Thanks Sarah that's what I needed to hear. I no that we experience different things its just hard to accept. I'm being grateful thanks for the reality check
It sounds like your husband isnt feeling apreciated, all that stuff he did is really really great. He may not have been perfect but it does sound like he was puttong forth an effort which is great. My husband hasnt felt any of our babies move except our first, once. He does'nt like it, it creeps him out. He would probably just stare blankly at me if I read him about the babies development. He doesn't really want to talk about the baby much. But he loves picking out names, goes to some of my doctor appointments, even though he is bored out of his mind, loves the ultrasound, and helps put together things for baby. Then when there born he falls in love too. We cant expect our husbands to feel the same about our pregnancies as we do. Its just not the way it is. Its hard and stressful for them too. Its another mouth to feed, another doctor bill, another person that is going to be reliant on them forever. Its a lot of responsibility, and it can be scary for them. Not to mention they understand all our discomfort, but it can be frustrating for them that they can't help us. Just try to look at the good things your husband does, for you, and for your baby, and thank him for those things. If it upsets him that he feels left out, and no one asks about him, when they ask say something like baby is doing great, and my husband has been so helpful or great with some particular thing he has done. Just doing little things like that for him will make a world of difference.
I agree w ash. Just try to focus on him as a person and why you love him, not on what he is or isn't doing for the baby. A lot of men dont really get into the pregnancy. Im impressed he even started reading the development process w u and went to the appts. This is my husbands 5th child and he has no clue what is going on lol but its ok cuz I know what an amazing father he is and how helpful he will b after the baby is here
It's rough. My husband actually packed his bags and left me when I was preggo last year. He was gone for a week with no communication then he text me and called me at work begging me to take him back. It was probably the hardest week of my life. And it wasn't anything I had done just he got overwhelmed with everything
I no we don't spend enough time together. His b day is coming up maybe I will have to make a date night. I just hope he is to distant from me and I can bring him back to me
It's really tough I understand my husband and I had a real rough spot during our last pregnancy. I'm 18 weeks and we have an 11 month old and a 6 yr old. I'm worried it'll go south here soon too. Just try and make time for you two if you can get a sitter and go to dinner or a movie or dancing. Just to remember why you fell in love in the first place