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BABY DADDY ISSUES
Ok me and my boyfriend have been together a little over a year we found out we're expecting. Well from the beginning of our relationship its always been problems with females and him lying but I've stayed by his side cause he is a great man at the end of the day he just has never been with a woman like me. First when we found out he kept saying it was a co workers baby and blah blah blah remind you I've never cheated never talked to anyone else since we been together never even gave him a reason to believe I was cheating. Well today I get a message from a stripper talking about she been ******* him for over a year now remember we been together a year plus some he claim that he was sleeping with her when he was in his past relationship but I'm not dumb if that's the case why she messaging me now. I love my man and I knew he was a hoe shall I say when we got together but I believed he could change I've seen it happen through my daddy but now I'm feeling like packing my things and moving back home and raising my first and only child by myself. I feel like I dealt with it before ye I played fool but now we finna have a child so why stay. He claims he has changed especially once finding out about the baby he wants to be in this child life every step of the way. I don't want to be like his son mother and move away it hurts him that he has missed so much out of his son life she only brings him when she need money. I don't want that he has became really excited and want to be in his child life and I want him to but if he can't realize that he has a great woman and these little hoes ain't nothing he gone miss out cause ima leave is that wrong. I'm hurt and angry I love him and I think I love him more once I found out about the baby because I was told I couldn't have kids and now we're here I really don't know what to do.
Oh dear, this is not a good situation. Unfortunately, you cannot change people, and entering into a serious, life long commitment under the guise of expecting someone to change will almost always just lead to heartache and disappointment.
While I understand you wanting to make it work for your child, you shouldn't settle for his cheating ways to accomplish that. There are plenty of people who do a great job co-parenting, without staying together as a couple. A child is not a reason to allow another person to treat you poorly and disrespect you. Just some food for thought.
Good luck to you.
While I understand you wanting to make it work for your child, you shouldn't settle for his cheating ways to accomplish that. There are plenty of people who do a great job co-parenting, without staying together as a couple. A child is not a reason to allow another person to treat you poorly and disrespect you. Just some food for thought.
Good luck to you.
And hormones oh my I'm either always crying or mad and all he wants to do is lay under me and have my stomach touching him
LMMJDO he is trying I can say today was the first time I saw him cry cause I told him I'm leaving and don't worry about ever seeing your child. I was told by his mother and his sisters once I found out that things are about to get crazy cause your having his child and these messy females gone feel some kind of way but omg I had no idea
Brittanyarthur321 he has been in trouble with the law to and guess who was there me both times the whole time he has years on papers I pay his probation every month cause I don't want him to go back. I continue to try and show him its a better life out there than what he was taught and what he knows but he's making me a firm believer that you can't teach a old dog new tricks
I applaud you because its hard staying with someone hoping they'll change. I was ready to tell you to leave when I first started reading now idk. The baby may change him but then again his first child didn't change him. And you don't have to be like her if you leave you can still let him be a part of your child's life without being with him. Men don't realize what they have at home til its gone. If he has been cheating on you the whole time, what makes you think that the obligation of a child will knock sense into him? If he doesn't act right I'd leave and leave an ultrasound picture on his pillow case. You have to show him that you're worth more than he is giving. Once your hormones kick in it's not going to be easier trust me my relationship went from nearly perfect to damn near tragic. Lol
We all are different and have different minds but if that was my boyfriend I would totally leave him even tho I would have to work my *** off for my kids and I... if you stay with him you need to really forgive him and never bring that subject to a conversation ever again cuz it's just gonna make you and him fight and your relationship is never gonna work out....but like I say we all think different
Jordyvi0824 the thing about me if I leave him there's not gone be any contact nor seeing him I wouldn't want him in my child life cause I feel like he had a chance to be there full time he choose not to so his loss. I know me I'm not from here so when I leave I'm gone no looking back for NO reason
And a boy who cheats on you and lies isn't going to change and he doesn't love you. It's in their DNA :/ It took me 2 long awful years to figure that out. Now I know never to accept less than I deserve! Especially now that I have a son that's on the way, I'm waiting for a man that will treat us right!
My babys dad was/is like that too. I made the best decision for me and my son and moved 1000 miles away to live with my parents. My situation may be different, he's been introuble with the law and doesn't make good decisions so that's why I don't feel bad. You will make the right decision, just make sure you do what's best for your baby (: I will be a single mom in about 12 days here, but I don't regret leaving. It's the best decision I could have made. Good luck girl
Stephannieluvv I'm very pissed and confused I don't understand him I'm a great girl I'm young I work I don't depend on him always by his side smart go to school nothing like what he has been with but I get the worse treatment and he swears he don't want them he realizes that he wants his family but I feel it shouldn't have taking a baby for him to get it
Well he's obviously not going to change. I would get the hell out of there. You don't have to take the child away from him if he wants to help the baby and be there let him but it sounds to me like you have given him way ok many chances
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