the past.

[erikamtz]

Does anyone have advice on how to move on from something that happened a year ago. Its ruining us and my bd is trying to be a Better man bt I'm still very resentful for what happened a year ago, bt I want to save our relationship.

[Nighthawk61]

I would have to say marriage counseling for you both, run don't walk. The sooner the better. It will teach you both coping skills and really leave a lasting impression on him. I'm sorry you're still hurting. These things take a lot of time to heal, but it can be done. Mine cheated once on me in the early years , and i acted out terribly, but we got through it, and now are best friends. I hope you get to feeling better. Maybe reading up on forgiveness might help?

Peace to you both. I'm glad to hear he's trying to be a better man, but you need to hear that this will not happen again, period. That before he does resort to cheating , he has to be man enough to open up to you and get out of the relationship. A counselor may be able to get through to him, that for his own self pride, that full disclosure of any thought to do you harm should be revealed early on. Best of luck. Keep posting and let us know how you're doing.

[nutsandproud]

That sounds like an awful thing to do. How do you know it was done on purpose? Is that what he said?

[erikamtz]

No, its when he purposely tried to hurt me by seeing someone else when I was pregnant.

[RockRose]

It depends on what it is.   Is this another thing like your boyfriend spending some time and money on a child that isn't his,  or is this a case where he purposely tried to undermine you and harm you?