I feel silly for not trusting him but he's not acting like he can be trusted

[Nattime]

My husband of 2 years prides himself on his evasive answers always allowing a way out of obligation, responsibility, or even just being casually decisive. He lied about everything I feel that I liked about him before we got married i.e he said he worked out and has not done it one day since we were married. He claimed to be a reader, hasn't read a book since we were married. Now that I'm in his life day in and day out I find out he is lazy, boring, and lacking on so many levels. Someone where we work (we work at the same place he works the night shift) has been having sex in an out of the way area. For whatever reason our supervisor (we share the same supervisor) has discussed this issue with other employees in our department but not either of us. They found tiny panties so I believe it's obvious it's not me I'm not super large but I'm heavier than I was when we were first married however, I've never been considered tiny. I think they think it's him. In addition he is acting peculiar doing things like cleaning around the house (He has proven to be a real slob it has been a sore spot for the last two years as I have germ issues), taking a shower regularly (every other day was a previously high expectation), and evasive when ask about hours away from home. I feel so foolish. I'm over 40 I've only had three serious relationships in my life I thought he was a good christian fella and I believed what he said. Where should I go from here? I feel lost.

[mami1323]

Yeah I have to agree with RockRose here, did you not know about his lies prior to marrying him?  I mean at some point you would've figured it out.  I just think that he can't be trusted since he has a history of being deceitful.  The incident at the office does sound a little strange.  I think at this point you need to cut your losses and move on.

[RockRose]

Did you not know him at all when you married him?  I mean,  the guy either works out regularly or he doesn't,  he has a book he is working on or he doesn't,  I would think within a month of dating you'd know he was making this stuff up.    It just seems like you didn't know him much at all,  just listened to how he described himself.

If you don't have any kids it's not too late to say you've made a mistake and move on with life.  

[jo929]

it sounds like we married the same guy, and i would tell him to get his evasive self gone or straighten up, that you are tired of it  luck what ever you decide