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ok so my boyfriend is all the time saying mean and hurtful things such as you eat to much or you sleep to much and i dont and its just other things that makes me question.i am 15 he is 17 and we been together for 6 months can you help?
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Hi and welcome. One thing ive learned about others insulting me is what about him. WHAT GREAT THINGS HAS HE DONE TO CHANGE THE WORLD? Put him in his place, his trying to control you.
thanks to all that comented! it helped and he has eased up alittle on it but i agree if i cant be myself when im arround him then something needs to change even though i dont want to break up with em...
PS. This guy is still a loser if the eating too much, sleeping too much is just the tip of the iceberg, as you suggest.
You can read between the lines, and maybe give yourself some constructive criticism, but do not suffer fools gladly.
You can read between the lines, and maybe give yourself some constructive criticism, but do not suffer fools gladly.
This guy sounds like he's got a mean streak. It's up to you to find the strength to break up with a guy like that, and look at the big picture, and find someone that is kind, and compatible. No use putting in all your time with something that's not going to work out in the long run, that's like eating empty calories. It's called denial.
Always try to read between the lines though, and consider what might be being said to you in a broader sense. Could it be that you may not have a lot of varied interests (academics, school activities, hobbies, part time work or volunteering) or say "no" to going out and doing things? Maybe this is an attempt to motivate you to get more involved in your own life? I don't know. Only you know.
Always try to read between the lines though, and consider what might be being said to you in a broader sense. Could it be that you may not have a lot of varied interests (academics, school activities, hobbies, part time work or volunteering) or say "no" to going out and doing things? Maybe this is an attempt to motivate you to get more involved in your own life? I don't know. Only you know.
It is really none of his business how much you are eating and sleeping. If you asked him to comment on these subjects, then that's different. Commenting on things when no one asked you is NOT helpful, but rude.
Choose a guy who isn't trying to insult you and/or act like he is your parent (trying to tell you what to do.....how much sleep to get......how to eat, etc.).
Choose a guy who isn't trying to insult you and/or act like he is your parent (trying to tell you what to do.....how much sleep to get......how to eat, etc.).
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Hi, agree with above. Lesson number one in dating----- choose someone that makes you feel good about yourself.
No reason to hang onto a guy that says what you consider 'mean' things when you are 15.
You'll learn over time that you get exactly what you'll put up with from a partner.
good luck
No reason to hang onto a guy that says what you consider 'mean' things when you are 15.
You'll learn over time that you get exactly what you'll put up with from a partner.
good luck
You could be happier with just yourself, than with a guy who is telling you that you eat too much and sleep too much. As RR suggests, a lot of it depends on the context -- for example, if you were overweight and sleep 20 hours a day, probably he is trying to help you. But if you are of average size and sleep the usual amount, he is not being your friend. You should have time in your life for things that make you happy, and hanging around with someone who does not make you happy is wasting your precious time.
The type of guy you choose to have relationships with in life is important, and that starts now.
Don't choose guys who treat you mean. Lots of girls wouldn't put up with that after the first couple times it happens - be one of those girls and your life will go MUCH better. ;D
BTW - is he right? Do you eat and sleep too much?
Don't choose guys who treat you mean. Lots of girls wouldn't put up with that after the first couple times it happens - be one of those girls and your life will go MUCH better. ;D
BTW - is he right? Do you eat and sleep too much?
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