. If they can't act like adults and celebrate a new life coming into the family then they dont need to be there at all. If some members don't show up well that's on them. None of my family showed up to mine except my mom and 2 sisters and any one who did not come still has not met my daughter and she's 19 months old. We r just going to have a small one this time and those ppl wont be invited to it.