Do you believe?

[specialmom]

So, my new thing for the new year . . .   positive attracts positive and negative attracts negative.  Sure, we've all heard that for years . . .   but what do you think about it?  I have done a good deal of reading as of late and there really does seem to be something to it.  I listened to a podcast from a well known financial planner that said her number one tip is to think of your top financial goal, write it on paper and tape it to where you get ready for the day (bathroom mirror).  She said her clients who did this had a much higher rate of succeeding in their goal. I find that fascinating!  I'm trying positive attracts positive with my relationships.  With my husband.  I am focusing on what is positive.  I'm focusing on being positive.  And seeing if it is returned to me.  :>)  So far so good.

What are your thoughts on this in your relationships and life?  

[specialmom]

It does when you let it.  

I'm experiencing good things with trying to remain more positive in my long term marriage that was already stable and happy.  Who doesn't want to be happier?  

I guess you are saying that being negative works for you and that is great if it does.  

[manroot]

Once you're happy and stable. There's not much to fix. Not sure what this topic is meant to do but brag about your happy life that just gets happier and happier by spending all your waking hours on the net. Sounds a little too happy to be true.

[manroot]

See, I'm proving a point, positive attracts negative & negative attracts positive. If we had agreed, this topic would have died long ago. I get to up my post count by making your positive thread negative, while at the same time making this negative forum positive. It's a psychological lesson based on impulsive behaviors. Impulsivity is a sign of low mood, clinginess, and general insecurity. That's why I should get off the net and be positive, because this forum ***** the life out of everyone on here. This is a void, that should be avoided at all costs. Live and be free from the net. lol bye mom.

[RockRose]

Well,  manroot,  looking through your profile it does look like you struggle with negative thought processes,  and that may be why you decided to post in this thread.

Like you,  I've found that writing down negative thoughts gets them out of my head.  I have very vivid dreams,  every single night,  and about half are negative.  First thing in the morning,  I go to my computer and write down the dreams,  and then they are truly gone from my thought process.  If I don't do that,  I'm kind of dogged by them all morning until about noon.  Makes for some pretty slow starts.  So that does work,  on paper,  out of mind.

But I really think you might benefit from trying to look for the positives.  Whether you're christian or not,  doesn't matter,  people from all belief systems believe you can direct your attention toward positive and away from negative just by looking for positive ideas.

It's both Christian "seek and ye shall find" and secular,  "if you expect to find something you generally will".  

I think if you took just literally one day,  and everywhere you went you looked for the positive - someone being a caring parent,  a beautiful flower,  a funny bumper sticker,  a sweet smiling dog.  Catalog in your head what you see that's positive,  and dismiss the negative thought patterns.

It's really amazing how much better you feel.

[specialmom]

ha ha manroot, you think this is some kind of attraction we have going on?  Pretty sure neither of us are feeling that.  So, really, not sure any point was proven.  :))  

Okay, have a positive and happy day (or try to).  

[manroot]

That's just part of the job description living with Bipolar illness. Most of the time I get to be extremely negative and cynical, every so often there's a brief moment of positive, and in some instances I even get to look forward to going psychotic. Life is exciting that way. Especially when moods fluctuate all over the place with every post. I think today I'm feeling a bit irritable, moody, and impulsive. It's probably because I'm somewhat manic and it probably means that the mood stabilizer I'm on needs to be doubled or something. I kind of debate myself as to what would be the best option: torture people, burden them, or numb me from myself. What's my best option? All of the above...

You can kinda tell from my post this instant that I'm seeing the world through the gloom and doom lens. At this stage, looking for anything positive isn't really in my vocabulary. Except for one: I am so glad that I'm not suicidal anymore. The medication I'm on prevents me from going down that path. No amount of writing or therapy can help with that. It's my brain that is the malfunction. If I weren't negative, there'd be no positive to live for.