Feeling sad...... :(

[MelliMel18]

Hey ladies, just feeling a little down lately.  I miscarried 3 months ago, and have been TTC ever since. And yet, no luck. My period two months ago was 6 days late, and this month it was 6 days early.  It seems ever since the m/c my body is all at of whack.  I have been losing hope. I have been trying so hard to get pregnant. Charting my BBT, cervical position, cervical mucus, and all that jazz. Going absolutely crazy that it hasnt happened yet. I know i shouldnt stress about it and just let it happen, let it be. Its just so hard. My best friend is preggo, she is 6 1/2 months. We got pregnant at the same time. Obviously, her pregnancy is doing fabulous, and mine, well, it didnt happen. Its just a constant reminder of what i dont have. Is there hope?  Will i get pregnant again, and will it stick?  Who knows. It happened 3 months ago, and i am still not over it. I want answers but cant get any. Its just God's will i guess. Are there ladies out there, that had m/c's and had healthy pregnancies after? Will my time come?

[MelliMel18]

Thanks for the support. I believe it will. Like you said it may take some time.   I do hope it happens before i turn 27! I am definitely wanting kids before 30.

[danielle72007]

It will happen for you, it may just take a little bit of time.. I had a miscarriage in Feb of 07' just a few days over 4 weeks, they think chemical but just knowing I had a positive HPT pretty much killed me.. It was awful and it took a while for me to get over it.. I had several friends who's due dates were a month before mine, it was hard especially to see them all pregnant.. AF came exactly 3 weeks after the bleeding from the miscarriage stopped, then it was around 31 it took a few months for it to get back to around 26-27 days apart..I thought I would never get pregnant again but here I am 12w2ds pregnant!! It will happen and goodluck to you, i'll be praying for u and can't wait to hear when you get your BFP!

[mward0710]

I just wanted to let you know that I was in the same situation as you.  I was pregnant for the first time last year and miscarried when I was 7 weeks pregnant on 9/29/2007.  My due date would have been 5/14/08.  I have a really good friend at work that has a due date of 5/31/2008.  So everyday it is also a constant reminder of what I lost and what I couldn't have.  I felt I did everything right but I have to believe something would have been wrong.  I felt the same as you, would I be able to get pregnant again, is something wrong.  I try to be positive and not be too stressed because that won't help me conceive.  I decided to wait 3 months before trying because I didn't want to find out I was not ready and have another miscarriage, I don't think I could handle that.  I started trying this month and just took a pregnancy test on 1/21 and got a BFP.  I am scheduled to go to the doctor on 1/31 and I am so scared but I am trying my best to stay positive.  Good luck to you and I know soon you will be updating us with good news too.  

[MelliMel18]

Thanks.  I believe it will happen soon too. We are not using any protection. Lets hope my next pregnancy will be just fine.  And you are right, i just have to have fun with it, just let it be. My time will come. You ladies give me lots of faith. I wish you all very happy and healthy pregnancies. Lets keep in touch.

[Nadia77]

please don't feel very negative about it.... losing a baby is very hard ...most women in this forum have gone through it and now pregnant and I am one of them... I can tell you that as long as you did not have problem getting pregnant before your miscarriage  then you will conceive again shortly and miscarriage will not effect your fertility to conceive..... as most ladies said miscarriage has various reasons and it was your first pregnancy just like myself so it could be any reason including body not being prepared.... You will be fine and lots of baby dust to u :)

[leighanne143]

it will happen to you soon.  I bet within the next 2 months.  I am so sorry you feel that way because i know how you feel.  I know we experinced MC around the same time with our very first pregnancies and it is awful.  Just try to have fun with it.  Maybe you are trying too hard.  I know at first me and the fiance wanted another one right away and started trying and it was too robotic, so then 2 months after we just kind of had fun, well using a guesstamate ovulation time, but we did not think of it too much and low and behold, i am between 7-8 weeks along now.  I am hoping this one will go well and believe me, wheny ou do get preggers again, you will be a nervous wreck thinking that you are doomed to MC again and you will be posting on this site everyday, that's what i did for a while until i tried rememebering that i needed to treat each pregnancy like it's own.  Don;t get discouraged, you will be preggers very very soon.  And my period was off after my d and c too.  I didn;t even get it til alomst 7 weeks after.  You can email me anytime if you would like.

[MelliMel18]

Thanks 4boys1girl!!

I appreciate that. yeah, i have to get away from the charts, and stuff. I hate that my life has to be put on a schedule. The first time i got pg, i didnt do any of the charting stuff. I think you are right. Live my life, and it will happen. Like i said, i plan on house shopping soon. That will take my mind off it the whole baby thing.

[4boys1girl]

sorry for the double post??

