depressed need some advice!!!!

[meika22]

Hi I am 14 weeks pregnant this will be my first child but I have recently told the babys father im pregnant he is upset and angry I want to keep my child he wants me to have an abortion. we been together for 2 year and he just told me he love me but he dont want the baby because he is married with 3 children. I feel so dumb that I didnt even know. He lied to me for 2 years and now hes pressuring me to get abortion im totally aginst abortions I just need some advice and encouraging word to tell me what should I do

[LJA24]

A baby is a beautiful blessing, so you should keep him/her. I'm sorry to hear that he's married, but that has nothing to do with the innocent baby. I hear a lot of women saying cut him off but is that really a good thing?! Yes it's a hard pill to swallow but ur child shouldn't have to go fatherless because the mistake of the parents. It's called Co parenting, he's just gonna have to deal with it. I wish u peace and understanding

[lilbitts]

And i didn't know he was married  either until i was 16weeks pregnant worse mistake of my life

[lilbitts]

Sweetheart please keep your baby i was in you shoes before when i was 16dated an 25 year old who was married got me pregnant and talked me into an abortion i am now 24 almost 25 and i carry the sonagrams around knowing that i made a horrible mistake knowing that tjat baby on the sonagrams didn't deserve what i.did to.him or her i.look at my daughter everyday and think ro myself she could have been a little sister but i.learned him take something from me i could never get back i regret ut everyday don't let someone take your baby from you like i did please i pay for cancelling because it messed me up that bad just to.find out he got another girl whom wasn't his wife pregnant and she was smart enough to keep hr baby and doing great being a single parent means more hugs love and kisses from your child he's missing out in the end and won't have any luck

[soulabrown]

Of course he would say you're being selfish but what he doesn't realize is that he's the selfish one. He was selfish for lying and not telling the truth about himself.  He's selfish for cheating on his wife. He's selfish for not wrapping It up when he knew by his with having children that he is fertile and that he may get you pregnant. Don't let him make you and the baby for his indiscretions!!!! To bare a child is a blessing! What he's asking you to do is to allow him to take more from you than he already has and that's two years wasted on his lies, the happiness you felt with him and now the baby! Cut him off and bring him to court for child support. No need to speak or see him. When the papers come to his door step he'll know his indiscretions has come to face him and his wife.  

[sarita1994]

Cut him out. It's up to you what you want to do. If you want to keep this baby then you should.. I would go after him for child support. He helped make that baby too. He shouldn't be able to just get out of it.. It's not going to be easy doing it on your own and I hope you have amazing support from your family. I am in sort of the same situation. The only difference is the father of my child isn't married.. He just doesn't want it. He already has 2 by other women.. But hey I will raise my child on my own. You deserve so much better than that. Good luck and I wish you the best :)

[mommy2be_withbaby3]

Drop him! Keep your little blessing it will all be worth it at the end and your definitely not selfish ! He is the selfish one . You deserve soo much better u and ur lil one :) good luck wish u the best:)

[rosealie23]

He has no right to ask you or tell you to do that. If he did not want his wife to know he should not have been with you in the first place. Keep your baby, nobody has the right to try to get you to hurt your baby. It is yours all he did was donate some sperm to you. You are carrying that baby and you will have to live with the guilt and loss if you abort your baby. This guy is scum and everyone should know what type of guy he is. If you don't mind me asking... does his wife know? How did you not know?

[Hannah_sweg]

My babys dad says the same thing all the time.
that im f-ing selfish.
There's nothing selfish about it, in fact, it's the most selfless thing in the world. Good luck.

[haleyblossom]

Don't get an abortion if that's not what YOU want !!! It's your body and your choice and it may be his sperm that helped make that baby but he does not have a say.

[meika22]

Im taking yall advice cutting him off and blockin his number because I dnt need to put stress on my baby

[meika22]

Thank u moms for all the support he says im selfish and im only thinking bout myself because I want to keep the baby

[Paigelee5]

What an ***. Seriously, who does that?! I'm so sorry that you are going through this but I agree with a the other moms here. Ditch the "man" and cherish your baby. Plus, you are beautiful and I'm positive a real man will be more than happy to take his place.

[hellojojo2200]

He dosnt sound like the person u thot he was...and its proly not guna.get better!..thats a shoking thing to find out!I cant imagine!!im sorry!!...when I found out I waz pregnant....long story short...my bf wanted me 2 get an abortion..and I didn't..so I stood strong..and didnt..at around 18 weeks.
After we went for our first ultrasound..he started comming around
.....and now
.at 31w.hes totally on bored!! And very supportive.and happy...I was sure he wud come.around..and its a good thing he did cuz if not I wudda had to leave him....ur situation is very different tho...im sorry.hun..all.I.can say is if u want ur baby.
Then keep.it..and get him for child.support..
Hes the one who ran a.double life

Its not ur.job to cover for his messed up.mistakes!!!!!!!

[mama_castro]

Cut him off hun! You want to keep the baby you do so! Being pregnant is such a blessing your going to be thankful you kept him or her once they're out in the world. Just be strong hun, n be happy, you have a beautiful angel growing now.

[Hannah_sweg]

Oh man. Please keep your child. That man is a pig and you will fall in love with your child like no other thing in the world.
you dont need a man to be a mom, and no man, especially one that does sly disgusting things like that, has no right to tell you what to do.
Im no longer with my babys father and im 15 and its hard and im depressed but my baby makes me happy and I know I'll be okay when my son is finally here.
You dont have a future with that man either way. And if you did have the abortion youd hate yoyrself because you wouldnt have him OR the baby.

[miracle_mommy2014]

cut him off....keep your baby! :) everything will be ok.

[meika22]

Thanks for that because ive been really down all day

[gueritacali]

Have the baby it isn't the baby's fault you can do it on ur own I raised two on my own ....a third on the way but seems like he will be in my bbys life been there since I found out n has pampered me since this will be his fourth bby n my third .... babies are blessing regardless the situation.... keep ur head up

[stephannieluvv]

Have the baby and cut that loser off! You can do it alone girl and it'll be worth it!