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my girlfriend has pragnant for two months plz tell me how to stop it now
Your very brave posting a question like that on here, as lots of people have very strong views when it comes to adoption/abortion.
I have my own views on it as well, but i dont now your entire story, so im not going to judge.
If you and your GF both do not want the child and there is nothing physically wrong with it, i would suggest adoption. This way, you never have to live with the guilt of having an abortion, and you get to see this baby when its born, and may even change your minds. At least you have more options this way.
Regarding abortion, if this is what you and your GF want then no one here can stop you, but i think if this has been your plan all along, you perhaps should not have posted it on here and kept it private between you and your GF.
If there is somthing wrong with your child that is severley going to affect its life then maybe abortion is your best bet. But i think if the child is perfectly healthy you should go with adoption.
I think you and your GF need to go and speak to a DR and find out what your options are. But dont do anything unless you are 100% sure on the decision you have made.
I have my own views on it as well, but i dont now your entire story, so im not going to judge.
If you and your GF both do not want the child and there is nothing physically wrong with it, i would suggest adoption. This way, you never have to live with the guilt of having an abortion, and you get to see this baby when its born, and may even change your minds. At least you have more options this way.
Regarding abortion, if this is what you and your GF want then no one here can stop you, but i think if this has been your plan all along, you perhaps should not have posted it on here and kept it private between you and your GF.
If there is somthing wrong with your child that is severley going to affect its life then maybe abortion is your best bet. But i think if the child is perfectly healthy you should go with adoption.
I think you and your GF need to go and speak to a DR and find out what your options are. But dont do anything unless you are 100% sure on the decision you have made.
Wow that was a good speech:) I loved it I agree my husband has a 14 year old sister that does way more than she should I'm waiting for the phone call one day that she's prego her mom let's her do anything she even got in trouble for sneeking out already. But there is nothing I can do about it she says she's an adault at 15 (mexican thing) so I guess we will just see how life goes! Hope this guy takes responsiblity though and hell ya there is way lots of stuff givin to youg parents medicaide and wic all help with so much although I couldn't get it I recomend it to ppl who need help!
I am sorry you had a bad experience with adoption, but not all adoptions are bad. There are MANY wonderful adoption stories. I have family that is adopted and they are treated the same as anyone else biologically related. My cousin's birth mom just adopted the 2 kids she has been raising through foster care and they have a great family. There are exceptions to the case, but overall many adoptions are wonderful. It's the gift of life to a family who cannot have children on their own.
I wanted to restate that I didn't say abortion at this time is too late to have one, but that it can be much more traumatic for his girlfriend, since the baby is more formed and it is more difficult to get the baby out. If you talk to women who have had abortions, MANY of them regret it, so this is not a choice to be taken lightly. Even in bad situations, there is always the option of adoption or keeping the baby. There are always different ways to make it work out.
I wanted to restate that I didn't say abortion at this time is too late to have one, but that it can be much more traumatic for his girlfriend, since the baby is more formed and it is more difficult to get the baby out. If you talk to women who have had abortions, MANY of them regret it, so this is not a choice to be taken lightly. Even in bad situations, there is always the option of adoption or keeping the baby. There are always different ways to make it work out.
My father was adopted, i have several cousins who are and a few friends who are as well. None of them were beaten, molested or anything else. Adoption at infancy there is less likelihood of molestation happening than if the child is in foster care. Most babies if they are put up for adoption right away will be adopted quickly. Healthy newborns are highly desirable. Older children and those with special needs are less sought out. I used to be an adoption agent which is why I know all this random info. Also adoption will not caused you or your girlfriend a penny. Many times if you link up with an agency prior to birth, they will help with housing and such or the adoptive parents will and they can also help with medical expenses and pay ALL legal fees. There are many types of adoption. Open and closed In a closed you will not have any contact or updates about baby. In an open you will have a mutually agreed amount of updates and possibly the ability to see the baby in the future. Often times a monthly or yearly letter with pictures will be given to you. But it is up to you what you want to do.
Good luck!
Good luck!
Someone had posted before me, it was removed, saying abortions arn't bad. I was in shock of that. I know nearly all of you ladies are against it.
