in need of knowledge

[RawnieGurl]

Hey everyone just another question. I know I post a lot but this is kinda my only outlet. My boyfriend and I very recently started having sex and I experienced the having to pee thing, which I'm told is normal seeing as there is pressure being put on your bladder.
So some other questions I have: I've given him a handjob and he has *** on me, like on my stomach not my vagina, and touched his *** and what not then wanted to finger me but I said he had to wash his hands first. Is there any pregnancy risk in doing that?
And on that subject I've heard the only way of getting pregnant is if the guy cums inside you, is that true?
Another question is that I've noticed that after having sex I kind of feel like my hands freeze. They feel almost numb and it's just weird. What is that about? I think I'm just weird. Haha
And another one is, his friends said having sex more than once in a night is normal, which I know people do. However how long should you wait between? I've heard guys are very sensitive after climax is that true?
Also since he and I are both very new to this can anyone give us any tips on positions or anything like that? I'm pretty self conscious so I definitely don't want to do girl on top and I don't want things to get boring for him. And can anyone give me any advice on oral at all? It's crossed my mind to do it but I don't know how to approach the subject with him and I certainly don't know what to do. I'm just inexperienced and looking for some tips and tricks. Any help is greatly appreciated!!!

Oh and just to put it out there. I am 20 years old almost 21, in college, and my boyfriend is just a few months younger. We haven't been officially dating very long, 3 months, however we have known each other for 3 years and we are best friends. We are both clean and have talked about having sex before doing so. We use a condom and I've been to the gynecologist about it. I just wanted to put that all out there because I don't want anyone to think I'm just another little girl fooling around without full knowledge of consequences for my actions. Thanks again for your time!

[jml1986]

It is all normal. As far as positions, try them all. Why limit yourself.

[fariasgirl]

lol its no problem, i never talked to my friends about anything like this. i was the person that stayed online until 4am trying to find all this info out myself lol... if you have a question, just ask... any of us in here will be glad to answer... you will get some people that like to B**** about you and your situation... just like i did at first... you just gotta deal with em and if you can, put em in their place =) there are alot of people in here who like to help instead of just argue... good luck though, and if you have any other questions for me just message me... have fun and stay protected!!!

Erica-

[RawnieGurl]

Thanks for you response!! I don't really have many friends and the of the few i have 4 are gay so I can't really ask them for advice lol.

[fariasgirl]

The feeling of having to pee is normal... You kind of get used to it though, and it eventually doesnt feel like you have to pee. There is a risk, but its very little if he fingers you without washing his hands. I never let my boyfriends do it to me. They respected that wish of mine, and if they didnt respect it, they dealt with it. Sperm swim, its rare, but possible to become pregnant if he cums on your vagina, but not inside. But like i said, its rare...
The hands thing, are you gripping them tightly or putting them in a certain location... My feet normally go numb... they get tingly and numb... but the only time i have had my hands go numb is when i was gripping the comforter so hard that i just couldnt feel them anymore lol... just try to pay attiention to what your hands are doing before they go numb (if you can take your mind of sex, that is =)
When me and my boyfriend first started having sex we had it 5 or 6 times a day... we waited as long as it took for him to get hard again... Guys are very sensitive after climax, I normally enjoy torturing them during that period of time. My ex became ticklish down there, so id let him start to sleep or close his eyes and then touch and he would jump and laugh... it was a little game lol...

My first time i was on top... but my first time we did it 3 times within 2 hrs lol... there was also very little time between, maybe 5-10 minutes... MAYBE... one of my favorite positions is being on top. I love doggy and i love having my legs rest on his shoulders while he is on top. Best thing to do is google or yahoo search kama sutra and look for different positions... the best thing to do is experiment. If he is very large and you are fairly shallow, some positions can cause discomfort, so, take that into consideration before your ankles are crossed behind your head lol... Also, if he is small, doing it doggy or with your feet up on his shoulders while he is on top will get him deeper inside of you, and it will feel alot better...
The oral thing, well, the glans are the most sensitive for almost all guys... when im going down on my boyfriend i stick around that area... the back of the tip of the head is where its at for him... as im sucking him i rub my tongue up and down the back side and he loves it... I never really did much oral... didnt really like it that much lol...
The best thing to do is just try things... how the guy reacts will let you know how it feels for him... but, dont forget about how things feel for you... if you dont like what is going on, or if something feels good, let him know... dont be mean about it if you dont like something, but say something like "i loved it when you did - - -." he will go back to that since you loved it lol
I wish you the best of luck, and if you have any other questions, just ask lol...