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[mz_sapphire]

I think the way my baby daddy and his family play around is wierd. They depants him and his boxers come down to and laugh.(his aunt and sister) He pokes his sister in her a** with a stick. He acts more like hes dating her than me. I might be over reacting but its getting on my nerves so badly. She cant even go to the store with out him. Im just ready to say screw it and move on.

[mz_sapphire]

No i was 17 and turned 18 3 months later he was 21 and turned 22 two days after we started dating.

[specialmom]

Okay, trying to understand.  If he was 18 when you met and you've been together almost 5 years . . .   that doesn't make him 26.  Confused on the math here.  

Anyway, well-----------  this is a toughie.  There is advice above that you can try.  Try to also be friends with his sister and ask him to be playful with you or be playful with him and see how it goes.  Have someone watch the kids and go on a date the two of you and try to reconnect in a fun way.  
good luck

[mz_sapphire]

I was 17 almost 18 when we got together.

[mz_sapphire]

The thing is we already have 3 kids together. This is the first time we ever lived with his family. He is 26 years old and we been together for almost 5 years.

[specialmom]

Well, when you describe that you felt like a third wheel, could it be that he is obviously closer to his sister than  you?  That would hurt someone's feelings.  I don't know how old he is but really, this just sounds like immaturity and people that think juvenile things are fun.  They are just clowning around.  

Do you really think something sexual is going on with them?  Doubtful.  

However, the bigger problem at hand is that you don't feel connected to your boyfriend whom you're having a baby with.  That is a huge issue.  At this point, you've created a family with him and to feel like he isn't interested in you is troubling.  Perhaps he is regretting the pregnancy?  Perhaps he knows that a baby changes everything and he is resistent to that?  Etc.  

I'd have said it might be a good idea to move on if you weren't pregnant.  But now you've tied yourself for the rest of your life to this man as you are coparents to a child.  Whether you can remain long term partners and do that is yet to be seen.

Remember to always look for these red flags prior to a serious thing like conceiving a child.  

I would try to communicate with him in a way that doesn't make him defensive (and calling him weird definatey would) and just express that you'd like to be closer to him and playful as well.  And I'd try to foster a relationship with his sister.  

good luck

[KTowne]

Definitely weird, tell him you're not comfortable with it, if he doesn't listen, tell his sister, there's no reason they're doing that, and if my DH and SIL were doing that, I'd be saying something! Good luck hun!

[1220LilMama]

For a second I wondered if you were dating my ex! I'm currently in the middle of a divorce and my ex husbands family was weird like that. They hated me and would straight up disrespect me and he wouldn't say a word. New year's of 2011 we went to bring in the New Year with his family. I was throwing up and felt terrible. He left me in the hotel room sick bc he promised his sister they would bring in the new year together! Really?

[bkinnema5070]

Thats tough! If you have a gut feeling now..he probably won't change and it will drive you crazy :/ how old is he? And I agree..that would creep me out to see a family act that way!

[mz_sapphire]

Its good to know that i haven't been the only one in a wierd relationship. We all went down to the river bottom and i felt like that 3rd wheel. He seems like he dont want to be around me anymore. We hardly spend time together as it is and barely get along anymore.

[babymama1985]

Lol that is weird...sounds like you're dating an ex of mine. Theyre twins and weird close. Went everywhere together one week and then the next they were cussing each other out. It was the weirdest thing