Clitorial stimulation

[miss_interested]

The only way for me to have an orgasm is with clitorial stimulation.  However, it still takes me most of the time, a very long time to climax even with a vibrator/bullet.
Is there anything to help me orgasm sooner?

[miss_interested]

I really appreciate your comments both of you!  It's so nice to be able to talk to men & women about this openly.  If you think of anything else, please feel free to share no matter what.   Thanks! :)

[becks715]

Stop concentrating on orgasms themselves.  If you are constantly thinking about them, achieving them and how long it takes you to get to them then of course it's going to damper it.  Sex is so much of a mental game for us gals.

Many woman cannot acheive orgasm at all from intercourse so don't fret.  Take some time to chill out and figure it all out, what feels good what doesn't and talk to your partner openly (if there is one).  

This may sound graphic but while you are using the toys or having sex or recieving oral have you tried contracting your kegal muscles at the same time???  It was quite a huge discovery for me and my boyfriend.  If you do that now and again during sex or masterbation it for me anyway really helped achieve the orgasm and help it along.  

Stick with it and stop stressing about the final result just enjoy the ride and definately figure out what works for you that's #1 to getting there.  Be open and honest and that will breed a good sex life.  Good luck!

[tallguy1978]

Don't fret, or be upset. My girlfriend is the same way. She can and has had an orgasm with me from just intercourse, but it takes awhile and usually doesn't happen .I felt like I was doing something wrong. But, then she explained that she has always been this way. Usually I give her one or two orgasms by oral sex.(which is now quite easy for her to achieve, see below) This gets her excited and makes it easier for her to orgasm from intercourse. We are very open with each other about sex and when this topic came up, I asked what I could do to help please her better. She gave me some tips on how she likes to be pleased orally and in a few other ways. I was not in the least upset or taken back by this. I was actually delighted that she would trust me enough to tell me what she enjoys. Some women will fake it just to please their partner. I hate that. I would much rather have someone tell me what they like and don't like, rather than "just go along for the ride"!  My advice is to talk more with your partner (if you have one) about what pleases you and what gets you excited. Taking things slow and sensual may work for you. Switching up your routine or trying new places and positions may also help. My girlfriend and I are also fond of lubrcants like different varieties of KY and such. This also helps with dryness from time to time because she is 40 and I am ten years younger.  I am not trying to speculate on your sex life but sometimes a change or getting a little more freaky can help with arousal and achieving orgasms. At least it does in our case. Wish you well and remember that you are not the only woman in the world this way...