Confused??

[tammyboy27]

When I was young I was attracted towards both men and women.I used to have sexual relationship with my friend.Now I don;t find men interesting.I can't understand my sexuality.

[naveea]

Just stay away from sex until you get married....it will save you alot of trouble.. belive me its not worth it

[Londres70]

Have you talked with a therapist about this sexual identity issue?

[specialmom]

Well, give yourself a break and see how you feel after some time passes.  You don't have to absolutely define yourself today or be with someone of either sex.  Take some time to think about this and see where you are at with it down the road.

And if a therapist is available as Londres says, it may give you some clarity.  good luck

[tammyboy27]

Do you feel that I suffer from some mental problem???

[RainLover71]

No,you don't have a mental problem at all,you are trying to find yourself that's all.Go with your heart on this one. All the best.

[tammyboy27]

Thanks !!!

[specialmom]

Let me ask you this----  are you feeling depressed about trying to understand who you are?  I know that can be hard emotionally.  

Being confused is something that happens to many who are trying to figure themselves out.  Talking to a therapist helps you to do the sorting.

But just being confused is not any indication of a mental health issue.

I do hope you figure it out and are happy with the conclusion.  Peace.

[Londres70]

In this case consulting a counselor for issues that are causing angst doesn't mean you are "nuts" or "crazy" or "out of your mind" just means you need help trying to make sense out of your feelings, thoughts and actions.  

I am not sure if you are having issues trying to figure out whether you're a gay man or a bisexual man or if you are asking is it ok to be/feel this way that's why I recommended talking with a therapist.  

[tammyboy27]

I don't find it emotionally hard or depressing .However I just want to known my sexuality? I have gay friends.I have no problem if I am gay,bisexual or straight.I also want to know is it possible that our sexual preferences changes?

[specialmom]

I'm glad you are not depressed about this and instead are just soul searching.  I would honetly just sit with it without trying to absolutely define yourself right now.  Things may become more clear to you as time goes on.  

I would imagine if you are bisexual that at some point you'll lean more one way than the other.  Also, if your goal is to at some point have a permanent relationship, you'll hopefully choose someone you deeply love whether male or female and then the choice is made.  It is based on THEM and not their sex.  

gooduck and in this day and age, it is okay to evolve and figure out who you are.  I wouldn't marry until you are sure though but it sounds like that type of decision is a long way off.  

[Londres70]

Sure it is possible for sexual preferences to change; sounds like you are bisexual because you aren't exclusively considering yourself straight or gay.  

[deadmemory]

May I ask a personal ?

Was there any sexual abuse in your past? There was a lot in my past and I did have a hard time deciding my sexual orientation.. but I found the love of my life and father of a beautiful DD 3 years ago...

Hoping you find clarity and peace. No matter your sexual orientation.. it doesn't define who you are as a person..

Hugs,
Krystal