Many of the recent studies have focused on paternal age (separate from or in addition to maternal age). I am in that unfortunate boat in that I am trying for a baby with a wonderful, older man. I am 29 and he is 48.
We had a miscarriage back in August- I had thought I was 10.5 weeks along and the baby stopped developing at 6.5 weeks. I never had any cramping or bleeding, no idea that this had happened.
Now I’m pregnant again- 5.5 weeks. I go for my first US next week Wed, but I’ve just felt horrible that this pregnancy is not going as it should (some cramping, spotting, not having many symptoms). I don’t know yet what is happening, and I’m trying to stay positive.
My Financee has two healthy teenage children, but he is aware that his age is a factor of concern. He feels horrible about my 1st miscarriage and keeps reminding me that ‘it’s likely his fault’. (He knows I take ‘failures’ very hard and tend to blame myself, I’m not sure if he’s overcompensating or if he really believes this).
So if this pregnancy ends up in another miscarriage, what does one do knowing the factors against us? Do we just keep trying until we have success (despite the emotional difficulty) or are there any other options? Do doctors ever recommend to people that they use a donor (with ‘younger’ sperm or eggs) to decrease the risks/odds?