I agree with ftm Amanda! There is no way you can be in an open forum and not expect to hear "opinions". Everyone has the right to respond however I do think it should be done thinking of the persons feelings and that we do not know situations. For many I think they need to hear all different opinions as they will in person and it might lesson the blow and they be more prepared. However at the same time people do look on here when they are upset and really needing answers.
But you know, and this is NOT directed at the poster at all cuz I have no clue how old you are or your situation!!!! I think society makes kids have sex before they are ready and does not make them taek responsibility for thier actions! Think about it all they have to do is Abort, adopt or go on welfare and where are they taking responsibility for their actions???? I know in some cases adoption is but at times it can just be a way to get rid of the problem also. And it is not just young kids who should be held responsible!!! The parents should be too! Of course you will have kids experiment and get preggers but I see young girls dressing provocative and out all ove rthe place with NO one caring where they are! hello just becasue your kids can be indipendant does not mean you have to stop being a parent!!!! ughhh it is not total fault on the kids in my eyes! I think they should hold parents responsible in family court and make the prents of the children pay for the baby if the mom decides to keep it at the same time helping the mom of the baby and her have responsibilities as well!
Just two days ago there was a girl on here that said her 16year old sister who had a 18 year old boy frined wanted to get pregnant! Too scarey and they do not think they can get in trouble for this so why would it cross thier mind it woulld be a bad idea! Bad parents who don't watch thier kids, bad teaching, society, no spanking, kids growing up before thier time with NO responsibilities makes for bad situations!
back in the 1800's kids got married around 14-16 in some areas and they acted like adults and had pride and honnor not many kids are like that these days!
Sorry I got off on waht someone said, this was not about the posteer again! I have known men in their 40's ask the same question as him so we just do not know the situation but I hope he makes the right decision in th end!
Poster- the decision about the baby is really up to her and I think it would be a good idea no matter what is decided for you to take resonsibility and help her emotionally through this!!! I would not ask about abortion to her unless she says something about it! You know she would know that option and pregnancy is a very emotional time besides other stresses! Adoption has many ways! Open and not open, state and private! It can be done right away and a few days after the baby is born! I think that even though abortion amy be available it does carry risks to her and should be weighed heavy on! est of luck to you! and if you are not in the position to even want to be supportive in this for her then you need to walk away fully for her sake and the babies!
But you know, and this is NOT directed at the poster at all cuz I have no clue how old you are or your situation!!!! I think society makes kids have sex before they are ready and does not make them taek responsibility for thier actions! Think about it all they have to do is Abort, adopt or go on welfare and where are they taking responsibility for their actions???? I know in some cases adoption is but at times it can just be a way to get rid of the problem also. And it is not just young kids who should be held responsible!!! The parents should be too! Of course you will have kids experiment and get preggers but I see young girls dressing provocative and out all ove rthe place with NO one caring where they are! hello just becasue your kids can be indipendant does not mean you have to stop being a parent!!!! ughhh it is not total fault on the kids in my eyes! I think they should hold parents responsible in family court and make the prents of the children pay for the baby if the mom decides to keep it at the same time helping the mom of the baby and her have responsibilities as well!
Just two days ago there was a girl on here that said her 16year old sister who had a 18 year old boy frined wanted to get pregnant! Too scarey and they do not think they can get in trouble for this so why would it cross thier mind it woulld be a bad idea! Bad parents who don't watch thier kids, bad teaching, society, no spanking, kids growing up before thier time with NO responsibilities makes for bad situations!
back in the 1800's kids got married around 14-16 in some areas and they acted like adults and had pride and honnor not many kids are like that these days!
Sorry I got off on waht someone said, this was not about the posteer again! I have known men in their 40's ask the same question as him so we just do not know the situation but I hope he makes the right decision in th end!
