If i was close to a guy that was cheating, i would say something, or not, depending on how i felt. I wouldn't put myself out there if i thought it would cause me any serious unrest. You're situation is complex and we can't know all the ins and outs of it.
I think it's right that you are and not invite adults that were not able to enjoy themselves, together , at a party , especially if all of our kids were involved. Frankly, they might even appreciate been given a break from the stress. They should be spending that time on getting their own stuff sorted out.
Sorry to hear your friends are causing you grief. Hopefully everybody involved will find their true place in this world. It's sad when our friends are not truly happy and as settled as we'd wish and pray for them.
You're doin' good girl. Trust yourself, you have good instincts.
I said I "hope" you won't tell NOT that you will tell as I am not there and I don't know what you will do.
If this is causing so much discord and stress why deal with these people? Why not put the relationships on temporary hold until you can really figure things out and do what's best for you? If you and your husband's convictions are so strong about this then why even continue the friendships? Dealbreakers apply to romantic relationships and platonic relationships.
Again, distance yourself from the situation and stay out of it. Tell your friend you don't want to discuss the issue and you don't want to be involved in ANY way. AGAIN................make boundaries if you want to keep the relationship. It is possible to be her friends and have boundaries in regards to this. DO NOT confront your husband's best friend period as you will just matters worse. If you let him know you know then you risk the possibility of him pressuring you not to tell and your female friend might follow suite. Unless you are a counselor you can't do anything for them.
Find more uplifting and drama-free people to interact with because hon life is too short.
First of all, I did not say I would tell their significant others, I was considering confronting my husbands buddy, who I actually grew up with, was best friends with his sister in high school and have always been like a big sister to him, secondly I will not have them both in my home at the same time knowing what I do bc my husband and I agree she would see that as me condoning what is going on. I did not invite her and her husband bc we are having 20 other people and the tension between this couple is intense. We went to a basketball game with them two weeks ago and not only my husband and I but their teenage children were very uncomfortable, the car ride was intense. I do not want that atmosphere in my home while we are watching my sons team play in the big tourney. I can't invite Him bc I can't trust myself not to be rude to him. I was once in the position of his girlfriend, but as a wife, it is heart breaking and he knows it's wrong. He knows something is up. His gf and I are spending Saturday together bc our boys are in a 3 on 3 tournament. I will not even talk about it with her but he texted me and asked me if I was going and if I had spoken to C ( my friend) today ( yesterday) . My husband did call him last night and spoke with him in a nonchalant way about the situation. Did not come out and tell him we know it's him but did suggest having a bunch of guys over Sunday for card game on her husbands night off bc he is stressed and needs a guys night. We will see
There are consequences to a person's actions, and i'm sure that they'll figure out why you'd be uncomfortable inviting them. No worries. You don't have to anything other than perhaps, you feel uncomfortable talking about why, you'd just rather not get into it. That's your right. Have fun with the kids.
Oh my, what kind of friends do you keep? Sounds like nothing but drama and trouble PLUS no one is faithful to one another, so why do want involvement in this would be my question to you? You might want to reconsider your friends.
Did these people ask for your intervention?
I think you need to back away from this; stay out of it. These people are supposed to be adults, so let them handle this. And NO, you shouldn't confront him. All you would be doing is perpetuating the drama and putting yourself in the eye of the storm so to speak. Do you want that for youself? You cannot FIX this.
If they are coming to you with these heavy and convoluted situations and you want to help then I would suggest you direct them to a therapist as you aren't one and ONLY a professional should be helping them sort this nonsense out.