[4boys1girl]

Hello  Just thought I would chime in....It is awful to go through the loss of a baby.  Before I had my children I had two mc and thought I was doomed.  Thankfully I had a really good Ob and my problem seemed to be indentifiable.  I was on clomid and was soo determined to conceive!!  We tried this routine for months and I just gave up.  I figuered God had other plans for me and my husband.  The first month we stopped all the charts, clomid, sceduled sex ect....we got pregnant.  I think the stress of conceiving kept me from letting nature take its course.  Since then I have never had any fertility treatments and  have been successful in concieving and pregnancy.  Thankfully you can conceive and Im sure youll be blessed agien.  I know it is hard not to let it consume you and your every thought. ( At least for me it was hard.)  Try to put some energy into something else like your hobbys, home or your pets.  Dont give up.... just dont let it be your main focus.  I hope this helps in some way......Good luck
Kris

[4boys1girl]

Hello  Just thought I would chime in....It is awful to go through the loss of a baby.  Before I had my children I had two mc and thought I was doomed.  Thankfully I had a really good Ob and my problem seemed to be indentifiable.  I was on clomid and was soo determined to conceive!!  We tried this routine for months and I just gave up.  I figuered God had other plans for me and my husband.  The first month we stopped all the charts, clomid, sceduled sex ect....we got pregnant.  I think the stress of conceiving kept me from letting nature take its course.  Since then I have never had any fertility treatments and  have been successful in concieving and pregnancy.  Thankfully you can conceive and Im sure youll be blessed agien.  I know it is hard not to let it consume you and your every thought. ( At least for me it was hard.)  Try to put some energy into something else like your hobbys, home or your pets.  Dont give up.... just dont let it be your main focus.  I hope this helps in some way......Good luck
Kris

[MelliMel18]

Yeah, i have been really stressed. I know. I have to relax. Easier said than done. I will try though. Is there anything that i can take?  Such as vitamins? Besides prenatals?  Should i talk to my doc about clomid?  

[JoyRenee]

Your doc will not refer you to a fertility specialist until you've been trying for a year. It takes women 6-12 months to get pregnant. You're not weird or a freak! A m/c happens for many reasons, and the most common reason is a genetic abnormality (usually an extra or missing chromosome). Try not to stress about it because stress can affect reproduction (and all sorts of other things)!

[MelliMel18]

Thanks all.   I know my time will come. I have thought about seeing a fertility doc, but i wonder if its too soon. My hubby and i have just started trying for a baby aug of 07. we got preggo three months later.  Then m/c'd. Its now been 3 months since, and nothing. Since i just started trying, should i wait to see a doc if i dont get preggo in 6 months?  I got pg pretty fast the first time. I hope it wont take too much longer after the m/c. I am only 26, pretty healthy, so i hope it happens soon. It just makes me think, what happend?  Why did i m/c?  Can i body take it?  ANd now not getting pg, scares me into thinking if i can get pg again? Why is it taking so long?

[cindy82]

im so sorry, i know ex how you feel. i lost mine in nov and its still hard on me. it took 5 weeks after my m/c to get AF back and it was strange. i been ttc since and my whole body just seems out of wac. i tried tested the 20th , BFN. tested again(AF should of been here the 24th) BFN. all i wanna do is cry. and im like you about the friend, my sister is preg and we would have been about 2 weeks apart and it hurts me everytime i call my mom and thats all she talks about is my sister. i know it just doesnt seen right. but i am thankfull i have my two lil boys, but i dont think the hurt is no less. lots of huggs and prayers and sticky baby dust!!!

[JustMe0925]

Hello Mellimel,  I am so sorry for your loss.  I too m/c twice and had a tubal pregnancy.  My doc referred me to a fertility doc and that was the best thing I have ever done..I am now 22 weeks preggo.  Have you thought about seeing a fertility doctor??  If you have insurance they will pay for most things (at least mine did)..Good luck!!!!!!!!

[JoyRenee]

Some women just never forget their lost babies... others learn to let go, or at least harden their hearts enough to forget because of the unbearable pain.

I was pregnant and due the same time my SIL was. She had her baby (he's 14 months old now) but I didn't have mine. It was REALLY hard on me to see her pregnant, to hear her get excited about the gender, etc. It would make me sick to my stomach to hear about any of it.

Don't lose hope! It can take up to 6 months to get pregnant. Good luck!!!

[Praying4MiniMe]

I too have had a m/c and trust me, there is always a part of you that never forgets about it. I had it nearly three years ago. I know many women who have had m/c's and healthy pregnancy's afterwards. I'm sure you will get pregnant again. And just like you said, it's just God's will and it was obviously meant to happen for a reason, one we may never know or understand, but trust me, it takes time and like I have heard many of the women say on this forum...once you stop obsessing over getting pregnant and kind of 'give up' is when you will end up pregnant. Good luck and much baby dust to you! bless you! :)