Poster- the decision about the baby is really up to her and I think it would be a good idea no matter what is decided for you to take resonsibility and help her emotionally through this!!! I would not ask about abortion to her unless she says something about it! You know she would know that option and pregnancy is a very emotional time besides other stresses! Adoption has many ways! Open and not open, state and private! It can be done right away and a few days after the baby is born! I think that even though abortion amy be available it does carry risks to her and should be weighed heavy on! est of luck to you! and if you are not in the position to even want to be supportive in this for her then you need to walk away fully for her sake and the babies!
sorry ladies but adoption isnt all that great I HAVE BEEN THROUGH IT !!!! i was molested in almost every home beatin in others till me last home i finally found a good home and i have heard so many other stories of worse! Yes there are some good familys out there but most kids dont end up finding them the best way to solve this is people should use protection and in some cases not have sex at all. I may have been rude in my other comments and i am sorry i know every one makes errors but you have to look at how serious this is and if you havnt talked to your parents you both should maybe they will help you come up with the best option google abortion pics see if thats something you can live with i have people who are very close to me you choose that option some regret it others don't also keep in mind putting your child up for adoption can turn out great and you kid could go to a very loving home or very bad in my case. Think about stepping up and raising this child your selves there are kids that do it at 14 and it may be hard but they get through it and learn how to do it just like anybody els.
wish you,baby,and g/f the best of luck
wish you,baby,and g/f the best of luck
Hey kid I think you have had a lot of bad feedback but my opinion is I would never myself do abortion but adoption does sound like a good thing if ur gf wants to but I would say if abortion is the opition you choose it is better than giving a child a terrible life were ya weren't ready for or whatnot hope ya get it all figured out and ya should tell us more of the story so ppl won't be so mean about ur situation. Good luck
Penswriter I don't think that people are saying ending a baby's life is bad they are trying to give him all the options. Whether you are pro life or pro choice that is your OWN opinion. It isn't fair for any of us to force our opinion on others. Would I ever consider abortion? No but I know that is only my opinion. It's a personal thing. No, abortion is not birth control. I think that many of us are frustrated bc we see so many posts where it seems that women have used abortion as a form of birth control. I also think this post was worded poorly.
Mustnsr abortion is not a form of birth control however it is the only way to "stop" her being pregnant. It is an evasive procedure than can cause pain, scarring, emotional and psycholoical distress. There is also risk of infection and it causing future problems becoming pregnant. It is important to know all of the risks before choosing this option. Additionally being the woman carrying the child it is ultimately her decision to make. There is also adoption which many consider more humane and ethical. There are many families out there who cannot become pregnant and are looking to adopt. I hope that together you both can reach a decision that is mutually agreeable. In the future it may also be helpful to use a condom anytime you have sex and make sure the woman is taking a contraceptive. No one form of birth control is 100% effective so it is suggested to avoid pregnancy that more than one type is used (such as condoms and birth control pill). Lastly I should note that abortions cost Approx $300 so if that is what you want to do start saving.
Mustnsr abortion is not a form of birth control however it is the only way to "stop" her being pregnant. It is an evasive procedure than can cause pain, scarring, emotional and psycholoical distress. There is also risk of infection and it causing future problems becoming pregnant. It is important to know all of the risks before choosing this option. Additionally being the woman carrying the child it is ultimately her decision to make. There is also adoption which many consider more humane and ethical. There are many families out there who cannot become pregnant and are looking to adopt. I hope that together you both can reach a decision that is mutually agreeable. In the future it may also be helpful to use a condom anytime you have sex and make sure the woman is taking a contraceptive. No one form of birth control is 100% effective so it is suggested to avoid pregnancy that more than one type is used (such as condoms and birth control pill). Lastly I should note that abortions cost Approx $300 so if that is what you want to do start saving.
i think most of you are been really hard on this kid !!! no-one knows these kids situation he hasnt explained and no -one has asked !!it is possible for contraseption to FAIL its happened to me twice luckily we were in a situation to be happy about it . you dont know how old they are they may just be young and been experrimenting ,an experriment thats gone terribly wrong .its a really horrible thing for people who cant concieve BUT YOU CANT TAKE THIS OUT ON HIM he came on here for some support and support is wot he should get and so far barring a fgew all he had is bad feedback i agree with meganbop 8 weeks is not too late you have til 22 weeks here where i am . i say if you cant answer his question without slating him then dont bother at all .
Abortions arn't bad? :o/ I honestly can't believe someone would say ending a babies life isn't bad.
Two months is not too late to have an abortion... Not in Minnesota anyway.
Abortion is not a bad thing, don't let anyone tell you (or your girlfriend) you're a bad person for wanting it. Abortion is also NOT birth control though, so please keep that in mind. Abortion is safer than it used to be thanks to newer technology and other medical advancements over the last 5-10 years.
