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Does he like me should i wait for him to call
I have been seeing a guy for 3 weeks. He comes over every day and stays the night sometimes. Every time i see him it is like he is looking off into space. He sit on the porch says he loves me. He looks so depressed and something doesn't seem right. His eyes sometimes are weriod looking, like he has done some type of drug. It is hard to talk to him when he comes over cause he looks like he is just out it. We have been having sex and he tells me he loves me. Either he is drinking every day, depressed about not having work, or on some type of drug. I text him and call him after work and lunch time. he told me to call any time, should i just wait for him to come to me? what if he doesn't that would hurt what if he was waiting on me to call
Well, bipolar can make you do things you wouldn't do. I went through this about six years ago with another man just the same but he took all my money i did drugs my mother took care of my daughter. the only thing that saved me was him dumping me and now I realize how stupid I was. I still for some reason think he is good but can't see passed the bad. Maybe if I get on match.com i can see just how many nice guys there are out there. who wants to be called a MF and when he was drunk the other day he said he was going to go meet his hor, what - it seems as though i feel like i want to save him because i know how it is to feel bad and i want to help but i can't he has to help himself. i have done so good i am closing on my house next week - i did this with out a man.
you're already sleeping w/ him regularly?! you don't even know him! you're thinking he's on drugs or something but you allow this man to still come into your home and sleep w/ you?! you've knowingly and willingly befriended a weirdo? bipolar disorder makes people do this???
my goodness, i can't really respond to this post. people are so quick to try to blame behavior issues on something else while im sure that you are simply really young and very naive. poor thing
my goodness, i can't really respond to this post. people are so quick to try to blame behavior issues on something else while im sure that you are simply really young and very naive. poor thing
Let's break this down and you tell me what your decision should be ok.
* 3 week relationship
* He is spacy, depressed, something seems wrong ( DING, DING, DING....RED FLAG!)
* He's eye's don't look right, possible drug use, looks out of it. ( DING, DING,
DING....RED FLAG!)
* Concerns: possible drinking, unemployed, drugs. (DING, DING,DING....RED FLAG!)
Save yourself the pain of stress, undependability, broke, heart break. This guy is not good for you. If you stay with him, it will be a matter of time where his true colors are going to surfice. Get out while you can in the early stages of the relationship.
There a thousands of great guys that have a job, are clean in their living style and can wait to love you for who you are. Dump him or he will either cheat on you or dump you.
* 3 week relationship
* He is spacy, depressed, something seems wrong ( DING, DING, DING....RED FLAG!)
* He's eye's don't look right, possible drug use, looks out of it. ( DING, DING,
DING....RED FLAG!)
* Concerns: possible drinking, unemployed, drugs. (DING, DING,DING....RED FLAG!)
Save yourself the pain of stress, undependability, broke, heart break. This guy is not good for you. If you stay with him, it will be a matter of time where his true colors are going to surfice. Get out while you can in the early stages of the relationship.
There a thousands of great guys that have a job, are clean in their living style and can wait to love you for who you are. Dump him or he will either cheat on you or dump you.
From the way you describe your relationship only after 3 weeks? Red Flag, Red Flag! If you are lucky he will not call you and you will not call him. NEVER sleep with a guy right after you meet him? You have not known him long enough to be able to decipher what kind of person he is or even if the relationship should continue! You jumped in with both feet and make yourself appear desperate for male attention. So much drama for so short of a relationship, Run for the nearest exit.
yes i got on new meds i increased one last night. I am at a point where I can make wrong choices and this may be one of them he confuses me and I want to cry all day. i wish i was better.
Are you on your medication kris for bi-polar disorder? Maybe you should talk to your therapist about the dosages. I think you need to take care of yourself first before you can get involved with anyone. You're too fragile right now emotionally. You could get very confused and mistake someone's real intentions. Its been 3 weeks. Of course he's rubbing on you and hugging you, he wants sex. It may feel good in the moment but look at all the stress you've undergone in just this first month regarding this relationship. Stop looking for men to make you happy, YOU need to make YOU happy first. We all want to feel loved but if it's not a healthy relationship, that loved feeling is short lived. Just be careful.
If this is the same guy, this was from a post from you a month ago and this was my response to you:
"He is a felon, shot and killed a guy in self defence, he says, 4 years in jail. He does not have a checking account but says he is getting one. I have seen money lots in his pocket. He lives in a crapy place. I don't know he says he loves me" "his wife died in the bed next to him from an over dose on pain pills that he gave her money to buy??? that is what he told me. then 10 days later the other guy that lived with him died from the same overdose"
Yikes, he doesn't sound so good hon. And in all honesty, he sounds like a drug dealer. No checking account and a ton of money in the pocket and people dying from overdoses around him. This is not a good person to have around your kids. He shot someone, which means he owned a gun. If it was self defense, there would be no jail time. So in what ways was it self defense? You have to see the red flags here right? Please re-read what you wrote and think over this person. I know everyone has their past and it's wrong to judge everyone for the things they've done but you still have to question what type of person they are.
"He is a felon, shot and killed a guy in self defence, he says, 4 years in jail. He does not have a checking account but says he is getting one. I have seen money lots in his pocket. He lives in a crapy place. I don't know he says he loves me" "his wife died in the bed next to him from an over dose on pain pills that he gave her money to buy??? that is what he told me. then 10 days later the other guy that lived with him died from the same overdose"
Yikes, he doesn't sound so good hon. And in all honesty, he sounds like a drug dealer. No checking account and a ton of money in the pocket and people dying from overdoses around him. This is not a good person to have around your kids. He shot someone, which means he owned a gun. If it was self defense, there would be no jail time. So in what ways was it self defense? You have to see the red flags here right? Please re-read what you wrote and think over this person. I know everyone has their past and it's wrong to judge everyone for the things they've done but you still have to question what type of person they are.
you really thing he sells drugs???? why am i so sad because he didn't text me back today yet. i don't want to feel this way. i want to be happy, i want to be with him. maybe i have a problem with myself. I hate who I am. I just thought he could be the one, but i am so blinded by everything and living in la la land. I am just about to cry because I haven't heard from him. what is wrong with me. i know he is not perfect but he hugs and loves on me and i want that so bad i look past everything. i am just so so sad.
The first 3 weeks of a relationship should be fun kris. If it's not fun there is something wrong. This guy has so many red flags it isn't funny. Yes, I think he's on drugs. He's had drug problems in the past right? His ex-wife died of an overdose. We have even established that he's probably a drug dealer. You can't fall in love after 3 weeks of knowing someone. It is lust and like but not love. You are headed in the wrong direction here and you are repeating the same mistakes you have made in your past relationships. I suggest you seek some sort of counseling for yourself to understand why you stay with these types of men. You shouldn't have to cheer anyone up, it's not your job. Good luck hon.
you think so!! He just always looks worried. I am depressed myself and damn i try to lift him up and he just can't see to laugh. The only time I see him happy if he is drunk and he can be mean at times. I just texted him and got nothing back. I think he does this on purpose :( I think this mean either he is doing it on purpose or he just didn't hear it go off. Or he is doing something. The evening time is when I call three times and still don't get an answer. He really looks odd in the evening.
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