New Group

[mami1323]

I've just created a new group called Infidelity.  It's for all those who are trying to recovery from a cheating partner.  For those who have forgiven and worked through an affair in their relationship or have moved on and want to talk about their experiences.  It's to support anyone who was a victim of infidelity.  Come join.

[mami1323]

I'm glad that I can at least use my experience to help others.  Mine was both a physical and emotional affair so it was even doubly hard to work through it.  I read a lot about adultery and surviving affairs and it was very helpful.  There was a great book called "surviving infidelity" and that book was really good.  Also "The Truth about cheating" was a great book as well.  Good luck and I'm here if you need support.

[lovemykids465]

I definitely will join, and what you stated above is exactly what I feel right now. I wish there were some magic pill or potion to take the pain and memory away but there isn't. But just reading how you have made it through helps alot. I too, like Stacey was not cheated on in the physical sense but it was an emotional affair . You think I would be able to move past it much quicker then I have but I haven't. Thanks for using your pain and growth to help those of us who are currently going through it.

[mami1323]

I will send you a link to the group or you can go to my profile page and on there it shows my list of groups and click on that. Its so easy for people to say just leave but not so easy to do. Especially when there is still so much love there. I'm not going to lie to you and say it was an easy road because it was the hardest thing I've ever had to get through. It takes huge strength to deal with the emotional ups and downs. To deal with the lack if trust, to deal with the constant thoughts of betrayal. To deal with the fear that it could happen again or wonder if it is happening again. Or even to deal with your own ego and pride, feeling like a fool fir trying to work it out and does he think I'm stupid and if give showed him that I forgave him will he think that I would forgive him again if he did again since I forgave him this time. It took me a year to forgive him, to get through the anger and bitterness and sadness and the wavering thoughts of if we will actually get through it. I'm always around if you need support and guidance. Good luck.

[Stacy4262]

How do I find this group? I've been reading a lot of your posts mami1323 and it's hard to hear from the people that say "just leave the jerk" when you really want to stay and work through recovery together. I've been trying to find an online support group for those who are just trying to find others who have had success in working through this sadness and pain. Although my BF didn't have a physical affair, he has depression and it led him to online addictions to feel better about himself. I was aware this was part of his past when we met, but within a few months of our relationship, it was clear that it was still part of his present too. I felt that since he was so honest with me about his past problems, that he couldn't possibly lie to me about it now...but sadly, that was not the case. To me, this is still a form of infidelity and it's been a difficult process so far, as I have been physically cheated on in past relationships. We are currently separated and he is seeking help through medicine, weekly therapy and weekly addiction anonymous meetings. I know that he loves me and wants us to get back together and I deeply miss him and love him too. I am hopeful that with recovery we can work through this and be even stronger. Thanks for providing this new group forum.

[mami1323]

Bumping it up...since there is so much going on lately.

[Judy246]

I joined....yea!

[mami1323]

Thanks Judy, I was thinking the same and sorta didn't want to start one but I then say, hey you know, people struggle and they want to know they have the support.

[Judy246]

OMG, Mami, congratulations!!!!  I actually thought yesterday that it would be a good idea to have a forum only for the recovery of infidelity...how, that! I'm going to check it out right now.  Judy