They have wonderful counselors at the Planned Parenthood clinics who can throughly educate you and your gf on all of your options.
Abortion is not a bad thing, don't let anyone tell you (or your girlfriend) you're a bad person for wanting it. Abortion is also NOT birth control though, so please keep that in mind. Abortion is safer than it used to be thanks to newer technology and other medical advancements over the last 5-10 years.
They have wonderful counselors at the Planned Parenthood clinics who can throughly educate you and your gf on all of your options.
I dont think there is much that can be said that hasnt already but anything that will be done is ultimately her decision. The best you can do if you care about her is continue to support her and try to explore your options together. You may find you guys are on the same page or you may not. But either way, it is yours and her responsibility at this point. You might be scared because of all the large life changes that come with pregnancy but so is she. There alot of options pregnancy counsellors, you can meet with. But you cant force her to do anything she doesnt want to in regards to the pregnancy as it is her body. I wish you the best of luck in this situation.
You can't just make a baby go away. It's a living being. A small, forming human. You have two options 1. You kill your child or 2 be kind and put the baby up for adoption. I hope you choose adoption. Oh and abortion IS NOT your choice. It's your g/f's. You have no say.
You say your girlfriend is already 2 months pregnant, which would be pretty late to get an abortion. That can make it MUCH more traumatic for your girlfriend. You have 2 other options, as one to keep the baby(though it doesn't look like you want that) or the second to give the baby up for adoption. There are many couples who cannot get pregnant on their own and would be very happy to raise your baby. You need to talk to your girlfriend about how you feel and go over the options with her. Really think about what is best for everyone involved. And use this as a learning lesson to be much more careful next time around.
true i guess i may have sounded rude but it seems that kids these days shoot 1st ask questions later and i just wish they would do all their asking ahead of time
Let's remember that MedHelp is safe and supportive for everyone, including those with opinions you may disagree with.
Please be mindful that what you say can deter people from getting the help and info they need.
Emily
Please be mindful that what you say can deter people from getting the help and info they need.
Emily
Let's be nice here guys. he's scared, he's confused, he doesn't know what the options are. Remember that we don't know the whole story.
I'm sorry but if she's already pregnant then the proverbial bird has already flown. the only thing you can do at this point is abort or choose to adopt. I would recommend adoption. there are plenty of families out there desperate to love babies. it is ultimately her choice what she wants to do with the baby...keep it, abort, or adopt...all you can do is speak with her and tell her how YOU feel, but it is her choice in the end. I highly recommend talking to her about adoption if you aren't ready for a baby yet, and I highly recommend protecting yourselves better in the future.
best of luck.
I'm sorry but if she's already pregnant then the proverbial bird has already flown. the only thing you can do at this point is abort or choose to adopt. I would recommend adoption. there are plenty of families out there desperate to love babies. it is ultimately her choice what she wants to do with the baby...keep it, abort, or adopt...all you can do is speak with her and tell her how YOU feel, but it is her choice in the end. I highly recommend talking to her about adoption if you aren't ready for a baby yet, and I highly recommend protecting yourselves better in the future.
best of luck.
i hope i didnt sound like abortion was a good idea i was just saying....i agree with these ladies if you havn't enough since to use a condom then you souldn't have sex. A condom is you only way to protect yourself from stds and creating a child you are not ready or willing to take care of. You cant even rely on you g/f getting on the pill because you never know if shes taking them right so use a condom i mean jeeez they teach kids about condoms in 5th grade!!!!!
I really really hope you arnt saying "stop the pregnancy" all you young teens are really getting on my nerves.... QUIT having sex if you dont want the responsibility of a baby.. babies are beautiful the most amazing thing to ever happen to someone... There are so many people out there that would do anything for a baby to love... dont stop the pregnancy, give it to a loving family.... and please stop being irresponsible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And im proud to tell you, its not your decision.. so keep having sex and your gonna 7 babies out there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And im proud to tell you, its not your decision.. so keep having sex and your gonna 7 babies out there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
what are you trying to stop? If you aren't ready for parenthood and not responsible enough to use protection YOU'R not responsible enough to be having sex. put the baby up for adoption. SEX IS NOT A GAME AND NEITHER IS A UNBORN CHILD S LIFE. GOD GRR!
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