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Hi, im trying to be pregnant, but too scared to allow my hubby to put his penis into my vagina. 1 of my frnz had told me that it hurts a lot, so wenever v try i just cant let myself go loose and use all mu strength to push it away.is there some position that helps to keep the pushing away & allows me to keep calm?
If you want to get pregnant, you are going to have let him in you know. Have you not ever had sex? What does your hubby think about it?
how long have you been married? in order to get pregnant you have to have sex. which means he's going to have to go in. it hurts a little bit but only for a second or two....it's not as bad as you think. if you're that scared of it perhaps counseling will help.
man you must have a very loving husband that doesn't mind not having sex.....
Can I ask how old you are? If you don't mind.....I'm just confused.....You have to have intercourse in order to get pregnant.....I'm not how else you think that you might.....Try lubrication if you are afraid of it hurting....
Hope ur having enough foreplay cos thats what stimulates ur urge to have sex...stop thinking about the pain and enjoy it with pleasure...then ul start enjoying it and will hardly think of the pain...u have to do it dear...its jus like a small *****..before u realise it ll be done...try watching exciting stuff to get urself into the mood...if ur just married then u wont need that either cos its most exciting in the begining....good luck!hope ul do it soon...
well pretty much if your wanting to get pregnant then you have to have sex LOL :) so like the other ladies said, use some lube and try to relax. it shouldnt be a painful experience, unless its your first time in that case sometimes it does hurt at FIRST, but it goes away real quick..good luck!
Ya know, I'm wondering if this is spam. because whoever wrote this has horrible grammar and sounds like they're only 14 yrs. old. (Plus... If she's married, she'd at least know how sex works and pregnancy works)
it is odd. i don't think i know a married couple who's "scared" of sex. but she could be....and not everyone has the best grammar. (which drives me crazy!) if it is a real post and she is that scared of sex she should REALLY go to counseling. and if she's affraid of the pain...WHY does she want to get pregnant?? the "first time" is a LOT less painful then child birth....
Thanks for the input friends.
My post is not a spam. I cannot be 14 years to ask this question, as I have clearly stated im married:) so chill if you dont like my question/grammar(though I do not think it is horrible)
On the matter, it is a bit strange that I ask such a question,but there would be many other with a similar problem but embarrased enough to ask.I needed a solution, so iv asked for suggestions/solutions.
Some of you have given very good replies, thanks.
My post is not a spam. I cannot be 14 years to ask this question, as I have clearly stated im married:) so chill if you dont like my question/grammar(though I do not think it is horrible)
On the matter, it is a bit strange that I ask such a question,but there would be many other with a similar problem but embarrased enough to ask.I needed a solution, so iv asked for suggestions/solutions.
Some of you have given very good replies, thanks.
Have you ever had sex before? Sex = pregnant. There is not really any other way to get it done. Just relax....wear a sexy piece of lingere or something...foreplay is great. Have him go down on you to get you wet. The more turned on you are the more lubed and stretched your vagina will be. Sex shouldn't be painful. It may hurt for literally a minute the first time but believe me you will quickly forget and the pleasure will take over. Just think about what a beautiful life you will be creating. Sacrifice will become a big part of being a mom...might as well start here haha.
May I ask why you're afraid? Is it more than fear of pain? For first time sex, it may feel strange, maybe painful but not usually! If you use the lubrication, it shouldn't hurt.
I've heard of many people who are married and don't have sex for one reason or another. Some just don't want to have sex! So no judgment here. Let me know if you have more questions!
By the way... if you're afraid of sex hurting, wouldn't giving birth seem a lot more scary?
I've heard of many people who are married and don't have sex for one reason or another. Some just don't want to have sex! So no judgment here. Let me know if you have more questions!
By the way... if you're afraid of sex hurting, wouldn't giving birth seem a lot more scary?
Oh and you can try getting on top because then you control what's going on, so to speak.
