Confused

[madison413]

My ex and I were involved for four years in one of the most special relationships there ever was. However due to malicious inputs we started to drift apart . Eventually our relationship ended. He then became involved with another girl who slowly but surely made my life a living hell , accusing me of lots . He soon got her pregnant and I was sad to the brink because I always dreamt of carrying his child . We didn't speak for a couple months , however he started to message me , telling me he still loved me and he loved his child (which by then was born) but he wasn't sure how he felt about the child's mother. In a couple months he had to relocate to another country (without the child or mother) but we communicate every night. The hard thing is I still love him and I don't know what I should do . He says he wants me back in his life . He is scheduled to visit my country in the Summer and I just need advice on what I should do!

[specialmom]

I know this is hard.  I wish I could just tell you what you want to hear as I'm guessing I know what that is.  But don't feel I'd be being honest with you or helping you much.  My only intention is to give you honest feedback.

best of luck

[TTinKKerBBell]

This story is as old as time.
He "loves" You but He loves His Child (as He should).   Next, He will tell You He can't leave Her because of His Child.  You become the "other" Woman.
This story is as old as time.

I echo everything SpecialMom said.

[madison413]

hmmmmmmm

[specialmom]

Well sweetie, she'd have EVERY right to be upset and dramatic if HER boyfriend, father of their child is contacting another woman.  I know you kind of view him as 'yours' as you had a relationship with him previously but he is connected to her/ WITH her. He's HERS.  He's cheating on her and that isn't cool----------  at all.  I wouldn't want a guy like that in my life.  

I would move sweetie.  I really would.  IF down the road, he's broken it off officially with her and he contacts you again then you can think about 'what if'. But for now . . .   you need to understand that his girlfriend does deserve respect and HE is the kind of guy that cheats on people . . .  not a great quality.

good luck

[madison413]

I don't think she does . I figured if she did she would've started some sort of drama already , seeing that she likes that sort of thing.

[specialmom]

Ugh, well.  NOW he comes with a lot of baggage such as a baby and a baby mama.  Does the new girlfriend know he's talking to you?  Seems very unfair and wrong on his part if she doesn't.