Ok, well now that I'm sure this is legit, My sis in law has a problem w/sex. Theyve been married over a year and NEVER had it.
You need to see a Gynecologist. Esp. if your still a virgin, They'll let you know if your hymen is too thick, and then open it for you. it can cause sex to hurt really bad and be nearly impossible. OR you could have something called Spasms, which is where your muscles down there tighten up so much that it's impossible for him to get inside.
But a gynecologist could diagnose and fix a problem liike that.
You need to see a Gynecologist. Esp. if your still a virgin, They'll let you know if your hymen is too thick, and then open it for you. it can cause sex to hurt really bad and be nearly impossible. OR you could have something called Spasms, which is where your muscles down there tighten up so much that it's impossible for him to get inside.
But a gynecologist could diagnose and fix a problem liike that.
Well your Gyn may be wrong.. My SIL has talked to a couple dr's and they said it IS possible.
BUT If that's not the case, then the spasming thing is DEFINITELY true, look it up on webmd. try Vaginal Spasms and stuff like that. And follow the suggestions the others gave on here.
BUT If that's not the case, then the spasming thing is DEFINITELY true, look it up on webmd. try Vaginal Spasms and stuff like that. And follow the suggestions the others gave on here.
If your a virgin its very possible to be nervous and freeze down below the comment about the hymen is very true,i would suggest plenty of foreplay,and lubrication,it could all be in your head since your friend have said it hurts,first time can,not always..but i assure you after first time its fine.try to relax,let your hubby rommance you.so you feel relax,sadley if you want a baby you going to have to do it,good luck..
you may want to try this sex thing a few times before you get pregnant. If you do it once and get prego and dont do it again, you will probably be a single mom. Seriously you need to think a little bit in the future. If you are so scared to have a little penis enter you, how do you think you are going to handle the size of the child that is going to come out? I have to say, i think this is a fake post but whatever. This is something that almost 100% of girls do and noone has to post on a forum that they are scared to try it as a married person. My real advise: do it a few times and it wont hurt anymore.
Hey sis let me tell you it aint as bad as your friend says.I just got married in October of 07 and I was like you.I was scared to death because my older sister and my SIL was like OMG it hurts so much the first tiem and so I went into it thinking oh man this is going to hurt.It didn't.It was all in my head just use a good lub and foreplay works well. I think that the letting him go down on you is a good way to get you relaxed and not thinking about the pain. After the first time you'll crave it more and you can go tell your friend how wrong she was. Good luck.
Thanks for this motivating reply.Iv not been an athelete and not much of an excerise person, so I was all the more afraid that it will hurt a lot! What kind of lubricant should I be using?
water based lubricants. it will say so on the package.. just look for "personal lubricant" or the such. I would suggest KY, but I've had a bad experience. make sure it says it is water-based... so it will not burn you, in case you have sensative skin like i do. take everyone's advice, and you will be perfectly fine. it doesn't hurt bad. maybe more of discomfort at first but it will be okay after a little while... and being athletic of very fit has absolutely nothing to do with it. the vagina is a rather elastic organ, and it is made for just that purpose. it can stretch, quite a bit.. and go back to normal. that is what it's made for, so use it. :P
good luck.
good luck.
Hey..i tried..it hurt a LOT! i was not sure which lubricant to use...so ddnt use any.
There was bleeding, though not that much.But iv observed that the movement in that position tends to dry up the area and then the feelin is almost totally gone.does it happen with others too?
There was bleeding, though not that much.But iv observed that the movement in that position tends to dry up the area and then the feelin is almost totally gone.does it happen with others too?
Congratualtions on losing your virginity! When you go to the drug store to buy a lubricant look for one that says water based and try a brand like k-y as it is quite popular. Now that you have sex once it will hurt less and less especially if you use lubericant...trust us here...if you are nervous it's gonna hurt more and the lub will allow him to get inyou easier.
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